6 Tips For A Magnificent 2016!

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It’s hours away here until the close of 2015. What a year! No doubt you have experienced twists and turns with some incredible highlights and also some challenging times. This is life yeh? It moves, it ebbs and flows; it will be ecstatic at times and painful at times.

This time of year can be a time of sadness for some and for others an exciting time of growth and cleansing. I was out surfing the other day and I over heard one of the surfers say to another one:

“Mate I just can’t wait for this year to end!”

Must have been a tough year! However wishing time to pass quickly because life is unbearable will not create any new experiences going forward. It will only attract the same experience just with a different calendar. So how do we create a magical 2016? Well it’s yours right now to create. A blank canvas for you to design an awesome life!

Here are a few tips for you to build your foundation of a magnificent year ahead:

  1. Let go. Let go of the pain, the anger, the regrets, the suffering and the stories of the past. It’s time to look forward and not back. Holding on to grudges, and ‘should have’ stories won’t serve you in 2016. Let’s shrug it all off, shake it away and let go of that load of heaviness. 2016 is all about being light!
  2. Be thankful. No matter where you are in life, there is always something to be thankful for. When we acknowledge the beauty of life around us, it changes the way we feel, and when we change the way we feel, we change what we attract.
  3. Commit to something new. Yep, I started last night. I was asked what is my new year’s resolution and I was stumped, because I didn’t have one! So I decided my new year’s resolution would be to write in a notebook each night before I go to sleep all the things I was grateful for that day, and just that day. I was amazed at how many things I found to be grateful for and how good I felt to write them all down. So this is my ‘NEW’ thing for 2016. (Which ties in well with number 2) What will your ‘NEW’ thing be for 2016? Yoga twice a week? Meditate each day? Do an act of kindness each day? Attend a retreat? Please tell me below this article, we’d all love to hear and get inspired!
  4. Set your goals for 2016! The captain of the ship always has their port of destination in their sites. Do you know where you want to go? Do you know what you want to do? Get clear on these goals and write them down. This is something we will be covering at our 1 day Urban Retreat & Vision Day on Jan 16th if you need some assistance with this.
  5. Choose excitement over fear. You can fear what’s ahead or be excited about what’s ahead. You get to choose. Fear and excitement are very similar feelings, with a very slight shift. One is positive and one is negative. One is contraction, and one is expansion. Fear moves you away from something, and excitement moves you towards it. “I’m afraid of speaking on stage”- CONTRACTION. “I’m excited about speaking on stage”- EXPANSION. Get excited about the life ahead!
  6. Love. No, not ‘I need you’ love; not ‘I can’t live without you’ love; not ‘I hope someone will love me’ love. This is a love that is found deep in your heart. It’s there right now. It’s a radiant burning glow of fiery love right in you NOW. Seek and you will find. Get out of your head and into your heart and radiate love. This will totally change your 2016 BIG TIME!

I am EXCITED to be part to your journey in 2016. I am GRATEFUL for you being part of our journey in 2015. Thank you! You’re amazing and I feel so much love for this Stillness Tribe. Let’s do some massive things in 2016! And again, please share with us below something new that you will be doing in 2016. It will be inspiring to hear.

How To Heal From Discontentmentitis

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I recently asked a large group of people to put up their hands if they were feeling deeply content in their current relationship. About 3% of the group put up their hand.

I asked another group of people at a different time, to put up their hands if they were feeling deeply content with their current life. Again about 3% of the group put up their hand.

Now I’d like to ask YOU, from 1 to 10 (10 being incredibly content and 1 being very discontent), how do you rate your:
– financial situation
– relationship
– career
– health
How did you go?

The reason I ask this is in a recent study, run by Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert, a group of people were asked to place a sticker on a wall of their good and bad experiences from the past. On another wall, to post their good and bad expectations for the future.

The first wall comes out about 50/50. The one for the future comes out about 80/20 — with more good expectations than bad ones.

What does this mean? That we generally have very high expectations about life and those expectations are rarely met. This aligns with the survey I did when I asked people to put up their hands if they were content in their relationship or life in general. More often than not we feel that our life isn’t as good as it could be, and we suffer from discontentmentitis.

