How To Bring Back The Love On Valentine’s Day

Today is Valentine’s Day, a global day of celebration for love. Although for many people, whether they get a big bunch of flowers, chocolates or fancy dinners or not, feeling love simply won’t happen today.

There’s one big barrier to feeling love….FEAR. Having spent a lot of my life in some state of fear or anxiety I know all too well that the feelings of fear and love cannot co-exist simultaneously. We may feel one, or the other, but not both at the same time. We can have the most wonderful partner in our life but if we are in a state of fear or anxiety, then love will be absent and a feeling of disconnect will take over.

It’s a remarkable design of the body to protect us from dangerous situations. Our body’s primary objective over everything else is survival. If we are faced with a marauding tribe or a sabre tooth higher on the open plains, our body would immediately shift into sympathetic nervous system state. This would change the brain functionality from the frontal lobe of creativity and intuition into the survival mode of reptilian brain. Our breathing would change, our pulse would beat faster and our blood sugar levels would increase. But more importantly, our biochemistry would change. Our body will start pumping cortisol, adrenaline and norepinephrine into the blood and cut out any release of melatonin, serotonin and oxytocin. Oxytocin is the biochemical responsible for generating the sensations of love, empathy and kindness. When faced with a dangerous situation that may require you to fight or flee, the sensations of kindness, empathy and love are not going to be very useful at this point so for efficiency, the body shuts down any release of these biochemicals.

This is all well and good on the wild plains 10,000 years ago however in our nice comfortable and safe environment of modern day society, this extreme stress response doesn’t have the same requirements. I’m noticing ever increasing levels of anxiety, overwhelm and stress in the world today. With this will come reduced levels of empathy, love and kindness. This is a big price to pay, for a society without love empathy and kindness is not a society I’d like to contemplate too much.

There is a distinct correlation to feeling fear and egotism, ie. our attention being centred directly on ourselves. Anxiety and fear is all about the ‘I’, the ego. It’s extreme narcissism and when you are in that state of anxiety and panic, it’s very difficult to switch over to feeling love and kindness for others. In that state the ego demands all of our attention and everyone else’s needs get ignored. We shift from feeling part of a community, with the ability to feel connectedness with others, to being self-centred and self-obsessed. Anxiety and fear wreak havoc on our relationships, depriving the vessel of it’s most essential ingredient for it to flourish….LOVE. If even someone is showing us levels of love, in this state we are unable to feel it or acknowledge it.

There is a way to change this and it’s not by trying to feel love. That simply won’t work. Something has to happen before love enters the picture. We have to shift out of the sympathetic nervous system state to reduce fear and anxiety, so that oxytocin can be produced and love can prevail. If we want happy healthy loving relationships then we have to eradicate fear first. Sounds simple I know, however it does require some steps which I have listed here that can help reduce fear and anxiety in the body.

1. Twice a day meditation. When we quiet the mind, we move the body out of the hyper stimulated state of sympathetic nervous system state and into parasympathetic nervous system where the reversal of SNS occurs. The body spontaneously will produce more serotonin, melatonin and oxytocin in that quiet state. The challenge is that when we are stressed and anxious, sitting still in meditation can be quite difficult which leads me to the next step

2. Physical exercise. Work out, get up a sweat and burn off some of the cortisol! Sitting in a chair all day or slothing on the sofa aint going to cut it…you have to release those biochemicals that are expecting you to run from danger or fight your way out of it.

3. Re-wire your brain. Sounds like a complex process but really it means change the way you think. Our minds can default to fear based thoughts vey easily…mine certainly has a tendency to do this and so I’ve spent many years working on recoding my mind to think differently. Anxiety and fear is our mind distorting our currently reality and creating a fantasy world of future scenarios that aren’t real. So observing the mind and catching it before it leaps forward in to fear based fantasy land is key to being calm. As Eckhart Tolle says: “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and not enough presence.”

4. Connect with Being. This comes back to point one. In deep meditation we surrender our individual status and transcend all forms and phenomenon. WE become one with presence and pure awareness. We simply are. Amness. Being. Self. No story, no drama, no future, no past. In Being we become one with unconditional love. We discover we are love. It shines out of us. The ego or small self fades and what fades with it are all of its fear based sensations and thoughts. As Anita Moorjani said in her book ‘Dying To Be Me’: “I knew that was really the only purpose of life: to be the love that we are.”

Love is our essence and fear will hijack it from you. It’s like a thief that sneaks in and steals it from you and from your relationships. To reconnect to our lovingness, we have to remove fear first. Less fear more love. That sounds like a much nicer world doesn’t it? Happy Valentine’s Day!

