10 Tips For Better Relationships

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I worked for my previous employer for 26 years. Yup! One company for 26 years! Insane or smart it’s open to discussion.

Now that might seem ridiculous but most of my colleagues there were also employees for 20-25 years. We are talking about a money broker (like stock broker) company that employed young staff straight out of uni and even some straight out of school. So how did a company in finance manage to keep its staff for so long? What kept us from leaving to go somewhere else?

I believe they had a philosophy that should not only be embraced by companies all over the world, but also anyone with personal relationships.

Here’s why I think they had the keys to creating better relationships.

Recently I had a coaching client come to me in a state of disarray. He ran a real estate business and he had just had 6 staff members leave his company to go to another company. He couldn’t believe it, he was shattered. Partly because his revenues took a hammering and partly because his ego took a hammering. 

I asked him, “Were you offering them the BEST option available in the industry?” He looked at me dumbfounded.

“What do you mean?” He asked.

“Well, if your place of employment offered the best option for anyone wanting to be in real estate, then they would have no option but to stay with you. There would be nowhere else to go. They obviously left for one reason only, there was a better option.”

I have to give it to ICAP, my previous employer. They knew:

  1. That their bottom line was a result of good staff.
  2. You need to keep good staff.

It’s a simple formula. It’s really not complicated. So they did everything they could to keep their staff. Here are some of the added incentives this company laid out for us:

– A full time chef who made us breakfast and lunch

– Shower facilities with fresh white fluffy towels every day

– Personal trainers twice a week

– Team building weekends away

– Partner dinners for our extended family

– A family Christmas day for client and staff families

– A percentage share in profits paid to us quarterly in bonuses

Yes, other companies approached us all the time. And when you sit down with that ‘other’ company and discuss what they are offering, you weigh up not only the benefits that your existing company is offering you, but also the loyalty you feel to your company for their investment and goodwill in you. It became a no-brainer, and why myself, along with most other employees, stayed there for so long. 

The company I was with was the best option…. full stop.

How can this translate to personal relationships? 

Ask yourself, “Am I the best option for this person?” Or, “Can they get a better ‘deal’ elsewhere?” 

Sounds very technical and business-like doesn’t it, but again it can be quite simple. 

If someone doesn’t want to be with you, ask yourself “Why don’t they want to be with me?” 

It might be a misalignment in values or differences in lifestyles as people change and not always at the same rate. 

But it might be that you’re not offering them a very good deal. If that’s the case, what can you do to sweeten the deal? 

So rather than throwing in quarterly bonuses and some new fluffy white towels in the linen cupboard, here are some other ideas to help you be the best option for them:

  1. Be kind and caring about their well-being
  2. Be supportive in their life and encourage them with their goals
  3. Contribute financially where possible
  4. Be openly communicative, so they don’t have to always second guess what you’re thinking
  5. Bring lots of fun and laughter to their life
  6. Inspire them with new knowledge that you are discovering in your own journey
  7. Give them independence and personal freedom so they don’t feel caged
  8. Contribute to the workload around the home
  9. Be affectionate, passionate and tender
  10. Be accepting of their flaws weakness and vulnerabilities

These are just some suggestions that could help you be the best available option for them. There will be plenty more and I’d love to hear any other suggestions that you might have so please connect with me on Facebook or Instagram. I would love to hear from you. 

If they still want to go to another company or person when you feel you have offered the best option, then there are obviously other factors at play. But start by looking within and asking yourself if you are doing everything you can to be the best option for them.

Have you considered treating yourself and a partner to a retreat?

Our retreats are a powerful way to not only restore balance to your mind and body, but also a way to get clear about your future. 

You will eat incredibly healthy food, meditate, do yoga, receive massages and get lots of much needed rest in peaceful locations. In amongst this you will do workshops and talks that will help you map out your future and learn techniques that will help you make this become a  reality. 

These mind mapping exercises will help you overcome deep limiting beliefs that hold you back from reaching your potential. Attendees in the past have said:

 

“I can honestly say that my time at the retreat was the most rewarding and insightful experience ever. It fed my heart, soul and spirit and has allowed me to move forward in my life with great positivity. I feel blessed and totally inspired. Meditation is now a priority in my daily life.”

