10 Books That Changed My Life

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I’ve been asked a lot lately to recommend books to my readers and meditation students, so I thought I would share with you some of the books that had a big impact on my life.

Now there were literally dozens and dozens of books that I could list here, but as I scanned back through my library of books that I have collected over the years, these ones listed were the ones that I felt had the biggest impact on me.

In nearly every book I tend to find at least one nugget of gold, whether it’s the whole book, a chapter, a sentence or even a word. However there are some books that I’ve been given to read that I just couldn’t get into, so I’d put them on my bookshelf only to rediscover the same book a few years later and then I’d read in a  day!

So not all books are for everyone all of the time. You will know quite early on in the book whether it’s time for you to read it or not. Without judgement I just put them down and wait and see if they are right for me another time.

I recommend reading a book that will motivate, inspire and enlighten you every day, whether it’s before bed, in your lunch break or while your on public transport. You have 40,000-60,000 thoughts every day and the nature of those thoughts will be influenced by the words your mind is engaging in. If you are reading positive uplifting content then you will have positive uplifting thoughts. This will filter into your body and improve your health, your energy, your actions and what you attract in life.

So here are my top 10 books (not in order) that have had a big impact on my life:

  1. Emmanuel’s Book by Pat Rodegast

Some of the most profound and insightful wisdom written in a very succinct and accessible way. There is a reason this book is number one!

  1. Oneness by Rasha

A dense tome of insights by a soul that has walked this path before us. It’s choc full of deep wisdom that will astound you as you ‘re-member’ what you forgot.

  1. The Bhagavad Gita with commentary by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi

There are many interpretations of this ancient dialogue between Arjuna and Krishna however for me this commentary by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi reigns supreme. This is a classic!

  1. Perfect Health by Deepak Chopra

For me this is by far the simplest and most comprehensive insight into ayurveda. If you wish to keep balance and well being and learn all about your body type then this book is for you.

  1. The End Of Your World by Adyashanti

This says it all: “Make no mistake about it- enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretense. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.” – Adyashanti

  1. The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

Do you find yourself self sabotaging your life? Do you have a glass ceiling that you keep hitting and can’t break through. This book is the answer to you leaping beyond the void into your magnificence.

  1. The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle

What can I say…the most influential book in the world today for living in the present. Amazing!

  1. The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris

I read this book after I had been in my job in finance for 22 years. This book is the major catalyst for why I am here today doing what I love today. Ok Mr Ferris, it’s not quite a 4 hour work week, but I love it and I can do it anywhere anytime. Thanks dude!

  1. Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch

Hmm, where do I start with this. It’s in number 9 but this is no means a measure of how important this book is. It’s a must for everyone! Is Mr Walsch talking with God, or is God talking through Mr Walsch? Read it and find out.

  1. Green For Life by Victoria Boutenko

I recall that while I was reading this book I salivated for a green smoothie. When I had my first green smoothie I had a giggling fit as my body hit a high. (Seriously!) Since then, 8 years ago,  I have had a green veggie patch that has sustained my family with greens and we’ve had green smoothies every day.

So there you go…some of the most impacting books in my life. There are plenty more and I’m sure you would have some to share also, so please let us know below which books you rate the most in your life!

Speaking of books, have you heard of the 7 States of Consciousness? These are advanced levels of awareness that open up within us when we start to meditate. Most people live in only 3 out of the 7 states of consciousness. Why do we ignore those other 4 states of consciousness, how do we discover them, and what is life like when we do experience them?

All of this is revealed in my recent book Spirit & Soul. One reader named Phil says:

“Your book Spirit and Soul was astonishing in it’s clarity and simplicity. It is so revealing and inspiring.” – Phil

 

Find Out How To Transform Pain Into Love

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Ok this may ruffle a few feathers but hang with me for just a minute. I was at Gabby Bernstein’s event last Saturday and there were a lot of people sharing their stories of pain, suffering, addictions, trauma and tragedy. Yes tears flowed and there was a supportive compassionate audience. I empathised with those attendees that shared their story because I recalled the time when I was experiencing similar things many years ago.

The question is, did the pain motivate them to buy their tickets to see Gabby? Did it motivate them to go in search for answers, to seek more love and more light in their lives? If so, isn’t that a good thing? I know it was the pain that urged me to start meditating each day. It was the pain that inspired me to change the way I was living and it was pain that inspired me to learn from others.

Is pain an essential part of our evolutionary process and something for us to not run from but rather embrace?

I recently had a green smoothie with a mate of mine who was telling me about a book called Antifragile. This book is all about how things can actually grow from chaos and disorder. In one review it says:

“According to the author, Nassim Nicholas Taleb, there’s an entire class of things that don’t simply resist stress but actually grow, strengthen, or otherwise gain from unforeseen and otherwise unwelcome stimuli.”

The principle here is that disorder, chaos, pain and challenges can actually lead us to a whole new level of growth. Think of this like two steps backwards then three steps forwards. Have you ever noticed a stock market rally on a chart? It’s not a straight line but a series of steps up, back, and then up again to higher ground. You can apply this to individuals, relationships, businesses and countries when there is openness and adaptability to progress and order.

Let’s look at some examples:

1. New growth is inspired after bushfire

2. A business that is struggling will look to change its operations and improve its margins.

3. A struggling relationship will start new levels of understanding and communication

4. You car isn’t running very well, you take it in for a service

5. You get the flu, and decide to rest and not push yourself so hard

6. You have anxiety and learn to meditate

7. You’re unhappy with your job and decide to find your life purpose and change careers

You can see these examples all through our society on a micro and macro level. In Vedic Philosophy there is an understanding that evolution has three forces operating within it. Brahma, the creative operator, Vishnu, the maintenance operator, and Shiva, the destructive operator. Shiva, this remover of irrelevance, is highly revered in India as it is seen as the key force of evolution. Without Shiva there would be no evolution. Shiva can be seen as this force of disorder that paves the way for Brahma, the creative force to enter and rebuild with a new level of cohesiveness.