 

 

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A Christmas Message With A Twist

We made a family decision this year…no presents at Christmas!

Yes, it will feel different, but in this time of year we were compelled to sit and contemplate what’s true for us and what’s a system of conditioning. Will we be missing out?

I shared a short video on Facebook. This message may resonate with you.

Enjoy!

Peace and light,

Tom

 

 

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How To Avoid Angry Confrontations

It’s very disturbing when someone gets angry with you isn’t it? Almost immediately you feel that charge in your body, your blood pressure increases, you feel the flush in your cheeks, your heart starts pumping and adrenalin is coursing through your veins. Your first reaction is aggression. You rise up to meet your challenger and you defend your ground and force back on them with equal if not greater intensity of anger.

Now we have a collision of angry energy that usually escalates as each party unconsciously is vying for supremacy in this angry battle. Before long the entire episode, that can take literally a few minutes, can not only change your day or week, but can severely damage the relationship for good.

The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way. There is a way to be a part of that exchange that doesn’t involve you dropping down into a negative angry space. And there are two really good reasons why it’s important that we do our best to hold our own space and not get influenced by other people’s energetic states.

Firstly, holding our own calm and compassionate space is much healthier for our body. When we change our emotional state into anger our whole body changes. We are moving into sympathetic nervous system state as your body is preparing for a battle. Your blood pressure increases, your breath rate changes, your heart starts beating faster, your blood sugar levels changes, your brain starts functioning from basic reptilian rear lobe, and your biochemistry changes as cortisol and adrenalin replace serotonin and oxytocin. Now our entire state of well-being and happiness has been removed and it could take the entire day to reclaim it back.

Secondly, when we merge our angry state with the person who is projecting their angry state onto us, we have removed any possibility of inspiring them to another alternative. There is no backing out now and what was one angry person is now two angry people. This can then have a multiplying effect as we share our new angry state with friends and family who can then also join in the angry movement. “Oh that just makes me so angry!” they may reply to your sharing of the situation. Now two becomes three and so on it goes like a nasty virus of mediocrity and negativity spreading across society. By not having autonomy and sustaining our calm non-reactive state we have removed any possibility of offering the angry person any other option. We missed the possibility of inspiring harmony and unity at a much healthier level. This is disempowering for you and not great for them.

So how do we avoid getting pulled into those situations? Well this is the challenging part that requires constant vigilance and awareness. The ego of course thrives in angry confrontation; this really enlivens the ego and gives it a sense of purpose. The ego is like woo hoo! I love this stuff! And then the ego hijacks your state. The key to preventing the ego from disempowering you is constant vigilance and awareness of what’s ego and what’s not. We need to differentiate between what is ego and what is our essential nature because if we try doing this by suppressing emotions, (a characteristic of ego) then that suppressed energy will seek a release in some shape or form at a later date.

Behind the noise of the ego is a silent witness, a quiet awareness that simply is. In Vedic teachings they call it AMness or Being. Connecting with that is done though the deep transcending meditation techniques that take the mind out of duality and into the silence, where there is no thought, form or phenomenon. Regular meditation will over time enable you to sustain the presence of this quiet awareness through even the most testing of times. Then when a situation arises, you will have your default state prevail and no ego hijacking you out of it into a reactive emotional state. From here compassion, kindness, rationale and calm will be able to prevail within you. This may help diffuse the situation quickly and offer some inspiration for your angry attacker as another alternative. If not, then the next best outcome is that instead of two angry people we only now have one.

A little disclaimer…this process takes time and practice. It’s not an overnight shift that takes place. Be easy on yourself if you find yourself getting swept away by emotional reactivity. And if in doubt, seek out some support and guidance through these situations that doesn’t involve dumping more anger onto your Mum, brother, colleague or best friend.

Oh and one more thing, sometimes we may need to respond in a firm forceful way. Certain situations might call for this. Doing this mindfully and resetting quickly back to calm after the incident will dramatically affect how you feel and it will wash you of the negative charge quickly.

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A Tip On How To Keep Your Sanity And Thrive While Being A Parent!

So you have just been through an intense few months of carrying a young human around in your belly, then you go through a 20 hour labour that is beyond any pain you may have ever experienced or will ever experience, you’re completely exhausted, then you are given a little fragile child to look after 24/7 with no manual!

Welcome to parenting! I realise this isn’t the way it is for everyone, but it’s how it was for my wife only it was slightly different, it wasn’t one child it was two! Being a new parent is an incredibly challenging time that can place a big strain not only on your own health and happiness but also on your relationship. Yet ironically it’s in this time that you really need to bond and support each other, and also have a heap of overflow for these beautiful little beings that have entered the world.