– Caroline

 

“The words life changing, inspired, excited, blissful, are only a few of the words that come to mind. I feel lighter and more at peace than I can ever remember feeling. I am free. So amazingly, liberatingly free! Free of expectations and limitations. Free of my past. Free of negative emotions such as hurt, pain, anger, guilt. Free of fear which held me back, and free of that little voice inside my head which kept telling me I wasn’t good enough. Look out world, I’m finally free to be me, the truest, purest version of myself and that version is pretty Goddam amazing!”

– Sandra

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How To Bring Back The Love On Valentine’s Day

Today is Valentine’s Day, a global day of celebration for love. Although for many people, whether they get a big bunch of flowers, chocolates or fancy dinners or not, feeling love simply won’t happen today.

There’s one big barrier to feeling love….FEAR. Having spent a lot of my life in some state of fear or anxiety I know all too well that the feelings of fear and love cannot co-exist simultaneously. We may feel one, or the other, but not both at the same time. We can have the most wonderful partner in our life but if we are in a state of fear or anxiety, then love will be absent and a feeling of disconnect will take over.

It’s a remarkable design of the body to protect us from dangerous situations. Our body’s primary objective over everything else is survival. If we are faced with a marauding tribe or a sabre tooth higher on the open plains, our body would immediately shift into sympathetic nervous system state. This would change the brain functionality from the frontal lobe of creativity and intuition into the survival mode of reptilian brain. Our breathing would change, our pulse would beat faster and our blood sugar levels would increase. But more importantly, our biochemistry would change. Our body will start pumping cortisol, adrenaline and norepinephrine into the blood and cut out any release of melatonin, serotonin and oxytocin. Oxytocin is the biochemical responsible for generating the sensations of love, empathy and kindness. When faced with a dangerous situation that may require you to fight or flee, the sensations of kindness, empathy and love are not going to be very useful at this point so for efficiency, the body shuts down any release of these biochemicals.

This is all well and good on the wild plains 10,000 years ago however in our nice comfortable and safe environment of modern day society, this extreme stress response doesn’t have the same requirements. I’m noticing ever increasing levels of anxiety, overwhelm and stress in the world today. With this will come reduced levels of empathy, love and kindness. This is a big price to pay, for a society without love empathy and kindness is not a society I’d like to contemplate too much.

There is a distinct correlation to feeling fear and egotism, ie. our attention being centred directly on ourselves. Anxiety and fear is all about the ‘I’, the ego. It’s extreme narcissism and when you are in that state of anxiety and panic, it’s very difficult to switch over to feeling love and kindness for others. In that state the ego demands all of our attention and everyone else’s needs get ignored. We shift from feeling part of a community, with the ability to feel connectedness with others, to being self-centred and self-obsessed. Anxiety and fear wreak havoc on our relationships, depriving the vessel of it’s most essential ingredient for it to flourish….LOVE. If even someone is showing us levels of love, in this state we are unable to feel it or acknowledge it.

There is a way to change this and it’s not by trying to feel love. That simply won’t work. Something has to happen before love enters the picture. We have to shift out of the sympathetic nervous system state to reduce fear and anxiety, so that oxytocin can be produced and love can prevail. If we want happy healthy loving relationships then we have to eradicate fear first. Sounds simple I know, however it does require some steps which I have listed here that can help reduce fear and anxiety in the body.

1. Twice a day meditation. When we quiet the mind, we move the body out of the hyper stimulated state of sympathetic nervous system state and into parasympathetic nervous system where the reversal of SNS occurs. The body spontaneously will produce more serotonin, melatonin and oxytocin in that quiet state. The challenge is that when we are stressed and anxious, sitting still in meditation can be quite difficult which leads me to the next step

2. Physical exercise. Work out, get up a sweat and burn off some of the cortisol! Sitting in a chair all day or slothing on the sofa aint going to cut it…you have to release those biochemicals that are expecting you to run from danger or fight your way out of it.

3. Re-wire your brain. Sounds like a complex process but really it means change the way you think. Our minds can default to fear based thoughts vey easily…mine certainly has a tendency to do this and so I’ve spent many years working on recoding my mind to think differently. Anxiety and fear is our mind distorting our currently reality and creating a fantasy world of future scenarios that aren’t real. So observing the mind and catching it before it leaps forward in to fear based fantasy land is key to being calm. As Eckhart Tolle says: “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and not enough presence.”

