The One Thing You Need To Do To Find Happiness

happinessYou want happiness right? Isn’t this what drives us in all of our actions? Well you’re about to find out the one thing that you need to do to find happiness and why for most people it’s incredibly hard to find.
It’s deeply programmed into our psyche that getting happiness comes from getting ‘things’. If we aren’t happy, then we need to get more ‘things’. If you have the ‘things’ you thought would bring you happiness and you still don’t have happiness, then you simply go out and get MORE ‘things’. This is what they called ‘shopping therapy ‘ right?

A while ago we surveyed our audience to ask them what they were looking for most. We had a huge response and what we received astonished us. Our audience mostly wanted to manifest more wealth, then after that they wanted to have healthy, loving relationships, then the next highest, in third place, was to find their life purpose and a successful career. In fourth place was happiness. WHAT??? FOURTH!??? Seriously?

Then we delved deeper into the psychology of this and we realised that those surveyed most probably felt that if they had 1, 2 or 3 then they would find happiness anyway. They no doubt thought getting those ‘things’ would lead to happiness, which is why happiness was further down the list.

The challenge with trying to get those things is that it can exhaust us. More and more in today’s world we are trying harder and faster to get those ‘things’ and in the process we are getting highly stressed. I presented a talk the other day in front of 220 people and I asked them to be very honest with me and put up your hand if you were stressed, tired, anxious, or depressed. Guess how many put up their hand? About 90% of the room!

Here’s the catch, in the process of trying to get the ‘things’ we have become exhausted and stressed, which ironically prevents us form feeling happy when and IF we do get the ‘things’. The greatest barrier to you feeling happy isn’t whether or not you get the things, its STRESS. Recently I had a stress response in my body because of some circumstance that I was facing. Immediately I noticed that my whole body shifted. The feeling of lightness and happiness dissolved and fear and anxiety kicked in as my body was flooded with biochemical’s of adrenalin and cortisol. It’s a beautiful design by our body to protect us from danger. Your body will shut down happy biochemical’s like serotonin and produce fight-flight biochemical’s like cortisol. WHOOSHKA…. there goes happiness. The two cannot co-exist. Nup, not possible. Unlike Abott and Costello stress and happiness don’t go together.

So if you are struggling to find happiness in your life, the first step would be to eliminate the stress response. Please note, I didn’t say eliminate the thing that you feel might be causing the stress. This doesn’t mean get rid of your partner, your job or your latest wardrobe, it means getting rid of the response that your body is having to the circumstance, whether it is the past, present OR future. Stress is a response in your body and it’s something that with mindfulness, strategies and vigilance, you can eliminate.

Here are some strategies that can help you eliminate the stress response in your body so that you can coherently and non reactively make smarter choices about the direction of your life.

1. Reduce the amount of screen time on your smart phone. (How can a smart phone create stress? Its constantly overstimulation your nervous system making it less resilient and more reactive to when situations arise that are challenging.)

2. Take time out each day to pause, and let your mind, body and nervous system recalibrate. This can involve sitting in the sun, lying on grass, being in Nature and just pausing

3. Being physically active. Burning up that adrenalin through a big work out, run, swim, or bike ride is a great way to eliminate stress. We are living very sedentary lives by sitting at computers all day and then going home and sitting on the sofa. This is a sure fire way to build up cortisol and adrenalin and increase stress. Daily physical exertion is a great antidote to stress.

4. Sleep. LOTS and LOTS of sleep! Yep we are so sleep deprived it’s just not funny. Most of my students fall asleep in their first few meditations because their bodies are SO tired. 7-8 hours a night minus and if possibly naps in the day or weekends plays a big part in eliminating stress. Ideally shut off all technology and get to bed by 10pm at latest for a good nights sleep.

5. Stretch. Stress tightens the body and this compounds the stress response in the body. It’s like a snowball effect. Stretching and yoga play a big part in opening up the body, releasing tension and overriding that fight flight response in the body.

6. Meditation. Whatever your practice of meditation is, doing something is better than nothing. Even if it’s for a few minutes throughout the day. Ideally if you can find a deep transcending style meditation with a mantra that will take your mind and body into profoundly deep states of rest will be very effective in eliminating stress from your life.