In this clip I share how meditation can play a big part in you getting through these difficult and challenging times. For instance, my wife would meditate while breast feeding during the night which would help throw off fatigue and release more serotonin and oxytocin into her body keeping her feeling elevated. So if you are about to enter into parenthood or are currently a parent check out this this clip below.

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10 Tips On How To Stop Your Partner Leaving You

coupleI worked for my previous employer for 26 years. Yup! One company for 26 years! Insane or smart, it’s open to discussion.

Now that might seem ridiculous but most of my colleagues there were also employees for 20-25 years. We are talking about a money broker (like stock broker) company that employed young staff straight out of uni and even some straight out of school. So how did a company in finance manage to keep its staff for so long? What kept us from leaving to go somewhere else?

I believe they had a philosophy that should not only be embraced by companies all over the world, but also translate to personal relationships.

Recently I had a coaching client come to me in a state of disarray. He ran a real estate business and he had just had 6 staff members leave his company to go to another company. He couldn’t believe it, he was shattered. Partly because his revenues took a hammering and partly because his ego took a hammering. I asked him, “Were you offering them the BEST option available in the industry?” He looked at me dumbfounded.

“What do you mean?” He asked.

“Well, if your place of employment offered the best option for anyone wanting to be in real estate, then they would have no option but to stay with you. There would be nowhere else to go. They obviously left for one reason only, there was a better option.”

I have to give it to ICAP, my previous employer. They knew:
1. That their bottom line was a result of good staff.
2. You need to keep good staff.

It’s a simple formula. It’s really not complicated. So they did everything they could to keep their staff. Here are some of the added incentives this company laid out for us:
– A full time chef who made us breakfast and lunch
– Shower facilities with fresh white fluffy towels every day
– Personal trainers twice a week
– Team building weekends away
– Partner dinners for our extended family
– A family Christmas day for client and staff families
– A percentage share in profits paid to us quarterly in bonuses

Yes other companies approached us all the time. And when you sit down with that ‘other’ company and discuss what they are offering, you weigh up not only the benefits that your existing company is offering you, but also the loyalty you feel to your company for their investment and goodwill in you. It became a no brainer, and why myself along with most other employees, stayed there for so long. My company simply was the best option…. full stop.

How can this translate to personal relationships? Ask yourself, “Am I the best option for this person?” Or, “Can they get a better ‘deal’ elsewhere?” Sounds very technical and businessy doesn’t it, but again it can be quite simple. If someone doesn’t want to be with you, ask yourself “Why don’t they want to be with me?” It might be that there is a miss alignment in values or differences in your lifestyles (people change and not always at the same rate). But it might be that you’re not offering them a very good deal. If that’s the case, what can you do to sweeten the deal? So rather than throwing in quarterly bonuses and some new fluffy white towels in the linen cupboard, here are some other ideas to help you be the best option for them:

1. Be kind and caring about their well-being
2. Be supportive in their life and encourage them with their goals
3. Contribute financially where possible
4. Openly communicative, so they don’t have to always second guess what you’re thinking
5. Bring lots of fun and laughter to their life
6. Inspire them with new knowledge that you are discovering in your own journey
7. Give them independence and personal freedom so they don’t feel caged
8. Contribute to the work load around the home
9. Be affectionate, passionate and tender
10. Be accepting of their flaws weakness and vulnerabilities

These are just some suggestions that could help you be the best available option for them. There will be plenty more and I’d love to hear any other suggestions that you might have so please leave them below. If they still want to go to another company or person when you feel you have offered the best option, then there are obviously other factors at play. But start by looking within and asking yourself if you are doing everything you can to be the best option for them.

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Why I Teach My Teenage Children To Be Rebels

Taj and LaurenI have a dilemma. You see I have two 15 yr old children (yes twins!). Wait, no, having teenagers isn’t the dilemma, although for some people they may feel having teenagers is! ?

No my dilemma is that I inspire them to push the boundaries, break the rules, question authority and be rebels, yet at the same time to adhere to the structures of living in our home and fitting into the rules and regulations of school.

This is not an easy task as a parent.

Why do I inspire them to be rebels? Because deep down I believe boundaries are meant to be leapt over, and some rules are meant to be broken. If I don’t encourage them to leap over boundaries how are they going to thrive and excel in life when their conditioned mindset is to be part of the pack, stay safe and don’t challenge anything? How are they going to find their own identity and belief systems when the are moulded by a hierarchal corporate driven society?

