Find Out How To Transform Pain Into Love

green growth after fire

Ok this may ruffle a few feathers but hang with me for just a minute. I was at Gabby Bernstein’s event last Saturday and there were a lot of people sharing their stories of pain, suffering, addictions, trauma and tragedy. Yes tears flowed and there was a supportive compassionate audience. I empathised with those attendees that shared their story because I recalled the time when I was experiencing similar things many years ago.

The question is, did the pain motivate them to buy their tickets to see Gabby? Did it motivate them to go in search for answers, to seek more love and more light in their lives? If so, isn’t that a good thing? I know it was the pain that urged me to start meditating each day. It was the pain that inspired me to change the way I was living and it was pain that inspired me to learn from others.

Is pain an essential part of our evolutionary process and something for us to not run from but rather embrace?

I recently had a green smoothie with a mate of mine who was telling me about a book called Antifragile. This book is all about how things can actually grow from chaos and disorder. In one review it says:

“According to the author, Nassim Nicholas Taleb, there’s an entire class of things that don’t simply resist stress but actually grow, strengthen, or otherwise gain from unforeseen and otherwise unwelcome stimuli.”

The principle here is that disorder, chaos, pain and challenges can actually lead us to a whole new level of growth. Think of this like two steps backwards then three steps forwards. Have you ever noticed a stock market rally on a chart? It’s not a straight line but a series of steps up, back, and then up again to higher ground. You can apply this to individuals, relationships, businesses and countries when there is openness and adaptability to progress and order.

Let’s look at some examples:

1. New growth is inspired after bushfire

2. A business that is struggling will look to change its operations and improve its margins.

3. A struggling relationship will start new levels of understanding and communication

4. You car isn’t running very well, you take it in for a service

5. You get the flu, and decide to rest and not push yourself so hard

6. You have anxiety and learn to meditate

7. You’re unhappy with your job and decide to find your life purpose and change careers

You can see these examples all through our society on a micro and macro level. In Vedic Philosophy there is an understanding that evolution has three forces operating within it. Brahma, the creative operator, Vishnu, the maintenance operator, and Shiva, the destructive operator. Shiva, this remover of irrelevance, is highly revered in India as it is seen as the key force of evolution. Without Shiva there would be no evolution. Shiva can be seen as this force of disorder that paves the way for Brahma, the creative force to enter and rebuild with a new level of cohesiveness.

Is it possible that rather than seeing disorder, chaos and suffering as a negative, what if we are able to see this is part of a sequence that evolution operates through? Each and every moment of discomfort is a guide to do something different and adapt. It’s our cue, a little (or BIG, depends on how resistant we are) nudge from the Universe to adapt and evolve.

I’ve been playing with this idea lately and there are many opportunities to test this. When you feel there is an area of your life that’s not feeling GREAT ask yourself, what is it inspiring you to change?  It could be the way you are running your business; it could be to do with your health, or your relationships. Which ever it is, rather than being glum and feeling crap about yourself, get excited that you are being guided to evolve and adapt. After all, there’s always and only evolution.

Yes, pain sucks. It hurts, and sometimes it feels unbearable. But it’s guiding us home. Isn’t that a gift?

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