Happiness is available to you, however stress will be the greatest barrier to you finding it. You can have all the ‘things’ you ever wanted, but if you are stressed, forget being happy about it! It just won’t happen. Get rid of the stress response in your body and watch how much better you will feel in life. Small things like the warm sun on your cheek, a hot shower, a cup of tea or a hug from your kids will bring you sheer delight when there is no stress to impede it. Why? Because your happiness is inside you and those simple things remind you of it.

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Earthing- What It Is And Why It’s Good For You

earthHey I don’t know about you, but lately I’ve been feeling FRAZZLED! When I say frazzled, I mean that state where you know your nervous system and body really needs to just chill out!
It could be all the wifi modems emitting data into the ether, it could be the traffic, it could be the bluetooth in my car, it could be the amount of computer time I’ve been doing, the amount of phone time or all of the above! When I feel my body responding this way I know its time to get grounded and Earth myself. This can be anything from walking barefoot on the grass or sand, lying on the ground or hugging a tree (yeh sounding very hippy here I know!)

This is called Earthing and it has huge benefits from:

  • Improved Sleep
  • Reduced inflammation
  • Reduced or eliminates chronic pain
  •  Increased energy and vitality
  • Relieves muscle tension
  • Lowers stress and promotes calmness in the body
  • Improved blood flow
  • Reduced jet lag

This connection to the Earth and nature has decreased over time as we live modern lives in cities, surrounded by technology, buildings removed further and further from nature. For many the closest they might come to being around nature is watering the cactus plant on the coffee table!

When I feel the need to connect more to the Earth I will make sure I have found a patch of grass that has no wifi reception (check this on your phone wifi connection) and no over head or nearby powerlines. Then I will simply lie down, turn my phone on airplane mode or off if I have it with me and sink into the ground. When I’m lying there I can feel the energetic pull of the Earth gripping me or hugging me into her. There’s enough magnetic pull by the Earth’s gravity on my body to create a pressure of my body against the Earth’s surface. Ah bliss! Then just lie there. That’s it.

After about 30-60 minutes of this I feel amazingly calm, grounded and energised. It’s super simple, costs nothing and has huge benefits!

Here’s a small clip for you that I made after one Earthing session I had yesterday. And if you have any other suggestions of how to Earth yourself please let us know below, we’d love to hear from you!

Enjoy!
Peace and light,
Tom
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Why Awareness About Mental Health Simply Isn’t Enough

smilingIn the last few years in Australia we’ve seen a rapid increase in organisations specialising in mental health awareness. Some are privately run through sponsorship funding and some governmentally funded. What’s inspired this growth is the dramatic increase in poor mental health in our society. These bodies are reportedly seeing huge increases in anxiety and depression across the population.

On one hand it is great that we are bringing awareness to this issue, but on the other hand, the question is….What are they doing about resolving the issue? Have we seen a decrease since these organisations have appeared on the scene or has the issue continued to balloon?

I applied as a speaker at one of the organisations a while ago, offering my services to support those who may have suffered with anxiety or depression. In the interview process, they asked me what sort of topics I would be discussing in my presentations, to which I replied:
“Effective strategies to overcome the debilitating effects of anxiety, panic and depression.”

“Oh No. We don’t like to discuss strategies, we are about awareness.” They replied.

I was a bit confused.

What does awareness alone do to help people recover from a lack of mental health? Don’t these people need strategies and a process to go through to help them recover and regain their mental health back? Apparently this was not what this incredibly well funded organisation was about.

Needless to say, they declined my application.

If someone sat down in front of you and they said they were physically unhealthy, would you talk about it or propose some steps they take to improve their health? No doubt, you might suggest they exercise 3 times a week, make veggie juices, go to bed before 10pm, stretch 2-3 times a week, drink 2 litres of filtered water a day, avoid drinking too much alcohol, decrease their sugar, gluten and processed foods.

It wouldn’t be a complex process but one that once applied would certainly bring about an improvement in someone’s physical health. It shouldn’t require huge amounts of discussion and awareness, just being proactive and empowered in making choices and presenting an option. Once they take that option and embark on those steps, invariably we see their physical health improve.

The very same goes for mental health. Being mentally healthy is a process. It requires action. It requires processes. It’s not complicated to get the basics of mental health. The foundation of being mentally healthy is quite simple and presenting the options to those suffering is the key to improving someone’s state of mind.