Sure, there are rules in society that are there for a very good reason. But there are many rules that restrict the growth of society as a whole. When these rules get challenged there is tension and friction, as the ones who set the rules push back on the ones that want to break them.

The challenge is determining which rules will enhance society and which ones will diminish society. I teach my children that there is this law called ‘karma’ which tends to be a pretty good force in this process. Many times in my life I broke rules, was a rebel and stepped across boundary lines only to have karma slap me in some way loud and hard. It was painful and I learnt a big lesson that that rule WASN’T meant to be broken. Trying to navigate through this mine field is not an easy process and most of our learning is through trial and error or developing intuition.

My son is a very talented artist and he developed a great affinity for graffiti. So I said that we would explore abandoned buildings together and that he was allowed to do graffiti art only on buildings that were going to be torn down and it wouldn’t have a negative impact on peoples lives. He agreed to these terms. Yes we were bending the rules but there were some rules within that. This was all working out well and good until one day he stepped over that boundary line and did some graffiti where he wasn’t allowed to. The boys in blue didn’t take too kindly to this and …..KARMA!

But I didn’t let this deter him. Sure he suffered some consequences. Me, the police and karma itself let him know that there was a boundary line you simply DON’T cross there. But deep down there was a part of me that was like, yes, push that boundary, test it and find out what’s on the other side. It’s ok. You’re going to screw up sometimes, and yes, it won’t always work out. But don’t let one fail make you spend the rest of your life living in the safe zone and never take the leap.

Get to the edge and peer over it. If you feel “Hmmm, nup, this is not right.” then trust that feeling and pull back. But if you get to the edge, peer over and go “Yup, I’ve got this and I know it’s a safe landing” then take a huge leap! If no one ever did this then Aborigines would still not be allowed to vote, African-Americans would still be sitting in the back of the bus and gay people still would still not be allowed to get married. (Technically in Australia they still can’t get married but I am putting on my prophetic hat and intending this to change very soon!)

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The 4 Most Important Words That I Said To My Teenage Children

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I’ve been surprised lately that in 3 separate conversations where I shared that I had teenage twins, I received a response of “Oh you poor thing!” or “Far out that must be challenging.”
Yet it has not only been the most enjoyable period of my parenting life, but also the easiest!

So this made me ponder as to why my experience parenting teenagers is so far from other people’s expectations of what it would be like. Of course they are surrounded by lots of love and as parents we communicate to them how much we love them all the time. But I didn’t feel this was the only reason that parenting teenagers was easier than others expected.

Then it came to me…I realised it was 4 words that I constantly say to my children that has helped my parenting so much. I feel these 4 words help them feel empowered and they get to realise that in many respects, they are the creators of their life.

These 4 words were “It is your choice.”

Ok, so now you’re thinking “What? You just let them do what they want?”
No, definitely not. But we do let them know there is a natural law of cause and effect. Every action has a corresponding reaction, and it’s their choice as to what effect they want to cause.

So when you study and do well at school you receive accolades and good marks from the teacher plus lots of nice words and positive vibes from your parents. When you respond rudely to your parents or don’t do what we ask you to do, you lose your phone for a week (yes a HUGE pain point!) If you say something impolite or negative about a peer you receive in someway something negative back. When you do something good for someone, you receive something good back. I explained to my children that it’s a flow of energy. Good goes out, good comes back. Negative goes out, negative comes back. It’s all energy playing out in forms.

When we sit down together and go through examples of this they can clearly see how this works. They can see the sequence unfold in their lives everyday and it never misses a beat. So now they realise that they are the creators. They are empowered. They get to choose…negative or positive.

Of course, it’s not perfect. None of us are, but it sure has made a huge difference by empowering them to realise that it’s not US against THEM, rather them and the Universe playing together as energy. It’s a bit woo-woo I know but they get it over time 🙂


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This Man Was Asked How To Raise Kids To Think Like You…His Answer Surprised The Host

This video I’m sharing with you today is one of the most compelling pieces of parental advice I’ve ever seen. Even if you don’t have children, or have had children and they no longer live with you, it’s still worth watching because it’s one of those nuggets of gold that will resonate with everyone.

It’s an extract from an interview with Vishen Lakhiani about his soon to be launched book, Code of the Extraordinary Mind, where he untangles deep-rooted belief systems that can ‘clog’ up our lives.

I hope you enjoy it and resonate with it like I did.

