Why Your Set-Backs Are AWESOME For You!

resilienceHave you felt that life is a bit of a challenge lately?

Have things just not gone your way or turned out how you expected it to?

Some days you feel you have been knocked down and it’s just hard to get back up again.

I know, I’ve been there before. So you get glum, you think “Yeh typical this has happened to me.” You think life sucks and spiral down into a deep malaise. Next thing you are making decisions that support your new predicament and the self-sabotage process starts all over again. You’re not alone.

The other night I asked the 80 people that turned up at my weekly meditation session if anyone was stressed or struggling lately…guess how many put up their hand? About 78 of them!

A big theme popping up for me lately is resilience. It’s really fascinating me that if we have the ability to look at our challenges and setbacks in a different light then it could completely change our life! I’ve played around with this lately and it’s remarkable how it affects your mood.

I’ve even applied this to my clients during their mentoring sessions in the Inner Sanctum and it’s like a huge light was turned on in their head. For instance, one client came to me with all sorts of health issues and addictions. He was beating himself up about that fact that his life had become this way. He had been spiralling into a deeper mess until he decided to come and see me. So I said “AWESOME! I’m so glad that your life finally became uncomfortable enough for you to go and do something about it. And now here you are. Isn’t that great?!” At first he gave me the weirdest look but when I explained it he started to see the value in it.

This idea has presented itself three times to me through three different people lately, which means to me that it is very relevant. First I was given a book by one of the leading brand specialists in Australia, Glen Campbell called Thick Face, Black Heart. This book discusses things like you’ve never seen before…it deals with resilience, how to have thick skin in the face of criticism, and how to keep firm with your vision and get back up when you get knocked down.

Then I was discussing with a very good mate of mine, Avnesh Ratnanesan, who is the Founder of Energesse, a book he was reading called Anti-Fragile that I mentioned the other day here. This book is all about not being so fragile, and realising that the process of 3 steps forward, two steps back then three steps forward is actually the sequence of life and when you realise this and embrace it, you’ll move through the steps back with great resilience and come out the other side with a whole new level of growth.

Then finally, I went to a great 1-day seminar held by Sam Cawthorn. This guy is a dude! He died in a head on car crash 6 years ago. He was revived; he lost his right arm and severely damaged his right leg, spent weeks in a coma, then a year in a wheel chair. Sam is an incredibly resilient guy, and saw this incident as a gift that enabled him to find an inner strength that he may not have known was there without this experience. He became a motivational speaker and was awarded Australian Youth of the Year. Now he travels the world presenting motivational talks on resilience at some of the largest business conferences on the planet.

Think of it being like those blow-up clowns that are filled with sand in the bottom. No matter how hard you hit them they just keep popping back up again!

So here’s the opportunity to test this. Find an area of your life that is, let’s say, a current challenge. Now this might not be the easiest thing to do, but try feeling some gratitude that you are feeling uncomfortable. Say to yourself, “This is such a blessing that I am being guided to tap into my resilience and discover my strength.” There is nothing that you can’t handle. You can get through anything life throws at you, and people like Sam Cawthorn are a testament to that. Unleash your resilience and surge forward. Then if you feel compelled, please share with us below how you’ve overcome an obstacle lately. It will be inspiring for us to hear about it.

And if you’d like some support working through this then please consider our mentoring sessions here. These will support you, inspire you and help you break free of those self sabotaging ways of thinking.

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How To Confront The Fear Of Ageing

Do you have a fear of ageing? Well, you’re not alone. We live in a society that is completely and totally obsessed with beauty and youth. Everywhere we turn, we face airbrushed models and people trying to sell us products to help us feel or look younger.

Instead of welcoming the wisdom and sense of acceptance that comes naturally with age, we are taught to look for superficial “quick-fixes” to stop the ageing process in its tracks. Women are instructed to turn to methods such as Botox plastic surgery, crash diets, and wrinkle creams in order to appear younger than they really are. And men try to combat mid-life crises with fast sports cars and younger women. Although often these things don’t fool anybody, we cling to them for comfort, as if to prove to ourselves that our best years aren’t behind us.

It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that you should fight the ageing process as much as possible. Unfortunately, that kind of response is only going to hurt you the older you get. If you can’t change your outlook, you might even find yourself facing depression as you get older. Instead of looking on the ageing process as a misfortune, why not embrace the natural benefits of ageing? The following tips will be useful to you if you are trying to confront a fear of ageing.

Tip #1: Embrace love.
The older you get, the more you will desire to share your life with others. When it comes to a spouse or life partner, you will naturally start to value that relationship more with age, and to place more emphasis on that connection. As you move through life with that person and you encounter both good times and struggles, you should start to feel less attached to superficial things, such as the way you look. Instead, you’ll begin to feel more concerned about how you act, and you should begin to naturally feel less selfish. The sense of peace, value, and contentment that you get from your relationships with friends, loved ones, and family becomes more important.

Tip #2: Cultivate your sense of spirituality.
We’re all spiritual beings, but in our youth we often fail to acknowledge this aspect of our existence. With age comes experience and maturity, and a lot of the time a deeper desire to feel spiritually connected to God and to others. The ageing process is a hint that the body won’t last forever; eventually it will expire and the spirit will live on. It’s natural to want to seek refuge in spiritual activities such as prayer or meditation. If you would like to learn more about how Stillness-centered meditation can help you overcome a fear of ageing, simply click on the link below:

Tip #3: Give your time to others.
As you get older, you get a clearer picture of what is really important. When you pass away, you will leave behind all of your material possessions – so what is the use in focusing on obtaining those things. The satisfaction you will get will be short-lived. Instead, why not leave a lasting impression by serving others? There are more than enough ways to help people, animals, and the environment, and you will get satisfaction in the knowledge that you’re leaving behind a legacy.

Tip #4: Promote your own wellness.
Just as an old car needs maintenance more frequently than a new one, so will you as you get older. But it’s nothing to worry about – you simply need to make sure that you give yourself a little bit more attention. Taking the time to get back on track when it comes to healthy habits becomes more and more important as you age. You should focus on eating healthy, getting a moderate amount of exercise on a regular basis, and stimulating your mind to keep it sharp. If you want to learn more about health tips that can help you to overcome your fear of ageing, simply click on the link below:

Is ageing on your mind? It’s been proven that meditation can increase telomerase in the body which reduce the ageing process. If you’d like to find out more about meditation sign up for these three free videos on meditation by clicking here.