I once had very poor mental health. It’s certainly better these days than where it was. Is it perfect? No, I’m not sure we can reach perfect mental health. Are we ever going to feel happy all the time? (Maybe the Dalai Lama?? Even there I’d be surprised.) But by taking a series of steps and continuing with them daily I found that my mental health improved dramatically. So if someone does have a lack of mental health, what steps could they take to improve the health of their mind?

1. Read self-help books daily: There’s a Sanskrit phrase, yad bhavam tat bhavati which means what we think we become. By reading positive self-help books we continuously over-ride those negative conditioned thoughts in our mind.

2. Meditate daily or ideally twice a day: Meditation is like going to the gym for your body. It’s a work out and will help develop the mind into more positive space. Science has revealed that meditation increases grey matter, and the biochemical’s of serotonin and oxytocin that help you feel happy and calm. Meditation also helps move the body out of sympathetic nervous system state and into parasympathetic nervous system where it restores balance.

3. See naturopath and get your gut health checked: The gut is considered the second brain and if we have poor gut health this can affect our moods, leading to anxiety and depression. Issues like low healthy gut flora, inflammation and lack of nutrients all influence our mental health.

4. Avoid negative media and as much as possible, negative people: As per point #1, constantly being around people and reading media that is filled with negativity will affect your thoughts and your mental health. This isn’t always as easy to do, however where possible, make mindful choices about engaging in negative gossip, discussions and watching only the negative aspects of global news. There is a lot of good going on out there as well, only it doesn’t sell as well as negative news!

5. Gratitude daily: When we feel gratitude for the good things in our life it immediately changes how we feel. It’s much easier to see the negative things in our life than the good things, so it will require a structured process. I have gratitude journal by my bedside that I write 10 things I’m grateful for that day. It can be a small as having a hot shower, the warmth and light from the sun, the oxygen provided by the trees or your family.

6. Avoiding technology and going to sleep by 10pm: A good night sleep is crucial for mental health. The mind is a muscle and if it gets overworked it gets worn out and tired. Providing sufficient time each day for the mind and body to repair is key to good mental health.

7. Eating more organic healthy wholefoods: The brain needs to be fed nutrients and minerals to be healthy. If it’s starved it will suffer. I don’t subscribe to diets, but I do like to eat nutritious whole foods preferably locally sourced from my weekly growers market. Another way to feed the brain is with the powerful micro-nutrients found in Q96 Empowerplus. The vitamins and minerals feed the brain helping to reduce the symptoms of anxiety and panic.

8. Exercise: Yes this is a physical practice that will help physical health but it has been proven to also help mental health. When we exercise we release healthy endorphins into our body, increases serotonin, and reduces inflammation by detoxing through sweating.

Mental health means just that, a healthy state of mind. To achieve physical health, requires a regular regime or process, and the same too for mental health. We need to be proactive and embrace daily actions that constantly improve our state of mind. Bringing awareness about the poor state of mental health in our society, I’m all for that, but can we also offer options and strategies to help us all continuously achieve good mental health?

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7 Pillars For Optimal Health

healthyIt’s not long now until I turn 50. Seems strange to think of that number when I feel so young. Not only do I feel young, but I also feel the healthiest I’ve ever been. How is that so? Health is a process. It’s not a goal. Goals are something you reach, and then it’s done. Health is never done. It’s a daily process that I’m dedicated to and conscious of, where as lack of health more often than not is due to no dedication and unconscious decisions.

I want to clarify that fitness and health are two very different things. My friend is fit! He runs marathons all the time. But if he’s not running and training he’s battling flus and sleeping. Professional athletes are fit. I read an article on the weekend about Lauren Jackson the basketballer. She was fit! She was a professional athlete and paid lots of money to shoot hoops. But she was addicted to pain killers and sleeping tablets! Healthy? Or fit? You decide.

Of course, the body is fallible. It has limitations. And over time it will show signs of wear and tear. I have a tear in my meniscus in my left knee, some rotator cuff issues in my right shoulder, minor pain in my left wrist when I do downward dog and push ups and I now need glasses to read! Yep, the creaky old thing is showing the effects of age. But beyond that there is health. Health is vitality, zest, strength, aliveness, stamina, immunity, potency, lightness and energy.

