7 Tips To Realize Your Goals

Girl-SilhouetteWant to get clear on your life and know where you are going? In today’s article I’ll share 7 tips on how to map and create your destiny. It was inspired by this recent conversation with a friend.

It starts like this…

Typical Instagram post by me of one of my stunning sunsets in Sydney. A friend replies saying:
“You’re so lucky. I envy your life.”
I reply:
“ What life would you like if not the one you have right now?”
To which they said:
“That’s the problem, I don’t know.”

Admittedly I do have a life I am grateful for…yes it has many challenges but it also has many beachside days, healthy living, a purposeful career and lots of love in it. But this wasn’t just an accident that it unfolded this way. My life didn’t just accidentally ‘happen’ and NO it was not always this way. It is a constant process of assessment and strategy to create (insert the word ‘manifest’ if you wish) something like this. Yes it sounds very calculated and technical but if you look at most successful, healthy and happy people they generally have a system or series of steps they took to get there.

In Tim Ferris’ book Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers he says: “The most important trick to be happy is to realize that happiness is a choice that you make and a skill that you develop. You choose to be happy, and then you work at it. It’s just like building muscles.”

So I’ve had to work to get to where I am and I have to work to get to where I am going to be in the future. There’s no end point, simply a process. Like I said before, beyond the Instagram posts of cleanly sliced avocados, turmeric chai lattes and gorgeous sunrises over a beach somewhere, everyone, me included, will still face challenges and difficulty. Don’t let that glossy facade fool you. So today I felt compelled to share with you some of my systems and strategies that I use to continually enhance my life and also move through those challenging moments to get to the other side of the difficulty.

  1. Vision Board. I’m a visual person so I need to see the images of the life I’m intending to create. This doesn’t mean that you’re not present and grateful for the life you have, but simply acknowledge that life is a sequence, there is a future and that you want to be creative and have some input as to how that will look and feel.
  2. Gratitude Journal. Each night before I go to sleep I write in my journal, that I keep beside my bed, 10 things that I am grateful for that day. It could be someone I met that day, the sun, fresh water, my family, and the food that I ate. So many things! When we are grateful and acknowledge the abundance in our life, the Universe reciprocates and sends us more abundance.
  3. Assessing my goals daily. Each day I write down my goals, financial targets for my business and steps I need to take to achieve them. You can get very specific and the more specific the better.
  4. Physical Regime. Looking after my body is essential. Daily activity of some sort from yoga, swimming, surfing, weights or a gym session are all part of my success strategy.
  5. Meditation. Yes this is key. Expanding the mind and accessing that field of infinite creative intelligence helps me find solutions to problems and impulses of creative ideas for my business.
  6. Self-Assessment. Hey, I can be my worst critic at times. Its often we tend to beat ourselves up and this keeps us in those recurring patterns of limitation and self-sabotage. So checking in with yourself regularly and remind yourself you are here to do great things, you are worthy of a great life, you have so much to give humanity and it’s time to let go of that fragile little kid inside and step up!
  7. Accountability and support. Having someone to guide you and support you on that journey makes a huge difference! This person will be able to see things you might not yet be able to see. They will encourage you in times of doubt, and push you out of your comfort zone when you are getting a little too…well…comfy!

For some, success and a dynamic life requires commitment and structure. Sounds very formal for some, and if it works for you to just wing it and see how it flows, then do that. But if that hasn’t worked for you then perhaps some of these steps above might help. You might have some other suggestions which I’d love to hear about! Please share if you do.

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I Didnt Expect This To Happen When I Had A Phone Free Day

creativityI feel like Ari Gold from Entourage sometimes. Ari has an attachment to his body called a phone. He never goes anywhere without it. In every scene in every show it is in his hand. This is what my life is like at times. Now with new things like Instagram story being created, I’m being advised that I should be filming 6-7 times a day and posting it! Then there is Facebook, Facebook live, Twitter, LinkedIn, not to mention Whatsapp, emails, texts and Voxers to respond to.

Tired yet?? Welcome to life in the 21st century!