4. Connect with Being. This comes back to point one. In deep meditation we surrender our individual status and transcend all forms and phenomenon. WE become one with presence and pure awareness. We simply are. Amness. Being. Self. No story, no drama, no future, no past. In Being we become one with unconditional love. We discover we are love. It shines out of us. The ego or small self fades and what fades with it are all of its fear based sensations and thoughts. As Anita Moorjani said in her book ‘Dying To Be Me’: “I knew that was really the only purpose of life: to be the love that we are.”

Love is our essence and fear will hijack it from you. It’s like a thief that sneaks in and steals it from you and from your relationships. To reconnect to our lovingness, we have to remove fear first. Less fear more love. That sounds like a much nicer world doesn’t it? Happy Valentine’s Day!

 

 

Tom is a meditation teacher, author, corporate speaker and personal coach. He provides group coaching through his Zen Academy for Transformational Leadership. To find out more about joining this global community click here.

Should You Drink Caffeine?

I often get asked if I drink coffee, and the answer is no. But that doesn’t mean that you should or shouldn’t. In this video I share very briefly why I don’t drink caffeine and whether it is something for you to consume or not. Enjoy and any comments please drop them below.

 

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Earthing- What It Is And Why It’s Good For You

earthHey I don’t know about you, but lately I’ve been feeling FRAZZLED! When I say frazzled, I mean that state where you know your nervous system and body really needs to just chill out!
It could be all the wifi modems emitting data into the ether, it could be the traffic, it could be the bluetooth in my car, it could be the amount of computer time I’ve been doing, the amount of phone time or all of the above! When I feel my body responding this way I know its time to get grounded and Earth myself. This can be anything from walking barefoot on the grass or sand, lying on the ground or hugging a tree (yeh sounding very hippy here I know!)

This is called Earthing and it has huge benefits from:

  • Improved Sleep
  • Reduced inflammation
  • Reduced or eliminates chronic pain
  •  Increased energy and vitality
  • Relieves muscle tension
  • Lowers stress and promotes calmness in the body
  • Improved blood flow
  • Reduced jet lag

This connection to the Earth and nature has decreased over time as we live modern lives in cities, surrounded by technology, buildings removed further and further from nature. For many the closest they might come to being around nature is watering the cactus plant on the coffee table!

When I feel the need to connect more to the Earth I will make sure I have found a patch of grass that has no wifi reception (check this on your phone wifi connection) and no over head or nearby powerlines. Then I will simply lie down, turn my phone on airplane mode or off if I have it with me and sink into the ground. When I’m lying there I can feel the energetic pull of the Earth gripping me or hugging me into her. There’s enough magnetic pull by the Earth’s gravity on my body to create a pressure of my body against the Earth’s surface. Ah bliss! Then just lie there. That’s it.

After about 30-60 minutes of this I feel amazingly calm, grounded and energised. It’s super simple, costs nothing and has huge benefits!

Here’s a small clip for you that I made after one Earthing session I had yesterday. And if you have any other suggestions of how to Earth yourself please let us know below, we’d love to hear from you!

Enjoy!
Peace and light,
Tom
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Why Awareness About Mental Health Simply Isn’t Enough

smilingIn the last few years in Australia we’ve seen a rapid increase in organisations specialising in mental health awareness. Some are privately run through sponsorship funding and some governmentally funded. What’s inspired this growth is the dramatic increase in poor mental health in our society. These bodies are reportedly seeing huge increases in anxiety and depression across the population.

On one hand it is great that we are bringing awareness to this issue, but on the other hand, the question is….What are they doing about resolving the issue? Have we seen a decrease since these organisations have appeared on the scene or has the issue continued to balloon?

I applied as a speaker at one of the organisations a while ago, offering my services to support those who may have suffered with anxiety or depression. In the interview process, they asked me what sort of topics I would be discussing in my presentations, to which I replied:
“Effective strategies to overcome the debilitating effects of anxiety, panic and depression.”

“Oh No. We don’t like to discuss strategies, we are about awareness.” They replied.

I was a bit confused.

What does awareness alone do to help people recover from a lack of mental health? Don’t these people need strategies and a process to go through to help them recover and regain their mental health back? Apparently this was not what this incredibly well funded organisation was about.

Needless to say, they declined my application.

