Are You An Addict?

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As we are all friends here, let’s be really open and candid with each other. I have had many addictions in my life. If you know anything of my ‘previous’ life you will know those addictions led to darkness, anxiety and turmoil. And I’m not alone. Most of us have an addiction of some sort, only a lot of the time we just aren’t aware of it.

Are You An Addict?

Let’s be honest with each other. Think about your life, is there something that you feel you HAVE to have daily or weekly? Is there something that you crave and if you don’t get it, you feel empty and down? And when you do get it, you feel awesome! Perhaps it’s ice cream, chocolate, alcohol, sex, gambling, coffee, coffee, coffee…did I mention coffee???

So what drives this addiction?

The same thing that drives ALL of our actions, the quest for fulfilment.

Everything we do, is driven by the search for fulfilment.

I get really excited when people enquire about meditation in the hope to recover from an addiction. “YES!” I say. “Great news.”

Addicts make great meditators! Why? Because the driving force behind an addiction is to seek something else, a higher experience. My belief is that we aren’t actually addicted to the drugs, the alcohol, the coffee or sex. We are addicted to the sensation we experience when we are having it, and that sensation is one of an enhancement of life.

Admittedly, it doesn’t last long, which is why we have to return back to the source of what made us feel good temporarily and get another dose of ‘feeling good’. So when addicts learn to meditate with me, it’s like a light goes on in their head, their eyes sparkle and their energy shifts.
Yes! They just had the serotonin and oxytocin hit! BOOM!

Overcoming Addiction

In my first week of meditating it was like everything I’d been looking for in my life I was finding right here in the stillness. It was like I’d finally found home. What was I connecting with in the stillness that made me feel this way? I was re-connecting to me…the deep core of my very Being. Here, beyond my body and mind, I connected with something so vast and blissful. It was calm, it was loving, it was gentle, and the amazing thing was, it was in me.

My yearning for those ‘other’ highs started to fade as they became replaced by something much more charming and sustainable. What did that look and feel like? A deep inner calm and bliss. Sure, it wasn’t instant and permanent, more like a gradual fading in of calm and bliss, and fading out of addictions and need.

If you are able to acknowledge that yes, there are addictions in your life, then that’s ok, you’re doing just what all of us are doing, you’re looking for fulfilment. You’re looking to re-connect to YOU.

There, beyond your mind and body, beyond the layers of the ego, lies something so vast, deep and full of love. Meditation just so happens to be one of those portals that will take you there.

Are you ready to take the leap? Then dive deep into my powerful meditation program called Faster Deeper Bliss. This program has been changing people’s lives all over the world. People like who said:

“I want to pass on my profound gratitude. While positive things have been happening, today’s meditation was just amazing. I was only a few minutes into my meditation when an immense level of gratitude welled up in me. Tears rolled down my cheeks with overwhelming peace and excitement for these epiphanies. I am enormously grateful.” Julie B
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10 Reason’s Why I No Longer Drink Alcohol

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Tonight I’m heading off to a bar to see a friend perform live on stage. Many years ago a night like this would entail getting drunk, staying up late, and waking up feeling like crap the next day. (Sound familiar?)

These days however, it’s a different story. These days, I choose not to drink alcohol.

At first, when I stopped drinking, admittedly it was socially challenging. I felt awkward when people asked me what I wanted to drink and I’d reply a water or that I was fine without anything. It felt like the entire bar would stop in silence and everyone would look at me like I had just grown another head on top of my shoulders!

Over time I became more comfortable with my non-drinking status and so to did my friends. Whenever I would arrive at a bar someone would invariably order a water for me without even asking. Now, it’s gone to the point where if I was to stand at a bar with an alcoholic drink in my hands, I’m sure my friends would again look at me as if I had just grown another head on top of my shoulders!

Choosing to not drink alcohol is not a strict rule of mine; rather it is simply a preference of one thing over the other. I used to love drinking alcohol however now I don’t. Is it right or wrong to drink alcohol? That’s not for me to say. I don’t have any judgment about it because I drank it for years and loved it. However I have another preference now. And here are 10 reasons why I prefer NOT to drink:

1. I can drive everywhere and don’t have to stand around waiting for cabs in the cold and rain

2. I wake up feeling fresh, invigorated and energised each morning

3. It saves me a fortune!

4. I drink water when I am out now so I rehydrate rather than dehydrate

5. Drinking alcohol blurs the clarity of my mind and senses after 20 years of meditating

6. Drinking alcohol reduces the bliss chemicals of serotonin and oxytocin in my body, making me feel flat and heavy

7. It affects my sleep patterns by a) keeping me out later than my 10pm bedtime mark and b) disrupts my deep sleep state

8. Alcoholic drinks usually have high sugar content, which can lead to diabetes and weight gain (1 pint of cider contains the same amount of sugar as what the W.H.O. considers the recommended daily intake of sugar!)

9. It reduces function of my frontal lobe of my brain, whereby I mainly operate from my rear reptilian brain

10. It has been proven to actually reduce the physical size of my brain (See image of child’s brain of an alcoholic mother) whereas meditation has been proven to increase the size of my brain.

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So there you have it, 10 reasons why tonight when I am out I will choose to have a glass of water if I decide to drink anything at all. So if you’re heading out this weekend, you may want to weigh up the pros and cons of ‘getting wasted’ on alcohol. You’ll feel a whole lot better in the morning, your brain won’t have shrunk and neither will your wallet. Cheers!

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