To be healthy I have a 7-pillar program. It’s simple and I believe if you follow this 7-pillar program you will reach optimal health in no time.

1. Sweat. 2-3 times a week I will have big sweat. Either through training or in a sauna. I believe sweating is a great way to cleanse the body. I will sauna 1 hour at a time to really cleanse deep in the body with intermittent swims at 20-minute intervals. Be sure to drink lots of water. (See Step 4)

2. Strengthen. 3 times a week I like to lift heavy weights. There is something grounding, strengthening and empowering about lifting heavy metal to the point of exhaustion. Deepak Chopra says that lifting weights increases bone density and obviously develops muscle tissue and if great for longevity.

3. Stretching. Be it yoga or just stretching before bed at night or first thing in the morning is something I like to do every day. It could be as little as 5 minutes or up to 2 hours for a yoga class. Stretching opens up the tension points in the body allows the energy to flow more freely increasing immunity and vitality.

4. Hydration. 2 litres of clean filtered water to hydrate the body a day. Many people are suffering from dehydration, which will affect your adrenals, your immune system and kidneys and liver. I have a 2-litre BPA free bottle that I fill up in the morning and make sure I finish by the end of day. Take into account caffeine and alcohol do not hydrate the body, they dehydrate it.

5. Nutrition. Hippocrates nailed it when he said, “Let thy food be thy medicine.” There is more than enough information in the world today to know that clean organic fresh foods are good for you. Processed foods, sugary foods and trans fats aren’t. I will have 1-2 cold pressed organic vegetable juices a day and eat as much natural food as possible. Whether you are paleo, vegan, Ayurvedic, pescetarian or whatever, that’s up to you and I think everyone has to find what’s right for them. But under all that the same simple principles apply. Eat for health.

6. Sleep. There are not many people I meet in my coaching and training sessions that aren’t tired. I think the biggest imbalance we have on the planet today is fatigue. We simply don’t rest enough. (Guilty here!) Ideally I’d like to be in bed asleep by 9-9.30pm, but that rarely happens. I wake regardless around 5-5.30am, which is my body clock that wakes with the sun. I’m fortunate enough to be in a position where I can take breaks and nap in the afternoon. (Those Spanish were on to something!) Making sure we are rested and our battery cells are charged is key to being healthy.

7. Mental clarity and calm. Ok let’s cut straight to the chase, I’m talking about meditation here. Meditation has been a priority in my day for 20 years now and I won’t let a day go by without sitting in meditation. It’s like eating food, going to the toilet and sleeping. I don’t question it. It’s a non-negotiable. The body is a print out of the mind and if the mind is busy and filed with negative thoughts then this will transfer through into the body.

It’s not complicated. Following these steps has had a huge impact on my life. Of course there are times when I deviate from this and it shows when I do. Life isn’t rigid and you cant always fit everything into a day or week. But if health becomes a priority then you will probably find ways to fit most of these pillars into your week in some way shape or form. Have you got any other pillars that I might have missed out? Please let me know below, I’d love to hear them!

Happy health!

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The 4 Most Important Words That I Said To My Teenage Children

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I’ve been surprised lately that in 3 separate conversations where I shared that I had teenage twins, I received a response of “Oh you poor thing!” or “Far out that must be challenging.”
Yet it has not only been the most enjoyable period of my parenting life, but also the easiest!

So this made me ponder as to why my experience parenting teenagers is so far from other people’s expectations of what it would be like. Of course they are surrounded by lots of love and as parents we communicate to them how much we love them all the time. But I didn’t feel this was the only reason that parenting teenagers was easier than others expected.

Then it came to me…I realised it was 4 words that I constantly say to my children that has helped my parenting so much. I feel these 4 words help them feel empowered and they get to realise that in many respects, they are the creators of their life.

These 4 words were “It is your choice.”

Ok, so now you’re thinking “What? You just let them do what they want?”
No, definitely not. But we do let them know there is a natural law of cause and effect. Every action has a corresponding reaction, and it’s their choice as to what effect they want to cause.