If someone sat down in front of you and they said they were physically unhealthy, would you talk about it or propose some steps they take to improve their health? No doubt, you might suggest they exercise 3 times a week, make veggie juices, go to bed before 10pm, stretch 2-3 times a week, drink 2 litres of filtered water a day, avoid drinking too much alcohol, decrease their sugar, gluten and processed foods.

It wouldn’t be a complex process but one that once applied would certainly bring about an improvement in someone’s physical health. It shouldn’t require huge amounts of discussion and awareness, just being proactive and empowered in making choices and presenting an option. Once they take that option and embark on those steps, invariably we see their physical health improve.

The very same goes for mental health. Being mentally healthy is a process. It requires action. It requires processes. It’s not complicated to get the basics of mental health. The foundation of being mentally healthy is quite simple and presenting the options to those suffering is the key to improving someone’s state of mind.

I once had very poor mental health. It’s certainly better these days than where it was. Is it perfect? No, I’m not sure we can reach perfect mental health. Are we ever going to feel happy all the time? (Maybe the Dalai Lama?? Even there I’d be surprised.) But by taking a series of steps and continuing with them daily I found that my mental health improved dramatically. So if someone does have a lack of mental health, what steps could they take to improve the health of their mind?

1. Read self-help books daily: There’s a Sanskrit phrase, yad bhavam tat bhavati which means what we think we become. By reading positive self-help books we continuously over-ride those negative conditioned thoughts in our mind.

2. Meditate daily or ideally twice a day: Meditation is like going to the gym for your body. It’s a work out and will help develop the mind into more positive space. Science has revealed that meditation increases grey matter, and the biochemical’s of serotonin and oxytocin that help you feel happy and calm. Meditation also helps move the body out of sympathetic nervous system state and into parasympathetic nervous system where it restores balance.

3. See naturopath and get your gut health checked: The gut is considered the second brain and if we have poor gut health this can affect our moods, leading to anxiety and depression. Issues like low healthy gut flora, inflammation and lack of nutrients all influence our mental health.

4. Avoid negative media and as much as possible, negative people: As per point #1, constantly being around people and reading media that is filled with negativity will affect your thoughts and your mental health. This isn’t always as easy to do, however where possible, make mindful choices about engaging in negative gossip, discussions and watching only the negative aspects of global news. There is a lot of good going on out there as well, only it doesn’t sell as well as negative news!

5. Gratitude daily: When we feel gratitude for the good things in our life it immediately changes how we feel. It’s much easier to see the negative things in our life than the good things, so it will require a structured process. I have gratitude journal by my bedside that I write 10 things I’m grateful for that day. It can be a small as having a hot shower, the warmth and light from the sun, the oxygen provided by the trees or your family.

6. Avoiding technology and going to sleep by 10pm: A good night sleep is crucial for mental health. The mind is a muscle and if it gets overworked it gets worn out and tired. Providing sufficient time each day for the mind and body to repair is key to good mental health.

7. Eating more organic healthy wholefoods: The brain needs to be fed nutrients and minerals to be healthy. If it’s starved it will suffer. I don’t subscribe to diets, but I do like to eat nutritious whole foods preferably locally sourced from my weekly growers market. Another way to feed the brain is with the powerful micro-nutrients found in Q96 Empowerplus. The vitamins and minerals feed the brain helping to reduce the symptoms of anxiety and panic.

8. Exercise: Yes this is a physical practice that will help physical health but it has been proven to also help mental health. When we exercise we release healthy endorphins into our body, increases serotonin, and reduces inflammation by detoxing through sweating.

Mental health means just that, a healthy state of mind. To achieve physical health, requires a regular regime or process, and the same too for mental health. We need to be proactive and embrace daily actions that constantly improve our state of mind. Bringing awareness about the poor state of mental health in our society, I’m all for that, but can we also offer options and strategies to help us all continuously achieve good mental health?

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7 Pillars For Optimal Health

healthyIt’s not long now until I turn 50. Seems strange to think of that number when I feel so young. Not only do I feel young, but I also feel the healthiest I’ve ever been. How is that so? Health is a process. It’s not a goal. Goals are something you reach, and then it’s done. Health is never done. It’s a daily process that I’m dedicated to and conscious of, where as lack of health more often than not is due to no dedication and unconscious decisions.

