Build Self-Discipline in 10 Days

 

corporate_meditationWould you like to have the inner strength to rid yourself of bad habits, learn new skills, and develop and grow as a person? Self-discipline can help you make a plan and stick to it. Find out how to easily build self-discipline in 10 days with this simple plan:

Day 1: Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.
If you would like to build self-discipline, the first thing you need to do is identify the areas of your life which are lacking. Do you have a soft spot for greasy foods or a tendency to spend too much time on the couch and not enough outside? You need to recognize the improvements you would like to make before you can use self-discipline to implement a change.

Day 2: Take one step at a time.
Nobody is perfect. There might be more than one change you would like to make in your life. Nonetheless, you should focus your attention on one thing at a time instead of getting overambitious and addressing too many things at once.

Day 3: Get motivated.
Before you can become disciplined, you need to feel motivated to change. Make a list of all the reasons why you would like to make that change in your life. Will you be healthier, happier, or more productive? Will the change benefit anyone aside from you? Your motivation will increase with every reason you come up with.

Day 4: Make a plan.
It’s easy enough to understand that you need to make a change in your life, but how can you actually implement that change? While making a plan to change you should identify all possible areas of weakness – when will you have difficulty sticking to your plan or saying no? Practise dealing with those situations.

Day 5: Change your mind.
Your mind is the biggest obstacle you’ll face while trying to build self-discipline. You have to learn how to overcome how you feel at any given moment, something that can only be accomplished through mental Stillness. By practicing Stillness on a regular basis, you can filter out the negative emotions that cause you to want to give up on your goal.

Day 6: Make it public.
Studies have shown that people who tell others about their plans or goals to change are more likely to go through with them. Not only should your friends and family give you support as you strive for self-improvement, you’ll be more likely to stick to your guns if you know that other people are invested in the outcome.

Day 7: Start small.
As you move forward with implementing your plan to build self-discipline, recognize that making a long-term change doesn’t happen overnight. Going “cold turkey” with whatever change you would like to make is sometimes too extreme, and you’ll find you can’t keep it up for a long period of time.

Day 8: Empower yourself through change.
Every time you make a positive step towards building self-discipline, no matter how small, recognize how empowering it is. It feels good to make good choices for your life, and your family and friends will be proud of you when you do the right thing.

Day 9: Evaluate your progress.
After a little over a week, evaluate how you’re doing. What did you struggle with in the last eight days? What did you do well with? By taking an honest inventory of your progress, you can identify the areas you will need to improve in order to build your self-discipline.

Day 10: Reward yourself.
Remember to reward yourself when you make the right choice. Choose a reward that is in line with your goal to change, i.e. if you’re trying to cut out junk food, reward yourself with a “healthy” junk food substitute that you enjoy, such as flavored rice chips or sorbet instead of ice cream. It’s important that you recognize your own progress and give yourself credit for all that you do.

You can build self-discipline in 10 days! The ten steps above should strengthen your inner resolve, it can also help you develop the mental strength you’ll need to implement change and maintain self-discipline over the long-term. If you would like some assistance with self-discipline then the Empowerment Series is for you! Here you will receive 3 x 1 hour audios on living a life of purpose, manifesting abundance, and finding love. You will also receive a companion book for notes and three ebook versions of the audios. Click here to find out more.  


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How To Create Boundaries For Your Child And Have Them Still Love You In The Morning

Father hugging son and laughingIf you have children or are considering having children then one thing you will be surely doing in the future is creating boundaries for your child. This is something that every parent will do at some point in their life. It could be simply telling them to turn out the lights and go to sleep, pick their clothes up off the floor of the bedroom or not to hit their sister.

If you’ve been in this position you will relate to how tiring this might be. Every day as a parent of two 12 year olds (yeh twins) I have to create a boundary, guide them and establish protocols for living in a house together.

  • Taj, please take your dirty plate and put it in the dishwasher.
  • Lauren, can you please put the iPad away and do your homework.
  • Kids, could you please turn volume down on the TV?

This is simple day to day process that’s required so that a group of people may live together happily, lovingly and efficiently.

But what if it’s something much bigger than these day to day chores? These small requests don’t attract a huge emotional response or resistance from the child. But sometimes discipline can take on a whole new perspective. Sometimes we have to establish boundaries for our children where they don’t want them and they will try everything to get their way. This creates a lot of friction.

This is a challenging process in our home because I promote the idea that they push boundaries. I want to inspire them to explore, to question life, to challenge authority AND belief systems. I feel it’s my duty as a parent that I inspire my children to be free thinkers and to tap into their own inner knower that will help them to soar and reach their fullest potential.

This can involve anything from jumping off the 10 meter high cliff into Sydney Harbour, exploring abandoned buildings that have NO ENTRY on the front gate, to questioning politics, religion and social constructs.

And yet this can get confusing for them when I insist that there are certain things they aren’t allowed to do that they want to. What ensues can be a battle of determination between us. Yep….it can get intense as these little free thinkers start to push up against the boundaries where we as parents have put them in place. Tears will flow and yep, they will sulk.

However whenever the dust has settled, the tears have stopped and they emerge from the sulk, we always conclude with the same conversation. I ask them:
“Why did I create that boundary?”
To which they now know the answer.
“Because you love me Dad.”
“Yes…I love you like crazy. I love you more than you could ever possibly imagine. And when I tell you off, when I create boundaries, when I discipline you, it’s always coming from love. It’s not because you’re bad, it’s not because I want to punish you, it’s not because I don’t love you. It’s because I see your potential, I see your greatness and I love you so much.”

Then we hug, and we never look back at that experience. It’s past. What flows from that moment is lightness and happiness. And it’s back to doing something fun and crazy again!

Reaffirming your love for your child after those intense moments of conflict is a very powerful way to continually inspire lightness and harmony in your home. Children are very soft and malleable, and love is the most nourishing of foods for them.

Do you have any other tips for parenting and creating boundaries for children? I’m always learning as a parent, so I’d love to hear your suggestions below. And if you have some young children they might like to read Missy Moo Meditates. This book takes you on a journey with Missy Moo and her sister Boo as they discover meditation. You will also receive a bonus guided meditation that you can listen to with your children….it has had huge results in helping children relax! Click below to receive your copy 🙂

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