I believe discontentmentitis is an epidemic of the 21st century! Hey, I’ve been infected with it too! Yes, we could be healthier. Yes, we could have a better house. Yes, we could have a better relationship. Yes, we could have more money.

There will be days when your relationship with your partner or your family will be challenging. There will be times in your career that will be very uncomfortable or mundane. There will be periods in your life when you might be financially stretched. And all of this is ok.

Are you seeking perfection in a realm where perfection doesn’t exist? The field of relativity, the world around us, is diverse, it fluctuates, it twists and turns and is filled with unexpected changes. Yet many of us tend to have an ideal where that simply won’t happen.

So how do we heal ourselves of this contagious infliction that has spread across the world? I feel the key to this comes down to one thing….GRATITUDE. Gratitude is a powerful force of recognition that regardless how many challenges we face right now, there is still something in our life is right now that we can be grateful for.

Gratitude is acknowledging that life is an amazing place and no matter how many of your expectations aren’t being currently met, there is till magnificence around you, right here, right NOW. When we are grateful we emit a vibration of abundance. When we are grateful, we send a message to the Universe that yes, I am filled with greatness in my life. This is a subtle yet powerful shift of awareness that will flow through into all areas of your life.

When we embrace gratitude we shift our feelings from lack to abundance. The moment you feel abundance in your life you change what you attract. Explore this for a few weeks and let your own research validate this concept.

Gratitude can come in many ways, but here are some tips to get you started.

1. Offer gratitude before each meal for the mere gift of being able to eat some nourishing food that will sustain your health.
2. Express gratitude each morning to the sun, for its light and warmth that sustains all life here on Earth
3. Write a letter or email to someone special in your life offering gratitude for their presence
4. Speak to your body, you carry this vehicle around every day, it’s amazing what it does for you. Thank it and nurture it.
5. Be thankful for the people who push your buttons, who challenge you, and make you feel uncomfortable. They are your greatest teachers…what a gift!

So there are few ideas about how to overcome the increasing level of discontent on the planet. I’m sure you have a few yourself, it would be wonderful if you could share some of those below with our readers as well. Thanks, I’m very grateful 🙂

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Would You Do This For Happiness?

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For many of us across the globe we have created very abundant lives. Seriously, let’s not kid ourselves.

There’s not many of us reading this that don’t have three meals a day, (with lots of snacks in between), comfortable, secure homes with big TV’s, nice holidays every year, running clean water, electricity, access to education and excessive amounts of clothes. Sure, we have varying degrees of these things, but generally most of us have all of our needs met and a whole lot more!

So why is there so much discontentment? Why do we suffer so much when all of our basic needs (and a whole lot more) are already satisfied?

We are in a time of affluence. Material affluence. Never before have we had as much at our disposal. Really, we are richer now materially than any other time on the planet.

But are we in a time of spiritual poverty? Are we distracted by our affluence and ignoring our own spiritual truth?

There is a Sanskrit word called tapasya, pronounced tapas. Wikipedia defines tapasya as: ” a self-discipline or austerity willingly expended both in restraining physical urges and in actively pursuing a higher purpose in life.”

It’s not often in today’s world that we ‘willingly’ embrace restraint or austerity for a higher purpose. Although most religions adopt fasting of some sort as part of their annual calendar.

The Catholic’s have lent, which is 40 days of fasting leading up to Easter.

The Islamics have Ramadan, the Jewish have Yom Kippur and the Buddhists have “dhutanga” practice. These all involve some form of surrender of privileges, where they give something up to assist them in their spiritual quest, or it might be suggested, closer to God.

In India, Sadhus, or Holy Men have been known to practice extreme austerities like holding their arm up in the air or standing on one leg for years and years.

So it begs the question have we become distracted from our spirituality during this time of affluence and accessibility to the riches of life?

Do we need to embrace a daily, weekly or monthly form of tapasya so that we may re-connect with our inner essence of light and love and have more gratitude for the things we do have? In business we are taught that scarcity increases the value of something. Do we need scarcity to learn to be happier?