So feeling slightly overwhelmed by all this, I decided to research a day of completely not going near my phone to see how I felt at the end of it. What happened next surprised me.

See, what you are reading or looking at, like you are now, becomes the centre of your minds attention. It holds and owns your minds attention. You are reading these words that are coming out of my head, I type them into this blog and now your mind is placed upon them. So in effect, I have hijacked the centre of YOUR minds attention with MY thoughts and words. So while you are reading this, you are not reading or thinking about anything else. You are here with my thoughts, reading them. I have you. ?

This is happening all day long with our mind. While we read the paper, Facebook posts, Tweets, Instagram images, watching TV, even when chatting with friends. Our minds awareness has been occupied by something. So the question is, what if we remove all of that? What if there are no distractions like this for the mind? The mind will still be inclined to go somewhere; it will still feel compelled to be placed upon something. The mind is always looking for a focal point because this is what the mind does. So where to now for your mind?

Well this is what surprised me. Without something to distract it, my mind now had time and space to roam. There were no tight boundaries placed upon it like someone’s tweet or FB post. It could roam and wander wherever it wanted to go. And roam it did! I found that I had these very creative impulses and ideas bubbling up from that spaciousness. I had these great ideas for things that I wanted to do with my life. I cognised an entire teen meditation program which I called Chill Out Meditation, which I will be releasing soon. I had an idea for a book that I mapped out and then I cognised 5 out of 6 new modules for Year 2 of our Zen Academy For Transformational Leadership program. This was all in one day of not distracting my mind with somebody else’s thoughts!

Think of your mind like a little kid. These days we never let kids get bored. We are always distracting them with something, usually technology. When was the last time you heard a kid say “I’m bored.”?? We rarely do because we are afraid to let them get to that point. But look what happens when a child is in the bored state. Next thing you’ll find them building a cubby house out of pillows, or colouring in an old colouring-in book they found on their shelf, or making pretend mud pies in the garden. What happens? CREATIVITY. When there are no distractions, the mind will have the space to explore the infinite realms of creativity. The mind is no longer hijacked by someone else’s thoughts, it’s not pre-occupied by something else and is free to roam and explore the unlimited bounds of creative potential.

So if your life is directionless and lacking in spontaneity and creativity, perhaps give it some space for it to roam and be free. Don’t be afraid to let your mind be a little bored once in a while. You will be surprised by what happens next!

Here are some tips to help you create space for your mind:
1. Turn your phone off between 10pm and 7am
2. Leave your phone in your glove box while driving
3. Don’t look at your phone while walking
4. When in nature like the beach or park leave your phone in the car
5. If you are working out or exercising, try it without your phone
6. Try driving without the radio or podcasts on
7. Embrace silence rather than be afraid of silence.

 

If you are suffering from phone overload and need some further tips on overcoming anxiety then you can get your free copy of my book Faster Deeper Calm- How To Live Without Anxiety Or Panic by clicking here.

 

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Build Self-Discipline in 10 Days

 

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Day 1: Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.
If you would like to build self-discipline, the first thing you need to do is identify the areas of your life which are lacking. Do you have a soft spot for greasy foods or a tendency to spend too much time on the couch and not enough outside? You need to recognize the improvements you would like to make before you can use self-discipline to implement a change.

Day 2: Take one step at a time.
Nobody is perfect. There might be more than one change you would like to make in your life. Nonetheless, you should focus your attention on one thing at a time instead of getting overambitious and addressing too many things at once.

Day 3: Get motivated.
Before you can become disciplined, you need to feel motivated to change. Make a list of all the reasons why you would like to make that change in your life. Will you be healthier, happier, or more productive? Will the change benefit anyone aside from you? Your motivation will increase with every reason you come up with.

Day 4: Make a plan.
It’s easy enough to understand that you need to make a change in your life, but how can you actually implement that change? While making a plan to change you should identify all possible areas of weakness – when will you have difficulty sticking to your plan or saying no? Practise dealing with those situations.

