6 Tips To Get You Through A Challenging Experience 

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Sometimes things just don’t go according to plan right? That’s how it was this week for me. You know those times when you think you have the script clearly written out and for some reason the other actors in your movie don’t seem to be following the script? What’s going on?? Why don’t you follow my script??

Life will throw some challenges at you.

Each challenge is the space where you get to either contract or grow. That is we either choose to be a victim or we choose to be empowered. If you choose to be a victim, it will be a long drawn out experience that could last days, weeks or even years! It will be filled with lots of friction, poor health and deteriorated relationships. If you see it as an opportunity to grow, you will pass through it quickly and come through the other side lighter and happier.

If you choose to be empowered, you will discover the challenge is an opportunity, one that is rich in knowledge. Coming to this realisation is the biggest hurdle. Once you overcome that big obstacle, and look for the nuggets of gold in the experience, you’ll go from seeker to finder. Getting through those times requires embracing a few steps or strategies. I’ve put together 6 things that I do when life isn’t quite unfolding how I expected it to. If things are tough at the moment, try these out, you’ll find it will flow more with less friction.
Here they are:

1. Pause. This sounds simple but pushing, fighting and struggling harder isn’t the way through. Pause. Sit and take a moment to just be. Instead of chasing life, allow some space so that life will FLOW towards you. When I am forcing things, I always remind myself, create a space and let it flow towards me.

2. Work Out. Yep, channeling any frustration, excess energy like anger, agitation, or fear into a seriously good sweat and work out is a huge release. This exertion will do wonders for clearing pent up energy. Not only that it transforms dark energy into something more positive and lighter.

3. Seek guidance. Somewhere in your life, there will be people that will be able to see things from a different perspective than you. When we are deep in the turmoil of our own situation, often it is hard to see the wood through the trees. There’s a saying, ‘when the student is ready, the teacher will come’. Be open to receiving guidance from someone who might offer some support and a different perspective. Is it your Mum, your Dad, your best friend, a coach or counsellor or a meditation teacher? You will find someone when you are ready for assistance.

4. Read. I have a huge library of books that I have drawn upon over many years to support me on my path. The words in these books hold wisdom and guidance that has been invaluable to me. People like Dan Millman, Eckart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Emmanuel, Marianne Williamson and Neale Donald Walsch (among many others) have all played a big part in helping me through difficult times. Here is my blog where I recommend 10 books.

5. Meditate. One sanctuary I always come back to is stillness. Amid all the fluctuations and challenges of life I have always found one constant…STILLNESS. The gateway to stillness is meditation. Meditation is my foundation that I build my life on. It’s in meditation that I am able to cut through those ups and downs of life and experience a freedom in the stillness. There is a sanskrit word nivartatvum, which means ‘transcend where you are’. Go to the stillness and find peace there.

6. Be Mindful. Mindfulness is looking deep into your thinking process. Ask yourself questions, look at the way your mind works, are those thoughts serving you? What is the nature of your thoughts? Mindfulness involves deep introspection into the nature of your thoughts and actions. Often we run on autopilot not even aware that we are thinking or acting in a certain way. Being mindful requires you to observe YOU, observe the things you do and the way you think, assessing if that is still serving your best interests.

Life will throw some curly ones at you. No doubt about it. But you can pass through these times and come out the other side elevated, wiser and lighter. These steps will help you. You may have  some other suggestions which we’d love to hear. So feel free to share them with us below.

In the meantime why you try my 10 minute guided meditation here called the Gentle Breath Meditation. All you have to do is click the button below. Happy meditating!

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10 Books That Changed My Life

BookshelfI’ve been asked a lot lately to recommend books to my readers and meditation students, so I thought I would share with you some of the books that had a big impact on my life.

Now there were literally dozens and dozens of books that I could list here, but as I scanned back through my library of books that I have collected over the years, these ones listed were the ones that I felt had the biggest impact on me.

In nearly every book I tend to find at least one nugget of gold, whether it’s the whole book, a chapter, a sentence or even a word. However there are some books that I’ve been given to read that I just couldn’t get into, so I’d put them on my bookshelf only to rediscover the same book a few years later and then I’d read in a  day!

So not all books are for everyone all of the time. You will know quite early on in the book whether it’s time for you to read it or not. Without judgement I just put them down and wait and see if they are right for me another time.

I recommend reading a book that will motivate, inspire and enlighten you every day, whether it’s before bed, in your lunch break or while your on public transport. You have 40,000-60,000 thoughts every day and the nature of those thoughts will be influenced by the words your mind is engaging in. If you are reading positive uplifting content then you will have positive uplifting thoughts. This will filter into your body and improve your health, your energy, your actions and what you attract in life.

So here are my top 10 books (not in order) that have had a big impact on my life:

1. Emmanuel’s Book by Pat Rodegast
Some of the most profound and insightful wisdom written in a very succinct and accessible way. There is a reason this book is number one!

2. Oneness by Rasha
A dense tome of insights by a soul that has walked this path before us. It’s choc full of deep wisdom that will astound you as you ‘re-member’ what you forgot.

3. The Bhagavad Gita with commentary by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi
There are many interpretations of this ancient dialogue between Arjuna and Krishna however for me this commentary by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi reigns supreme. This is a classic!

4. Perfect Health by Deepak Chopra
For me this is by far the simplest and most comprehensive insight into ayurveda. If you wish to keep balance and well being and learn all about your body type then this book is for you.

5. The End Of Your World by Adyashanti
This says it all: “Make no mistake about it- enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretense. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.” – Adyashanti

6. The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
Do you find yourself self sabotaging your life? Do you have a glass ceiling that you keep hitting and can’t break through. This book is the answer to you leaping beyond the void into your magnificence.

7. The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle
What can I say…the most influential book in the world today for living in the present. Amazing!

8. The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris
I read this book after I had been in my job in finance for 22 years. This book is the major catalyst for why I am here today doing what I love today. Ok Mr Ferris, it’s not quite a 4 hour work week, but I love it and I can do it anywhere anytime. Thanks dude!

9. Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch
Hmm, where do I start with this. It’s in number 9 but this is no means a measure of how important this book is. It’s a must for everyone! Is Mr Walsch talking with God, or is God talking through Mr Walsch? Read it and find out.

10. Green For Life by Victoria Boutenko
I recall that while I was reading this book I salivated for a green smoothie. When I had my first green smoothie I had a giggling fit as my body hit a high. (Seriously!) Since then, 8 years ago,  I have had a green veggie patch that has sustained my family with greens and we’ve had green smoothies every day.

So there you go…some of the most impacting books in my life. There are plenty more and I’m sure you would have some to share also, so please let us know below which books you rate the most in your life!

Speaking of books, have you heard of the 7 States of Consciousness? These are advanced levels of awareness that open up within us when we start to meditate. Most people live in only 3 out of the 7 states of consciousness. Why do we ignore those other 4 states of consciousness, how do we discover them, and what is life like when we do experience them?

All of this is revealed in my recent book Spirit & Soul. One reader named Phil says:

“Your book Spirit and Soul was astonishing in it’s clarity and simplicity. It is so revealing and inspiring.” – Phil

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