I want to clarify that fitness and health are two very different things. My friend is fit! He runs marathons all the time. But if he’s not running and training he’s battling flus and sleeping. Professional athletes are fit. I read an article on the weekend about Lauren Jackson the basketballer. She was fit! She was a professional athlete and paid lots of money to shoot hoops. But she was addicted to pain killers and sleeping tablets! Healthy? Or fit? You decide.

Of course, the body is fallible. It has limitations. And over time it will show signs of wear and tear. I have a tear in my meniscus in my left knee, some rotator cuff issues in my right shoulder, minor pain in my left wrist when I do downward dog and push ups and I now need glasses to read! Yep, the creaky old thing is showing the effects of age. But beyond that there is health. Health is vitality, zest, strength, aliveness, stamina, immunity, potency, lightness and energy.

To be healthy I have a 7-pillar program. It’s simple and I believe if you follow this 7-pillar program you will reach optimal health in no time.

1. Sweat. 2-3 times a week I will have big sweat. Either through training or in a sauna. I believe sweating is a great way to cleanse the body. I will sauna 1 hour at a time to really cleanse deep in the body with intermittent swims at 20-minute intervals. Be sure to drink lots of water. (See Step 4)

2. Strengthen. 3 times a week I like to lift heavy weights. There is something grounding, strengthening and empowering about lifting heavy metal to the point of exhaustion. Deepak Chopra says that lifting weights increases bone density and obviously develops muscle tissue and if great for longevity.

3. Stretching. Be it yoga or just stretching before bed at night or first thing in the morning is something I like to do every day. It could be as little as 5 minutes or up to 2 hours for a yoga class. Stretching opens up the tension points in the body allows the energy to flow more freely increasing immunity and vitality.

4. Hydration. 2 litres of clean filtered water to hydrate the body a day. Many people are suffering from dehydration, which will affect your adrenals, your immune system and kidneys and liver. I have a 2-litre BPA free bottle that I fill up in the morning and make sure I finish by the end of day. Take into account caffeine and alcohol do not hydrate the body, they dehydrate it.

5. Nutrition. Hippocrates nailed it when he said, “Let thy food be thy medicine.” There is more than enough information in the world today to know that clean organic fresh foods are good for you. Processed foods, sugary foods and trans fats aren’t. I will have 1-2 cold pressed organic vegetable juices a day and eat as much natural food as possible. Whether you are paleo, vegan, Ayurvedic, pescetarian or whatever, that’s up to you and I think everyone has to find what’s right for them. But under all that the same simple principles apply. Eat for health.

6. Sleep. There are not many people I meet in my coaching and training sessions that aren’t tired. I think the biggest imbalance we have on the planet today is fatigue. We simply don’t rest enough. (Guilty here!) Ideally I’d like to be in bed asleep by 9-9.30pm, but that rarely happens. I wake regardless around 5-5.30am, which is my body clock that wakes with the sun. I’m fortunate enough to be in a position where I can take breaks and nap in the afternoon. (Those Spanish were on to something!) Making sure we are rested and our battery cells are charged is key to being healthy.

7. Mental clarity and calm. Ok let’s cut straight to the chase, I’m talking about meditation here. Meditation has been a priority in my day for 20 years now and I won’t let a day go by without sitting in meditation. It’s like eating food, going to the toilet and sleeping. I don’t question it. It’s a non-negotiable. The body is a print out of the mind and if the mind is busy and filed with negative thoughts then this will transfer through into the body.

It’s not complicated. Following these steps has had a huge impact on my life. Of course there are times when I deviate from this and it shows when I do. Life isn’t rigid and you cant always fit everything into a day or week. But if health becomes a priority then you will probably find ways to fit most of these pillars into your week in some way shape or form. Have you got any other pillars that I might have missed out? Please let me know below, I’d love to hear them!

Happy health!

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The 4 Most Important Words That I Said To My Teenage Children

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I’ve been surprised lately that in 3 separate conversations where I shared that I had teenage twins, I received a response of “Oh you poor thing!” or “Far out that must be challenging.”
Yet it has not only been the most enjoyable period of my parenting life, but also the easiest!

So this made me ponder as to why my experience parenting teenagers is so far from other people’s expectations of what it would be like. Of course they are surrounded by lots of love and as parents we communicate to them how much we love them all the time. But I didn’t feel this was the only reason that parenting teenagers was easier than others expected.