Day 5: Change your mind.
Your mind is the biggest obstacle you’ll face while trying to build self-discipline. You have to learn how to overcome how you feel at any given moment, something that can only be accomplished through mental Stillness. By practicing Stillness on a regular basis, you can filter out the negative emotions that cause you to want to give up on your goal.

Day 6: Make it public.
Studies have shown that people who tell others about their plans or goals to change are more likely to go through with them. Not only should your friends and family give you support as you strive for self-improvement, you’ll be more likely to stick to your guns if you know that other people are invested in the outcome.

Day 7: Start small.
As you move forward with implementing your plan to build self-discipline, recognize that making a long-term change doesn’t happen overnight. Going “cold turkey” with whatever change you would like to make is sometimes too extreme, and you’ll find you can’t keep it up for a long period of time.

Day 8: Empower yourself through change.
Every time you make a positive step towards building self-discipline, no matter how small, recognize how empowering it is. It feels good to make good choices for your life, and your family and friends will be proud of you when you do the right thing.

Day 9: Evaluate your progress.
After a little over a week, evaluate how you’re doing. What did you struggle with in the last eight days? What did you do well with? By taking an honest inventory of your progress, you can identify the areas you will need to improve in order to build your self-discipline.

Day 10: Reward yourself.
Remember to reward yourself when you make the right choice. Choose a reward that is in line with your goal to change, i.e. if you’re trying to cut out junk food, reward yourself with a “healthy” junk food substitute that you enjoy, such as flavored rice chips or sorbet instead of ice cream. It’s important that you recognize your own progress and give yourself credit for all that you do.

You can build self-discipline in 10 days! The ten steps above should strengthen your inner resolve, it can also help you develop the mental strength you’ll need to implement change and maintain self-discipline over the long-term. If you would like some assistance with self-discipline then the Empowerment Series is for you! Here you will receive 3 x 1 hour audios on living a life of purpose, manifesting abundance, and finding love. You will also receive a companion book for notes and three ebook versions of the audios. Click here to find out more.  


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How to Build Self Discipline in Five Easy Steps

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Having self-discipline means having the ability to choose what you know is right, regardless of what you may be feeling at any given moment. If you’ve recognized the need for a change in your life – perhaps you would like to quit smoking, or eat healthier, or spend less time checking your email and more with your kids – self-discipline is what you need to implement that change and stick with it. There will be times when you feel the pull to have a cigarette, or break with your diet, or check your inbox one more time instead of playing soccer with your daughter, but you have to train your mind to overcome those urges and say no to whatever bad habit you would like to get rid of.

You can learn how to build self-discipline by following these five simple steps:

1. Take stock for change.
Before you can use self-discipline, you have to want to make a change in your life. Take stock of all the areas of your life and identify which areas could use some improvement. Do you eat healthy and exercise regularly? Do you enjoy healthy relationships with your family members? Do you want to learn something new but haven’t put in the time? When you make an honest evaluation of your life you can see where you stand to grow. You know better than anyone else what is best for you, and this knowledge can help you to identify where you might be going wrong.

2. Bring your awareness to your goal.
When you have your goal in sight, you need to bring your mental awareness to that goal. By cultivating Stillness through meditation, you can address all of the worries and anxieties that might be resting in your mind. You need to actively dismiss those thoughts that are defeating or pessimistic in nature, and Stillness Sessions can help you to do so. When you quiet your mind through Stillness you can easily overcome your basic conditioning. The Stillness Movement is a shift towards mindfulness that will help you to build self-discipline.

3. Plan to Change.
Make a detailed plan with regards to your goal. Remember to include a contingency plan to get back on track in the case of a slip-up or lapse. Try to go over the various situations you’ll encounter while trying to go through with your plan. For instance if you’re trying to reduce the amount of junk food that you consume, you might ask yourself the following questions:
• What is my personal definition of junk food? Which foods do I typically eat that I know are unhealthy?
• How will I control whether or not these items enter my home?
• What will I do when someone offers me one of the junk food items?
• Who will offer me these items (friends, spouse, co-workers, family)? How will I respond to them?
• Who will I tell about my goal to eat healthier (remember the more people you tell, the more likely you’ll be to follow through on account of social pressure)?
• When do I typically feel unable to resist these items (i.e. after lunch, after work, at social events)
• What will I allow myself to eat in exchange?
• Will I give myself a day-off from eating healthy?