So when you study and do well at school you receive accolades and good marks from the teacher plus lots of nice words and positive vibes from your parents. When you respond rudely to your parents or don’t do what we ask you to do, you lose your phone for a week (yes a HUGE pain point!) If you say something impolite or negative about a peer you receive in someway something negative back. When you do something good for someone, you receive something good back. I explained to my children that it’s a flow of energy. Good goes out, good comes back. Negative goes out, negative comes back. It’s all energy playing out in forms.

When we sit down together and go through examples of this they can clearly see how this works. They can see the sequence unfold in their lives everyday and it never misses a beat. So now they realise that they are the creators. They are empowered. They get to choose…negative or positive.

Of course, it’s not perfect. None of us are, but it sure has made a huge difference by empowering them to realise that it’s not US against THEM, rather them and the Universe playing together as energy. It’s a bit woo-woo I know but they get it over time 🙂


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7 Super Sonic Tips For Overcoming the Cold and Flu

healthyYou might remember years ago how a cold or flu would last a few days and then it was gone? (Admittedly I’m going waaaay back when I was a kid here.) Well I’ve noticed these days’ colds and flu’s seem to last weeks! We recently had a big spate of colds and flu go through Sydney and it didn’t skip past me either and one thing that amazed me was when I asked people how they were treating it I received 1 of three responses:
1. Nothing
2. Taking Coldral or Sudafed
3. Eating an orange
 
So today I’m going to share with you my supersonic tips for knocking a cold or flu out within a matter of a few days (Just like the old days!) Oh and these tips will be more effective the sooner you act with the onset of any cold and flu like symptoms.
 
1. Rest: The reason your body is sick is because it’s run down and it’s your body’s way of saying “You need to pause and rest.” It makes me laugh to see a recent advertisement for Codral cold and flu tablets where one woman is shown to have obvious signs of a cold, then she takes a Codral and with the jingle of “Soldier on with Codral, soldier on” she then proceeds to go swimming in a pool doing laps! With a cold and flu?? Seriously??? Get some rest, you’re body will love you for it.
 
2. High Doses of Vitamin C: One orange contains about 70mg of vitamin C in it. To really boost your immune system when it is at its low point during a cold or flu you are going to need to give your body a high dose of vitamin C. Some sources suggest 1000mg to maintain daily well-being and between 2000 and 6000mg a day to defend an existing cold or flu is recommended. The thing with vitamin C is that if your body doesn’t need the excess, it will simply flush it out when you go to the toilet.
 
3. Herbal Tonic: If you are in local distance to a naturopath or good pharmacist, you could do yourself a favour and get a tonic made up to store in your home for times like this. A powerful immune boosting tonic that I use is one comprised of Echinacea, olive leaf and andrographis. These three herbs combine to make a potent booster to your immune system to ward off the cold and flu.
 
4. Garlic: This simple spice will do wonders for your immune system! The respected research organisation Cochrane Database revealed in a study that those who took garlic daily had fewer symptoms of colds than those on placebo and when they did get colds they lasted for a shorter period of time. You might not smell so good however you will feel better quickly!
 
5. Water: When you feel sick you tend to not get as thirsty, usually because you are doing less activity and exercise. However it’s during this time that you really want to hydrate your body and help it flush out those toxins. There are mixed opinions as to how much water you should drink a day however in my research I have found that 2-3 litres a day will help you feel better.
 
6. Meditate: Deep restful meditations like Vedic Meditation or my Faster Deeper Bliss meditation will take the body into a restorative state of relaxation. This deep rest in meditation is a powerful healer during times of sickness. Usually it is recommended to meditate twice a day, however during times of sickness you could meditate as often as you like. This will lengthen your telomerase; increase your oxytocin and serotonin levels boosting your immune system.
 
7. Visualisation: Usually when we start getting sick people will say things like “I’m coming down with the cold or flu.” There is a Sanskrit saying ‘yadbhavam tat bhavati’ which means what we thing we become. So if you think this and wallow in it then you will become it. To shorten the length of the cold and flu, trying imagining yourself being healthy and vibrant. Really hold that vision long and hard after your deep meditation session. Of course you won’t feel healthy initially this but if you really focus hard on visualising and feeling it, then you will change direction you are travelling in and come out of the sickness more quickly. I’ve used this many times and been astonished at the results!
 