Then it came to me…I realised it was 4 words that I constantly say to my children that has helped my parenting so much. I feel these 4 words help them feel empowered and they get to realise that in many respects, they are the creators of their life.

These 4 words were “It is your choice.”

Ok, so now you’re thinking “What? You just let them do what they want?”
No, definitely not. But we do let them know there is a natural law of cause and effect. Every action has a corresponding reaction, and it’s their choice as to what effect they want to cause.

So when you study and do well at school you receive accolades and good marks from the teacher plus lots of nice words and positive vibes from your parents. When you respond rudely to your parents or don’t do what we ask you to do, you lose your phone for a week (yes a HUGE pain point!) If you say something impolite or negative about a peer you receive in someway something negative back. When you do something good for someone, you receive something good back. I explained to my children that it’s a flow of energy. Good goes out, good comes back. Negative goes out, negative comes back. It’s all energy playing out in forms.

When we sit down together and go through examples of this they can clearly see how this works. They can see the sequence unfold in their lives everyday and it never misses a beat. So now they realise that they are the creators. They are empowered. They get to choose…negative or positive.

Of course, it’s not perfect. None of us are, but it sure has made a huge difference by empowering them to realise that it’s not US against THEM, rather them and the Universe playing together as energy. It’s a bit woo-woo I know but they get it over time 🙂


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7 Super Sonic Tips For Overcoming the Cold and Flu

healthyYou might remember years ago how a cold or flu would last a few days and then it was gone? (Admittedly I’m going waaaay back when I was a kid here.) Well I’ve noticed these days’ colds and flu’s seem to last weeks! We recently had a big spate of colds and flu go through Sydney and it didn’t skip past me either and one thing that amazed me was when I asked people how they were treating it I received 1 of three responses:
1. Nothing
2. Taking Coldral or Sudafed
3. Eating an orange
 
So today I’m going to share with you my supersonic tips for knocking a cold or flu out within a matter of a few days (Just like the old days!) Oh and these tips will be more effective the sooner you act with the onset of any cold and flu like symptoms.
 
1. Rest: The reason your body is sick is because it’s run down and it’s your body’s way of saying “You need to pause and rest.” It makes me laugh to see a recent advertisement for Codral cold and flu tablets where one woman is shown to have obvious signs of a cold, then she takes a Codral and with the jingle of “Soldier on with Codral, soldier on” she then proceeds to go swimming in a pool doing laps! With a cold and flu?? Seriously??? Get some rest, you’re body will love you for it.
 
2. High Doses of Vitamin C: One orange contains about 70mg of vitamin C in it. To really boost your immune system when it is at its low point during a cold or flu you are going to need to give your body a high dose of vitamin C. Some sources suggest 1000mg to maintain daily well-being and between 2000 and 6000mg a day to defend an existing cold or flu is recommended. The thing with vitamin C is that if your body doesn’t need the excess, it will simply flush it out when you go to the toilet.
 
3. Herbal Tonic: If you are in local distance to a naturopath or good pharmacist, you could do yourself a favour and get a tonic made up to store in your home for times like this. A powerful immune boosting tonic that I use is one comprised of Echinacea, olive leaf and andrographis. These three herbs combine to make a potent booster to your immune system to ward off the cold and flu.
 
4. Garlic: This simple spice will do wonders for your immune system! The respected research organisation Cochrane Database revealed in a study that those who took garlic daily had fewer symptoms of colds than those on placebo and when they did get colds they lasted for a shorter period of time. You might not smell so good however you will feel better quickly!
 
5. Water: When you feel sick you tend to not get as thirsty, usually because you are doing less activity and exercise. However it’s during this time that you really want to hydrate your body and help it flush out those toxins. There are mixed opinions as to how much water you should drink a day however in my research I have found that 2-3 litres a day will help you feel better.
 
6. Meditate: Deep restful meditations like Vedic Meditation or my Faster Deeper Bliss meditation will take the body into a restorative state of relaxation. This deep rest in meditation is a powerful healer during times of sickness. Usually it is recommended to meditate twice a day, however during times of sickness you could meditate as often as you like. This will lengthen your telomerase; increase your oxytocin and serotonin levels boosting your immune system.
 