4. Implement your plan.
When it is time to put your plan into action, start exercising your self-discipline. Remember that you may slip up from time to time, but one or two instances of failure shouldn’t be reasoning to give up your goal. Think of how great you feel each time you follow through with your goal and try to remember that feeling in times of weakness. Give yourself credit when you deserve it and remain focused on your goal if you lapse in the implementation of your plan.

5. Re-evaluate.
After a few weeks, see how things are going. Through your Stillness practice you can once again bring your awareness to the fears that might be lurking in your mind. Perhaps you slipped up a few times – think about what happened when you gave in and how you can prevent it from happening again. And when you cultivate mental Stillness on a regular basis your self-discipline will increase until you’ll no longer have to ask how to build self-discipline – you’ll feel it.

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How To Bring The ‘F’ Word Back Into Your Life

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I live in Bondi Beach. It’s an affluent beachside suburb of Sydney, Australia for those that don’t know it. When I say affluent, I mean pretty much everyone here has nice accommodation, good jobs, nice cars, overseas holidays, smartphones, we get to eat out in cafes and restaurants every week and we have a very comfortable lifestyle. To be honest, it’s not dissimilar from most suburbs across Australia right now.

I’ve been watching the refugee situation in Europe unfold and notice how many of those people literally walked out of their homes, cities and country with nothing but some water and clothes on their back.

It makes you want to say one ‘F’ word, but the one that I’m talking about is another ‘F’ word.

Frugality.

Frugality is a word we rarely hear in today’s western world. If you’re not entirely sure of what this word means, just to clarify it’s not an Italian pasta. It means to be economical, thrifty and not wasteful.

Personally I feel the hugely affluent lifestyles we have created in the last 30 years is a result of a massive debt bubble that at some point in time will come undone. (Just look at the chart on the US stock market…Uh Oh!) What will this de-leveraging of lifestyle look like when it does?

Well if we look at societies or times throughout history where they HAVEN’T been able to borrow huge sums of money, you will notice that they lived quite ‘frugally’. They were very conscious of how they used their existing resources so they could maximise what they had. Simple things like capturing rainwater and storing it, eating parts of plants or animals that we consider waste, using clothing as a means to warmth and protection rather than fashion statements and spending money they had earnt, rather than borrowed.

Ok, I’m a long way from being there, but the concept of frugality does fascinate me. It makes me wonder what would the planet look like if we consciously embraced a more frugal existence. What if we re-allocated our huge resources that go into the 80% of the food in the supermarket that has no nutritional value, (you think I’m joking…walk down the aisles of chips, ice-creams, cookies, lollies and soft drinks) to food that was improving our health? What if we re-allocated the huge sums of money that go into clothes that we wear 5 or 6 times before they are out of fashion, to something like sustainable energy sources? What if we re-allocated the billions of dollar spent on alcohol every day into global health initiatives?

By now you’re probably thinking being frugal sounds very boring. Well when I was studying in India I met a beautiful man called Swami Narayana. He lived in a tiny cave carved out of the side of a mountain by the edge of The Ganges. In his cave he had a few Vedic texts, a brass bowl for eating, a brass jug for water, a mat that he slept on and a little wooden box for things like a toothbrush. This was frugality to the max! Yet he was the happiest person I have ever met. He wasn’t bored because he experienced so much inner bliss. Is this the solution to the world’s environmental and economic issues?

If we became more conscious and happier inside would we still be allocating large sums of our money on food that deteriorates our health, clothes we rarely wear, and alcohol that depletes our brain functioning?

Does the solution to the planet’s environmental issues lie in a consciousness revolution?

Frugality might be something we can make a choice over today, or possibly it might be something we are forced into in the future. Either way, I might start the process now and prepare for it if it comes.

Are you in with me?

What would you do to live a more frugal existence?

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