So there you have 7 tips to help you move through a cold and flu quickly! Give these a try and let me know how you go. And if you have any other tips to help recover quickly, please share them below, we’d love to hear them.

 

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How To Overcome The Challenge Of Forgiveness

What if there was a way to get over the challenge of forgiveness without having to forgive?

Sounds strange right?

Well stay with me because I’m going to share with you something that will be a bit different from all those Instagram and blog posts that tell you that you need to forgive.

For most people forgiveness is forced, inauthentic or not even possible to imagine because we still have feelings of anger, resentment and hurt inside us. This is why forgiveness is one of the greatest challenges to overcome.

In this clip I’m going to share with you a way around this which will liberate you from the NEED to forgive someone.

If you feel you would like some help to connect deeper to your heart and feel more love in your life, then this Golden Heart Meditation is for you. After you do this meditation you will not feel the need to force forgiveness. This is very liberating as you become free from the bondage of the hurt and suffering that held you back from being able to forgive. This is a simple 5 minute meditation that you can download into your phone and do anywhere and anytime. Just click the button below to start meditating.
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6 Tips To Get You Through A Challenging Experience 

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Sometimes things just don’t go according to plan right? That’s how it was this week for me. You know those times when you think you have the script clearly written out and for some reason the other actors in your movie don’t seem to be following the script? What’s going on?? Why don’t you follow my script??

Life will throw some challenges at you.

Each challenge is the space where you get to either contract or grow. That is we either choose to be a victim or we choose to be empowered. If you choose to be a victim, it will be a long drawn out experience that could last days, weeks or even years! It will be filled with lots of friction, poor health and deteriorated relationships. If you see it as an opportunity to grow, you will pass through it quickly and come through the other side lighter and happier.

If you choose to be empowered, you will discover the challenge is an opportunity, one that is rich in knowledge. Coming to this realisation is the biggest hurdle. Once you overcome that big obstacle, and look for the nuggets of gold in the experience, you’ll go from seeker to finder. Getting through those times requires embracing a few steps or strategies. I’ve put together 6 things that I do when life isn’t quite unfolding how I expected it to. If things are tough at the moment, try these out, you’ll find it will flow more with less friction.
Here they are:

1. Pause. This sounds simple but pushing, fighting and struggling harder isn’t the way through. Pause. Sit and take a moment to just be. Instead of chasing life, allow some space so that life will FLOW towards you. When I am forcing things, I always remind myself, create a space and let it flow towards me.

2. Work Out. Yep, channeling any frustration, excess energy like anger, agitation, or fear into a seriously good sweat and work out is a huge release. This exertion will do wonders for clearing pent up energy. Not only that it transforms dark energy into something more positive and lighter.

3. Seek guidance. Somewhere in your life, there will be people that will be able to see things from a different perspective than you. When we are deep in the turmoil of our own situation, often it is hard to see the wood through the trees. There’s a saying, ‘when the student is ready, the teacher will come’. Be open to receiving guidance from someone who might offer some support and a different perspective. Is it your Mum, your Dad, your best friend, a coach or counsellor or a meditation teacher? You will find someone when you are ready for assistance.

4. Read. I have a huge library of books that I have drawn upon over many years to support me on my path. The words in these books hold wisdom and guidance that has been invaluable to me. People like Dan Millman, Eckart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Emmanuel, Marianne Williamson and Neale Donald Walsch (among many others) have all played a big part in helping me through difficult times. Here is my blog where I recommend 10 books.

5. Meditate. One sanctuary I always come back to is stillness. Amid all the fluctuations and challenges of life I have always found one constant…STILLNESS. The gateway to stillness is meditation. Meditation is my foundation that I build my life on. It’s in meditation that I am able to cut through those ups and downs of life and experience a freedom in the stillness. There is a sanskrit word nivartatvum, which means ‘transcend where you are’. Go to the stillness and find peace there.

6. Be Mindful. Mindfulness is looking deep into your thinking process. Ask yourself questions, look at the way your mind works, are those thoughts serving you? What is the nature of your thoughts? Mindfulness involves deep introspection into the nature of your thoughts and actions. Often we run on autopilot not even aware that we are thinking or acting in a certain way. Being mindful requires you to observe YOU, observe the things you do and the way you think, assessing if that is still serving your best interests.