7. Visualisation: Usually when we start getting sick people will say things like “I’m coming down with the cold or flu.” There is a Sanskrit saying ‘yadbhavam tat bhavati’ which means what we thing we become. So if you think this and wallow in it then you will become it. To shorten the length of the cold and flu, trying imagining yourself being healthy and vibrant. Really hold that vision long and hard after your deep meditation session. Of course you won’t feel healthy initially this but if you really focus hard on visualising and feeling it, then you will change direction you are travelling in and come out of the sickness more quickly. I’ve used this many times and been astonished at the results!
 
So there you have 7 tips to help you move through a cold and flu quickly! Give these a try and let me know how you go. And if you have any other tips to help recover quickly, please share them below, we’d love to hear them.

 

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My 7 Top Travel Tips To Get You There Replenished and Revitalised!

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So I’m writing this on the plane and felt inspired to share with you some of my travel tips so that you can arrive at your destination after a long haul flight feeling as fresh and energised as possible! Being on a plane in small spaces, breathing in recycled air for a long period of time can take its toll on your mind and body.

So here are some of my tools and tips for getting through those flights blissfully and healthily. The key to this is in the preparation, and for me, the process begins well before I even leave my home.

Here we go:

1. Abhyanaga: No this is not an Italian pasta. This is an Ayurvedic oil massage that I do at home before I leave the house to go to the airport. My body type is vata, which is a lean build, and the appropriate oil for my body type is organic sesame oil. If you have a strong athletic build use organic coconut oil and if you are prone to being heavy set, use sesame oil. So for abhyanga, I massage the oil into my skin all over my body, including face, then have a warm bath or shower. This creates a protective layer from the harsh air-conditioning of the plane and also soothes your nervous system during the long flight. Flying, changing times zones, and checking in and out of the airports can all be an intense time on your nervous system and this is a great starting point to soothe your body through this process.

2. Before boarding be sure to stock up on your water. Two large 1.5L bottles for flights over 8 hours would be recommended. Rehydrating your body through the flight is critical to arriving refreshed. Even if you don’t feel like drinking any more water, just keep drinking! (Some airports like Kuala Lumpur and Bali don’t allow you to buy water after customs and take it on the plane which makes this not possible unfortunately.)

3. Stock up on your healthy snacks. Lets face it, most meals on the plane are not going to be the healthiest. You’ll get a little tub of sweet orange juice, a tub of yoghurt, some crackers and cheese, a hot dish of something, to be washed down with coffee or tea. So if you avoid gluten, dairy, sugar and caffeine, things might be little tight for you. Pack things like tinned tuna or wild salmon, bags of vegetables like carrots, celery and cucumber, avocados and nuts.

4. Multi-vitamins and supplements. I might look like a chemist when I go through bag check however these bags of goodies are one of my essentials when it comes to flying. One bag has fish oils, vitamin C + B, zinc, probiotics and the other has my raw green powder from my good mates at Amazonia. Both help keep my body highly efficient through the long haul flights and thereafter.

5. When you finally get to your seat on the plane, the very first thing I do is meditate. Let’s face it, from the time everyone boards to the time the plane is up in the sky and you are able to access technology or drop back your seat to rest, it’s going to be a good 30- 45 minutes. No movies, no using computer, no music on your phone, so the best option here is to meditate. If you are on a long haul flight I would recommend meditating a number of times. This will help keep mind and body aligned and reduce symptoms of jet lag.

6. Noise cancelling headphones, eye patches and earplugs. Once you fly with noise cancelling headphones you’ll never want to fly without them. A good pair that covers your whole ear will cost between $200-$400 however it is a worthwhile investment. They reduce white noise in the plane and reduce the constant over-stimulation of the nervous system. When it comes to sleeping, I use a full eye and ear patch from The Sleep Master . These are heavenly and it feels like your whole face is in a cosy sleeping bag. I love them! molded earplugs that are like blu-tak that block out a lot of the sound when sleeping.

7. Set a schedule. Ok, I know this is going to sound very specific and structured but I found that setting a schedule and following it for the flight has made a huge difference to my flying. This may sound strange, but there have been many flights where I have had flight attendants tell me to put my things away as we are about to land and I would be not only surprised but disappointed that I didn’t get everything done that I intended to on the flight. So my flight schedule would be in blocks of 1-2 hours with things like reading my book, cleaning up my computer and phone (i.e. desktop, documents folder, unwanted photos and old emails), writing a blog or upcoming book, movie and of course sleep. Give it a try and you’ll see how productive those hours can be!

