10 Tips On How To Heal From Depression

I was at a function last week and the discussion turned to the emotional well being of today’s teenagers. Someone in the group mentioned that they knew of 5 teenagers that had taken their lives in the last year. Adding to that I mentioned how I was also invited to assist with a high school in northern NSW that had 10 students take their lives in the last 2 years.
The sad news is this isn’t confined to teenagers. Its seeping across the whole of society. We have more affluence than we have ever had access to in the history of humankind and yet we have such unbelievable levels of depression and suicide rates. I know that statement means carries little weight though. I know what its like to be deeply depressed and contemplating if life was worth living, and having access to affluence didn’t mean a thing to me. I recall being curled up in a ball on my bed, in a dark misery and self loathing, thinking of the option of not living through this. At one point I was trying to think of all the reasons why I should be happy to help get me out of this state. I had a multiple 6 figure salary, a secure job, a beautiful home, a stable family upbringing, good relationships and on paper an ideal lifestyle. Yet I was miserable. I was deeply depressed. I contemplated not living.
Depression can hit anyone. Young, old, rich, poor. You name it. And yeh, it’s brutal when it comes knocking. There are many factors that contribute to depression as presented here from the Lifeline web site:
* Relationship problems or conflict – e.g. separation/divorce, difficult/abusive relationship
* Job loss, especially long-term unemployment
* Loneliness or feeling isolated
* Excessive drug or alcohol use
* Having another family member who has depression
* Having a serious physical illness
* Changes in how the brain functions
* Personality factors – e.g. anxiety, low self-esteem
Ultimately the end result is that there are low levels of oxytocin and serotonin in the body which leads to a feeling of sadness, depression, emptiness and disconnectedness. The good news there is a way out of that dark abyss. Admittedly there is no magic pill (some doctors may think otherwise) but with a holistic approach there is every possibility that one could come out depression and live a lighter, happier existence. Here are some steps that I took that helped me find my way out of depression:
  1. Daily meditation. This plays a huge part in me feeling happier again. When you are stressed and anxious your body doesn’t produce the happy biochemicals of serotonin and oxytocin. It will produce cortisol, and adrenaline which cuts off your happy chemicals. So the first step is to start finding ways to remove the stress response in the body and meditation will help enormously with that. You can use an app, online programs or ideally, find a qualified meditation teacher who will take you through the steps of learning to meditate.
  2. Regular exercise. This has been scientifically proven to change your biochemicals and increase your happy chemicals in your body. (Black Dog trial ) Not only is exercise good for the increase in happy biochemicals it also is a great release of stress which leads to calmer healthier body and better sleep.
  3. Yoga and stretching. Sitting in a chair most of the day and being stressed will tighten up the body and block the flow of energy through the body. Yoga and stretching will open up the body, calm the mind and realign the body back into a healthier space
  4. Avoid negative media and dark depressing movies and books. Where you attention goes it grows. So if we put our mind on negative depressing content, our mind and body will start to align with the energy of that.
  5. Get off technology and get into nature. Shutting down our phones, iPads, laptops and nature bathing is a powerful way to elevate your energy. When we are in forests, oceans, meadows…anywhere in fresh air and in the simplicity of nature, we start to sync into that local environment which will leave you elevated and enlivened.
  6. Get some natural supplements into you. The American Agriculture Association admitted that there is 60% less minerals and nutrients in our fruit and vegetables than in the 1960’s due to the amount of over farming in the last few decades. Not only that, society in general is eating less fruit and vegetables and more processed food. Boosting your food with supplements with vitamins, minerals and herbs can make a big difference to your moods. For professional advice on this seek out a naturopath in your local village or even try online.
  7. Speaking of foods, stick with more locally grown fruit and vegetables from your growers market, and eat plenty of clean organic live food possible. Avoid greasy fatty foods, processed foods, gluten, caffeine, alcohol and refined sugars where possible.
  8. Sleep! Sounds sensible however we are now sleeping on average less than we ever have. Sleep plays such an important role in healing your mind and body from the stress response and increasing your feeling of wellbeing. I’m all for the afternoon nap just for 20 mins also if you can fit one in.
  9. Open Up To Family and Friends. You may feel like withdrawing from the world, but it’s those precious relationships that make all the difference. When you share your vulnerability and connect, it deepens the bond with them and builds love. There are people in your life that care unconditionally for you. Reach out and let them in. (By the way, it’s been proven that hugs increasing serotonin and oxytocin)
  10. Be active. Sitting in a dark room or curling under your doona all day is what you might feel like doing but it’s not going to help you. Get up and get active. Start doing things. Buy some plants and plant them around your suburb. Volunteer at a local charity. Walk someone’s dog. Go to the zoo. Join your local library and read a book. Find a meetup group and join it. Mow someone’s lawn. There are plenty of things we can do each day that will help you lift out of that dark night and move forward.
Depression can not only take control of your life, but it can also affect many people around you. We can heal from depression, but it will require some action. Doing the same thing over and over again won’t bring about a different result. Keep trying new things, see what works for you. If you are suffering depression, it is recommended that you seek professional help. Have someone to talk with. There are many support facilities around the world that are there to help you through this. You don’t need to do this on your own so please reach out to someone for help.