Practicing austerity is a reminder to ourself that there is more to life than ‘things’. It’s a discipline that assists us in transcending the distractions of daily life and connecting with God. It also helps promotes gratitude for the things that we do have.

Here are some suggestions of tapasya that you might like to try:

  • No hot showers
  • A day without your phone (yeh, tuff one for all of us- me included!)
  • No alcohol
  • No sugar
  • A week without TV
  • Sleeping on the floor for a night
  • A caffeine free week
  • Not talking for a day
  • Skipping a meal once a week
  • Donating your time to the serving the homeless
  • Meditate twice daily

The key to an austerity is to not suffer while doing it, however do it in gratitude and devotion to a higher purpose. Some of these suggestions might sound rather challenging or they may seem too easy. If they are too easy, you could join the sadhus of India and stand on one leg for a lifetime or perhaps try holding your arm up in the air for 40 years! Do you have any austerities in your life that you willingly embrace as part of your spiritual practice? Please share them with us below if you do.

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Gratitude Affirmations You Can Use Today


When was the last time you said some gratitude affirmations? It’s rare that we express gratitude for all of the things that we are blessed with. At times it may seem as though you don’t have much to be thankful for – especially if you’re going through a rough phase or a difficult period in your life. It’s all too easy to get caught up in negative feelings and end up forgetting all of the blessings that you have.

Here’s a simple illustration of just how many things we take for granted. If you’re reading this blog right now, you have eyesight and you can read – those are two amazing blessings right there! You have a computer (or access to a computer) and can also use the internet. Think of how great it is to have internet even! Just think of all the positive things the internet can help you do. Not only can you use it to connect with friends and family, but there’s more information on the internet than a person could consume in a lifetime!

Now, could you imagine your life without all of these simple things? We all take them for granted each and every day. Imagining your life without these things, or actually doing without them for a period of time, can help you to realize just how great you have it in life.

When you start to realize just how lucky you are to have all that you have, you can start to really express gratitude. And when you do express gratitude on a regular basis, you move towards feeling content with yourself and your life, and not always looking for “more moremore” as we tend to do. The attitude of gratitude is a truly powerful tool if you’re looking to find happiness.

Expressing Gratitude through Stillness
The Stillness Movement is a shift towards grateful thinking. By making your mind Still, you enable yourself to get rid of all of those defeating thoughts that stand in the way of your happiness. Stillness meditation can help you to filter worries, anxieties, doubts, and uncertainties from your mind and without these harmful thoughts you can learn to be thankful for what you have. The mental clarity and peace of mind that is possible in just one Stillness Session has the power to transform your life and your attitude.

Affirming Gratitude
You can use gratitude affirmations to jumpstart your own new grateful lease on life. By repeating one or more of the following affirmations on a regular basis, or even writing your own as they will pertain to your own life, you can begin to witness just how blessed you are.

HEALTH & WELLNESS
I am so blessed to be in good health.
I appreciate my body and all it does for me every day.
I am so grateful to be alive.

RELATIONSHIPS
I am thankful to have met my partner, someone who enriches my life.
I am blessed to have a family of people who care for me.
I am grateful for my friends, because they support me, understand me, and appreciate me no matter what.

CAREER & SUCCESS
I am blessed to be able to work at what I love.
I am thankful to have the capability to learn new skills and improve myself.
I am thankful for the abundance and wealth that I have been given.

EMOTIONS
I appreciate my emotions.
I am grateful for all of the experiences I have had in my life, because each one has taught me sometime.
I am thankful for each moment of happiness in my life.

MIND
I am forever grateful for a mind that is receptive and open to new ideas and new learning experiences.
I am grateful that I have the ability to choose what I want and make it happen in life.
I am appreciative for my inner voice and sense of intuition.

What are you thankful for? The next time you want to use gratitude affirmations, why not try writing some of your own, for the unique blessings that you experience in your life. To empower you through this process you might like to have access to The Empowerment Series, which is comprises of rich insights into Manifesting Abundance, finding your Life Purpose and Discovering Love. Find out more about this by clicking below.

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