Flying can be a real drain on your body or it can be a productive and relaxing time without internet to take time out for yourself. A little bit of planning and structure to it and you’ll relish sitting in that confined cabin for many hours. If you have any other tips please feel free to share them below as we’d love to hear more suggestions!

One thing that has also helped enormously on flights is meditation. Let’s face it, you will be confined to a chair for a considerable amount of time and one great healthy way to use that time is to meditate. It has been proven that meditation has numerous positive effects on the mind and body from lowering high blood pressure, improving sleep to increasing serotonin and oxytocin. If you would like to learn how to meditate then try our meditation program called Faster Deeper Bliss. This program will have you meditating deeply anywhere anytime.

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NEWS ALERT! Doctors Discover The Solution To Health

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I heard something last week that totally shocked me. It was something that I could never have imagined coming out of a doctor’s mouth. Not only was I stunned, but very excited at the same time. It was a clear sign that things were changing in the health and medical industry!

It was a great honour to be invited to attend The Global Health & Wellbeing Collaborative. Sitting in on this round table were some of the heads of Australia’s health and wellness industry. The intention was to re-think and re-design our approach to health and wellness. The first thing that we were asked to do was to share with the room what health was to each of us. It was at this moment that I heard something that I never thought I would hear. The doctor to my right said true health comes when we are balanced and connected to our divine source. *Gulp!* Did I hear right?
Then to my left a prominent person at the foundation to one of Australia’s largest hospital’s said that health was achieved when we are one with the soul. *Eh?!* What’s going on here I thought?

Now I know this may astound or even upset you to hear some professionals talking like this. I must admit it does sound a bit out there and as some would say “woo-woo”. But why do we suffer poor health? Why does sickness come into our lives like it does? Why are our hospitals overflowing? Why are we not radiating with vitality and zest every day?

Anita Moorjani has recently had a Near Death Experience from cancer and she shares her insights on life in her book “Dying To Be Me”. Since the experience she says…
“I can’t say this strongly enough, but our feelings about ourselves are actually the most important barometer for determining the condition of our lives!”

Prior to her NDE, Moorjani was so afraid of dying. She thought she was the healthiest person in the world because she had daily wheatgrass shots, ate raw organic foods and avoided all the nasties like alcohol, sugar and gluten. What motivated her to be so healthy was a fear of getting sick and a fear of dying. Isn’t this what motivates most of us to be healthy? But what she found on the ‘other side’ was something remarkable. She discovered that death wasn’t to be feared and that she was simply love. In her words…
“I knew that was really the only purpose of life: to be our self, live our truth, and be the love that we are.”

When she came back from her NDE she had let go of any fear of dying. She realised that life is about reconnecting to the inner magnificence of the soul. Now that she had realised this, life was about sharing and living it. Is this what the doctor was talking about to my right? Will we be full of vitality and zest when we have discovered that?

Recently I spent some time looking at my shadow side. My attention shifted from my light and inner love to my flaws and weaknesses. I felt negativity seeping in my mind with seeds of doubt and fear. Within a day I could feel a sore throat and a cold coming on. It was a reminder of everything Anita Moorjani and the doctor beside me had said. I was becoming disconnected and my body was printing this out. It’s said that physical ailments are the fifth and final stage of an imbalance or a disconnect with mind and body.

The intention of the Health Collaborative was to find a way to inspire people to be in a space that the fifth stage wouldn’t arise. That is, to help people make that connection of mind, body and soul. When there is harmony there, our physical apparatus will be a print out of the divine light within us. It’s in this space that true health reigns within us. We all agreed this is not only going to be a process for all of us that were present, but for the community as a whole. Education, awareness and patience were some of the key ingredients to help this unfold.

Stay tuned to find out more of the results of our collaboration. In the meantime, take time out each day to sit in stillness, quieten the mind in meditation, and deepen that connection to your inner heart. The greatest challenge we face is being the love that we are. Start now and take it one step at a time. You are love.

To assist you with this process I have created a guided meditation called Golden Heart Meditation to help expand your heart space and feel more love. Check it out here…

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