 

Tom is a meditation teacher, author, corporate speaker and personal coach. He provides one on one coaching as well as group coaching in his Zen Academy for Transformational Leadership. To contact Tom about receiving his guidance or booking him to speak at your company click here.

A Video I’d Rather Not Have To Make

It is with deep regret that we recently see another member of our community take their life leaving behind very sad family, friends and colleagues. The ripple effect of this is huge. Their deep depression and ensuing action to end that pain spreads far and wide. This person had been using medication for depression and bi-polar however it wasn’t enough to remove the darkness.
Is there more we can do when we are faced with this dis-ease and dis-connect? What else can we do to support us through these dark times and help us come out the other side into the light?
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If you are experiencing anxiety, panic or depression then here is my free book to help overcome these. This book reveals a wholistic approach to living a calm, happy and purpose-filled life.

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How Meditation Can Help Cure Depression

Depression is fast becoming a global epidemic. You may have experienced it at some point in your life or know of someone that has. Currently in the USA 1 in every 10 people suffer depression and a recent article from India suggests that for Indian women it is now 1 in 4!

A lot of this is a result of the increase of stress in our lives. In this video I share with you why depression has risen so much in our society and how meditation can help reverse this situation. If you know of anyone that is suffering depression please share this with them and let them know there is hope. And if you have some thoughts on this subject, please share them with us below the video. I’d love to hear from you.

If you’d like to try meditation to help with stress, anxiety or depression, you might like to try my 21 day meditation program called Faster Deeper Bliss.  You’ll receive daily guidance from me PLUS receive 37 support videos, ebooks,  and a yoga video! By the end of this course you will be totally trained in the art of meditation and living a more peaceful happier life.

You’ll also receive 30 days COMPLIMENTARY access to my Inner Sanctum group coaching program.

We receive testimonials like this below every day from all over the world.

“Dear Tom, Just to say you have changed my life! I started meditating with your technique in May of last year. I have been religiously meditating every day. My life has been transformed. I am a better, more peaceful, thoughtful, nicer person. In my 59 years on this planet, I have finally found ‘IT’ ….through you. Thank you.” ~ Kate

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How To Find Your Light During Dark Times

LightOh the pain, the angst, the suffering.

Sometimes it can sweep over you like a long dark night that doesn’t want to end. I recall spending much of my life immersed in that darkness. How about you? Have you had times where it engulfs you? Even if it’s for a day or a night?

This darkness is your shadow side, and it’s ok. See for you to have a shadow there must also be light.

This week I picked up one of my favourite books, Emmanuel’s Book, off my bookshelf and opened it up on a page.

I often do this with books to see what it offers me for that day. I found this page so beautiful and inspiring that I wanted to share it with you.

“It requires an initial leap of faith to see another reality in the experience of pain.

Pain and darkness are extremely compelling.

You have physical bodies that ache and sometimes scream.

You have emotions that seem to tear you apart.

I urge you in those times of such stress, ask yourselves who is it that is experiencing this.

And the ‘who’ that is aware of the experiencing, not lost in it, but aware of it,

will be the bearer of the Light.”

Pain is a great force that is here to guide us to a new level in our life. It is our cue to shift our awareness, and see things in a different way. Of course, it is easy, so easy, to stay immersed in that pain and let ourselves drift further down into negativity. But when you find that courage to lift your awareness out of the “Why me?” and find a strength to envision a new reality of the future, then you will start to see a new reality unfold.

No, this is not easy, but it’s our work. As Emmanuel says, ‘It requires an initial leap of faith’.

You are the light. The light that is the observer of the shadow. Take some time to sit with this, meditate, contemplate, and develop your strength of being light. It will come.

What techniques do you use to help dispel the darkness and reveal your light? Please share with us below.

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