“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
Rumi was perhaps one of the greatest poets writing on love that this world has ever seen. And although he lived in the thirteenth century, his words are still incredibly apt today. When it comes to love and soul mates, it’s as simple as your beliefs. If you’re single and you think that you will never meet anyone, you never will. Or, you’ll meet people who reflect your own negative attitude towards love. But if you’re single and you believe that the person you are meant to be with is out there and you will meet him or her when the time is right, then that’s how things will happen for you. Manifesting love is like manifesting anything else – you have to put out what you want to receive from the universe.
Let’s look at this idea in further detail. According to the Law of Attraction, the people and things that we draw towards us throughout life reflect the vibrations that what we send out. That means that people who are single and want to meet someone or people who constantly seem to attract the wrong person are sending out messages that create those situations. Think about the following commonly-held love beliefs:
- “I’m not complete without love.”
- “I want to find my soul mate.”
- “My partner doesn’t value me.”
- “I will never meet someone.”
- “Something is missing in my life.”
We’re conditioned to think this way about love, and to feel as though we aren’t whole until the time we are married or have met our “soul mates.” But this thinking is harmful and unfortunately, it’s not going to help anyone find love. The good news is that you can change the way that you think about love and relationships in order to attract love with the right person.
Step 1: Love Yourself
The way to go about doing it is simple, but it might involve a few changes in the way you see yourself. Essentially, you need to figure out how to be ‘in love’ with yourself and fully comfortable with yourself before you can do the same with anyone else. Emotional baggage, neediness, insecurities, and hurt feelings can only contribute to a relationship that reflects those states of being. Overcoming all of these obstacles on your own is the first step towards manifesting love.
Step 2: Change the Way You See Relationships
Ask yourself what you want to get out of a relationship. Then, recognize which relationship goals are selfish or shallow and which aren’t. For instance, do you want to be married because all your friends are married? Do you want to find someone to be with so that you don’t have to be alone? Or, are you looking for a “better half” who will “complete you?” You need to realize that you’re never going to attract the right relationship if you have these beliefs about relationships. Instead, you should see having a relationship with someone as a chance to grow and challenge yourself as a person. When you’re with the right person your life will inevitably be enriched by that person.
Step 3: Enjoy the Waiting
When you have the right attitude towards yourself and relationships, you don’t have a sense of impatience or urgency to find your soul mate. You trust that the person you are meant to be with is already yours and you will meet him or her when the time is right. That means living as though you are already in love and enjoying the wait for that person to enter your life. You should try to relish the waiting period.
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