Life will throw some curly ones at you. No doubt about it. But you can pass through these times and come out the other side elevated, wiser and lighter. These steps will help you. You may have  some other suggestions which we’d love to hear. So feel free to share them with us below.

In the meantime why you try my 10 minute guided meditation here called the Gentle Breath Meditation. All you have to do is click the button below. Happy meditating!

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Why I’m Ok With Eating Non-Organic Food And How You Can Perform Alchemy

vegetables and fresh fruitsHow would you like to perform alchemy? Yes you can be an alchemist, and you’re about to find out how.

When you discover your own alchemist capabilities you’ll be able to heal yourself, protect yourself from other people’s negative energy and live passionately and dynamically everyday! Check this out…

During an interview this week for an organic blog site, I was asked how do I live a Certified Organic lifestyle. Umm, “I don’t”, I replied. In fact I’m not sure that’s even possible in today’s world. I’m sitting here in the Qantas lounge, about to leave my Bondi Bubble and fly to Fiji for a long overdue family holiday. In my Bondi Bubble I have access to a plethora of organic juice shops, organic veggie shops, organic restaurants and organic growers markets. Yep, wherever I can I will take the option of organic over non-organic any day. However, now as I embark on a trip to a relaxing resort in Fiji, I know that’s not going to be available to me. Oh no, the foods not organic in the resort! Do I stress? Do I panic? Do I worry?

Not in the slightest.

This is where the alchemy comes in. At a quantum level food is energy, just like me. And energy is vibration. Vibration is a frequency. My intention is to align the foods vibration with my body’s highest frequency. This is called entrainment. The dictionary says of entrainment:

“To adjust (an internal rhythm of an organism) so that it synchronizes with an external”

How does the work? I get to choose, do I align my body’s energy with the food I eat or does the food I put into my body align with MY energy? The intention here is to hold the highest vibration possible at all times and alchemise the food to synchronise with my frequency. Love is a frequency of 528Hz. Above the love vibration are frequencies like joy, ecstasy and bliss. Low grade vibrations are anger, fear, shame, sadness. This premise was shown clearly by Masura Emoto’s water crystal experiments, where the crystal shape would actually change depending on the music that was played to it, the words that were said, or if a prayer was offered over it. As seen here:

 

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Often fanatically healthy people will stress over not being able to find their organic gluten free, dairy-free, sugar-free, yeast-free, grass-fed, wild-caught, fermented wotsitcalled food, not realising the stress of not being able to eat it is doing more damage in their body than the actual food itself.

Now I must say here, I’m not advocating going out and eating deep fried, insecticide and pesticide filled, hormone injected, maltedextron and corn syrup ladened fast food. Not at all. Like attracts like and more often we are drawn to these low vibration foods because it’s will be in alignment with our own inner low grade vibration.

On the flip side, when we feel inner joy, bliss, love and gratitude, we are drawn to foods that are aligned with that vibration also. So my priority here is to hold a highgrade vibration in my body and choose foods, where possible, that are already in sync with that.

How do you hold that highgrade vibration of love, bliss and joy, especially when there is a lot of negativity around you? Here are 5 things to do to keep you in that space:

  1. Spend time in nature. It’s said the energy of a rainforest is up around 1000Hz! But even being in parks, by the ocean, or surrounded by trees will help. Spend time each day in nature.
  1. Read positive uplifting books, and avoid negative things like the news, horror books and films. Everything you watch and read has an energy to it. As you read or watch it, there is an alignment occurring. This is why people watch horror films, to feel the fear that the film invokes. When you read and watch positive uplifting content it will help your vibration remain at that higher level. To find out some books that I recommend go to my blog of my top 10 books here.
  1. Listen to peaceful harmonious music. If you look above at the crystals you will see how much the heavy metal music influenced the shape of the crystal. An angry person will create angry music and a peaceful person will create peaceful music. The vibration of the composer will transfer into the music and then into you. Be aware and selective about the music that you are aligning with. 
  1. Surround yourself with positive people. There is a reason I host regular large group meditation sessions called Stillness In The City. The collective energy of a room of 70 people meditating together is phenomenal. A study was done in Washington DC where they brought 2000 meditators into the city and measured the criminal activity during this time. The study recorded a 25% drop in crime and police activity during the exercise and a rise back again of 25% once the exercise was over. Entrainment. This can be found also in yoga classes, conscious parties and events, or simply being selective about who you are spending time with.
  1. Daily meditation. By meditating daily I reset my frequency to a blissful loving nature. Each time I quiet my mind and place my body into deep rest, I re-align to my inner essence of love and throw off the stresses of fear, sadness, anger and any other low grade vibrations. Many a time I have had students learn to meditate with me and they start crying or feel agitated during their meditation session. Without correct guidance they wouldn’t know why this is happening. This is where the teachers role is crucial when it comes to learning to meditate. This phenomenon is a result of the body’s vibration being raised and the lower frequencies being expelled from the body. This is a healing, purging process that eliminates unwanted emotional toxins.