Peace,

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The Key To Manifesting Love

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”  – Rumi

Rumi was perhaps one of the greatest poets writing on love that this world has ever seen. And although he lived in the thirteenth century, his words are still incredibly apt today. When it comes to love and soul mates, it’s as simple as your beliefs. If you’re single and you think that you will never meet anyone, you never will. Or, you’ll meet people who reflect your own negative attitude towards love. But if you’re single and you believe that the person you are meant to be with is out there and you will meet him or her when the time is right, then that’s how things will happen for you. Manifesting love is like manifesting anything else – you have to put out what you want to receive from the universe.

Defeating Beliefs
Let’s look at this idea in further detail. According to the Law of Attraction, the people and things that we draw towards us throughout life reflect the vibrations that what we send out. That means that people who are single and want to meet someone or people who constantly seem to attract the wrong person are sending out messages that create those situations. Think about the following commonly-held love beliefs:

  • “I’m not complete without love.”
  • “I want to find my soul mate.”
  • “My partner doesn’t value me.”
  • “I will never meet someone.”
  • “Something is missing in my life.”

We’re conditioned to think this way about love, and to feel as though we aren’t whole until the time we are married or have met our “soul mates.” But this thinking is harmful and unfortunately, it’s not going to help anyone find love. The good news is that you can change the way that you think about love and relationships in order to attract love with the right person.

Step 1: Love Yourself
The way to go about doing it is simple, but it might involve a few changes in the way you see yourself. Essentially, you need to figure out how to be ‘in love’ with yourself and fully comfortable with yourself before you can do the same with anyone else. Emotional baggage, neediness, insecurities, and hurt feelings can only contribute to a relationship that reflects those states of being. Overcoming all of these obstacles on your own is the first step towards manifesting love.

Step 2: Change the Way You See Relationships
Ask yourself what you want to get out of a relationship. Then, recognize which relationship goals are selfish or shallow and which aren’t. For instance, do you want to be married because all your friends are married? Do you want to find someone to be with so that you don’t have to be alone? Or, are you looking for a “better half” who will “complete you?” You need to realize that you’re never going to attract the right relationship if you have these beliefs about relationships. Instead, you should see having a relationship with someone as a chance to grow and challenge yourself as a person. When you’re with the right person your life will inevitably be enriched by that person.

Step 3: Enjoy the Waiting
When you have the right attitude towards yourself and relationships, you don’t have a sense of impatience or urgency to find your soul mate. You trust that the person you are meant to be with is already yours and you will meet him or her when the time is right. That means living as though you are already in love and enjoying the wait for that person to enter your life. You should try to relish the waiting period.

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How To Make It Valentine’s Day Every Day!

loveHey Happy Valentines’ day!!

Yes to the Fellas also! 😉

Isn’t this the one day of the year we express how much we love someone?

And the other 364 days of the year we don’t do anything about it? That’s how it goes right??

Ok, sure I’m playing around a bit, but let’s look at our love model.

There’s a deep yearning for more love on our planet. Every day millions of people scour Tinder, RSVP, eHarmony and other avenues in the quest for that elusive love. For most people this is the ultimate quest in life, to find that one person to love us. The question is, what is compelling us to search for a relationship? If it’s coming from a place of lack and emptiness, or a hunger to be loved, then we are building a relationship on very unstable ground. When we relate for the purpose of seeking fulfilment, we are ignoring the completeness of who we are. Over time the cracks will appear and the demands placed upon each person to fill in that lack will create a huge burden on the relationship.

Each day you are in a relationship with thousands of people. From the person in the corner store you are buying your bread from, the bus driver, your colleagues at work, the dry cleaners, your family and your partner. Some are short relationships and some are life-long.

Every relationship is an expression of you and your energy. So pause and ask yourself, what is the energy you are in right now.

The truth of love is that it’s not something that we receive or don’t receive, it’s something that we realise we are or don’t realise we are.

When we realise we are love, that’s when we achieve the ultimate freedom.

This is true liberation, to walk as the embodiment of love. And all our yearning, all of our desires, the constant search, leads back to this one simple thing.

We are seeking to discover our Truth – We Are Love.

This is not love as an idea, but as an experience. This is an essence that wells up from deep within us. It surges up from our very core and flows outward to the world around us. Sure, love will come and go at times, and even feel like it is totally non-existent in your life. You may be engulfed in a dark hollowness where it feels like love has become extinct. This is our guiding force to nudge us to seek our inner light. We are here in the exploration of this Truth and reconnect to our Source. And the exciting news is you are closer than you think!

When you re-connect, you will walk in the glow of your inner-love every day, and it will never be taken from you, you will never need to receive it….because you will simply BE IT.

On that note, Happy Valentine’s Day! Please share with us below, what does love mean to you?

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