There you have it. 5 tips that to use to keep your energy level up in the frequency of joy, love and bliss. So when I line up this week at the buffet in the Sofitel on the shores of Fiji, will I be stressed about whether it’s organic or not? No, this is a celebration, a time to be joyous, and I’ll be very aware that I remain in a gentle, loving state and the food will be a fun joyful experience. It will alchemise, so it’s all good. Hmm, I wonder what they have in the desserts section!

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Talking about meditation … I’ve been teaching meditation for many years now and still to this day I love watching someone transform through the power of stillness. You may not have discovered the very real benefits of meditation yet?  Or maybe you’ve been meditating for a while now, and would like to take it to a new level, or have someone guide you?

If that’s you, then you’d really love our 21 Days to Faster Deeper Bliss program.  This has over 20 years of my experience studying meditation, all condensed into an easy, simple and effective daily program that guarantees to have you experiencing the deep and proven benefits of meditation within just 21 days … in fact you’ll notice the benefits much sooner.

We’ve helped thousands of people and I’m sure that we can help you too … check it out here … I believe it is the best meditation training available online.

“Dear Tom, Many thanks for your email from a couple of weeks ago, checking in on how my meditations are going. As you know, I completed the 21 steps to FDB and I have now been meditating (mostly twice a day) for the past 65 days. Tom, your program really works and I am so thankful that I came across it. So thank you so very much Tom for doing the work that you do. You truly are making meditation accessible to everyone and the benefits to mankind and our future can only be amazing. The more people that are touched by your work the better.” Ann-Maree 

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5 Tips To Achieve A Regular Meditation Practice

Screen Shot 2015-05-05 at 9.47.05 pmI meet many people that tell me they have tried meditation but sadly they found it too difficult to continue. So I decided to put together some tips that might be able to help you establish a regular meditation practice. 

  1. Do away with distractions. When meditating, remove all possible distractions from your external environment. Choose a quiet place and dedicate that place to your meditation practice. When you are able to associate that place with meditation you will be more likely to stay on track.
  2. Make your practice your own. Some people get too caught up in what they think they should do while meditating. Believe it or not, what matters is what is going on in your mind as you meditate, not what you’re wearing or how you’re sitting or how long you can do it for. Most often those who have a deep experience during meditation go back for more.
  3. Release tension in your breath. The importance of letting go of exertion in your breath when you meditate should not be overlooked. As you deepen in meditation, your breath will become fainter. Allow the breath to be smooth and gentle.
  4. Let go of your thoughts. Ask anyone and they will tell you that the most difficult aspect of meditation is trying to ‘control’ the thoughts that enter your head. It’s only natural: you may have a clear head one minute and the next you’ll find that you’re thinking about what you are going to cook for dinner or how you have to go into work early the following morning. When it happens, let that be ok. Be aware of the thought and release it.
  5. Listen to your Stillness Sound. When you listen to a Stillness Sound or mantra, as you meditate, you connect with your mind on a deeper level. Your Stillness Sound will help you to achieve a state of relaxation right away and to start nurturing the sense of bliss that comes from your mind naturally wanting to dive deeper with that sound.

So there you have it, some simple tips to help you set up and maintain a regular meditation practice. Just as consistently as the sun rises every morning and sets every evening, we aspire to have that consistency in our meditation practice so that we can experience more bliss and calm in our lives. 

To find out more about our signature meditation program – 21 Steps to Faster Deeper Bliss – simply click here.