Is it possible that rather than seeing disorder, chaos and suffering as a negative, what if we are able to see this is part of a sequence that evolution operates through? Each and every moment of discomfort is a guide to do something different and adapt. It’s our cue, a little (or BIG, depends on how resistant we are) nudge from the Universe to adapt and evolve.

I’ve been playing with this idea lately and there are many opportunities to test this. When you feel there is an area of your life that’s not feeling GREAT ask yourself, what is it inspiring you to change?  It could be the way you are running your business; it could be to do with your health, or your relationships. Which ever it is, rather than being glum and feeling crap about yourself, get excited that you are being guided to evolve and adapt. After all, there’s always and only evolution.

Yes, pain sucks. It hurts, and sometimes it feels unbearable. But it’s guiding us home. Isn’t that a gift?

If pain is guiding you to explore now areas of life and to make a deeper connection with yourself, you may like to try our 21 day meditation program called Faster Deeper Bliss. You’ll receive daily guidance from me PLUS receive 37 support videos, ebooks,  and a yoga video! By the end of this course you will be totally trained in the art of meditation and living a more peaceful happier life. We receive testimonials like this below every day from all over the world.

“Your 21 days of Faster, Deeper Bliss program is such great value and a stepping stone for anyone to a fantastic life. Your program has really struck a cord and really transformed my life in such a short space of time.  I am grateful I came across your program and I am hopeful more and more people find stillness and peace to connect better with themselves and their community.” Terri

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How To Find Enlightenment…

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Enlightenment is much closer to you than you think.

When I first heard about enlightenment, this utopian realm of equanimical bliss and love, I became hungry for that experience. This became my single focus. I wanted to have this experience. I read book after book, went to seminars, talks, energetic healing, chakra cleansing, retreats and I meditated day after day, all the while constantly in search of this nirvana.

Years went by and the bliss and lightness became more of my reality. This spurred me on with my quest. And then, one day, it dawned on me during one of my meditations.

I was experiencing spaciousness, bliss, timelessness, and egoless-ness. It was deep and still. There was no me. There was love and lightness, but no me. Then it dawned on me, that for all those years in my search for enlightenment, I wasn’t trying to find something. What I was really doing was not find something but lose something. I was losing my ego, my false identity, slowly day by day, dissolving the me that identifies with relativity.

What is the ego? It’s the identity that distinguishes itself as different from the ‘other’. It’s the identity that is defined by relating, through the perceptions of ‘others’ and circumstance. It’s the you that has highs and lows or that suffers when expectations aren’t met. It’s the you that worries about the future or regrets about the past. It’s the you that searches for a loving relationship,  the you that is ecstatic when you find it, and miserable when you lose it.

There in that moment in meditation, it became apparent that I had dissolved the ‘thing’ that was impeding my ability to experience my Self. This nirvana was me, is me, and always will be me. I am That. I ‘realised’ that I always was enlightened, it’s the core of who I am. How could I not see or feel it? It was blocked, hidden behind the veil of my ego. But through daily practices that veil slowly dissolved to reveal the very essence of who I was.
That is Light, Love, and Bliss. Non-changing Beingness.

You are already enlightened, it’s not anywhere but already within you. You are That.

Then I concluded my meditation, opened my eyes, and proceeded with my day, dealing with traffic jams, grocery shopping, queues, clashing trolleys, and snarling drivers. In the stimulation and activity, life returned to relativity and so to did the ego. I was responsive and affected by relating. And the journey continues, day by day removing the thing that’s not myself to reveal my SELF.…how fun!

If you’d like to find out more about how to dissolve the veil of the ego through meditation you may like to explore a 21 day meditation program called Faster Deeper Bliss.

You’ll receive daily guidance from me PLUS receive 37 support videos, ebooks,  and a yoga video! By the end of this course you will be totally trained in the art of meditation and living a more peaceful happier life. We receive testimonials like this below every day from all over the world.

“Dear Tom, Just to say you have changed my life! I started meditating with your technique in May of last year. I have been religiously meditating every day. My life has been transformed. I am a better, more peaceful, thoughtful, nicer person. In my 59 years on this planet, I have finally found IT through you. Thank you.” Kate

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Why Social Media Has You Addicted

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Do you check your social media at traffic lights?

Do you take your phone to the toilet?

Do you feel compelled to share an image of your meals on Instagram?

The reason you can’t help but post your feelings and photos on social media could go deeper than you think.

I was at the beach this morning and went for a walk on the rocks with my family when we came across these amazing rock formations.

It was really quite beautiful and I went to grab my phone to take a photo and share it on Instagram and realised I didn’t have my phone with me as I was in swimmers.

I was quite surprised at how disappointed I felt when I realised I wasn’t able to share it with you all.

Then it got me thinking. Why was I so compelled to share something as simple as a rock feature with you?

It wasn’t that exciting, I mean it was rocks! But I saw something beautiful and felt compelled to share it not just with my family, but with all of you also. This phenomenon is spreading like wildfire across the globe.

There seems to be a planetary shift where the world is drawn to sharing many of their experiences with as many people as possible.

Each day on Instagram I scroll through photos of green smoothies, cappuccinos, glasses of wine, fireworks, feet in the sand, flowers, clouds … it goes on and on. Is this the WE era Michael Drew talks about in Pendulum? In this book, Michael proposes that these cycles from ME to WE swing back and forth every 30 or so years. He suggests we entered a WE era in the early 2000’s and the creation of social media is part of this process. In the WE period, you will see the growth of communities, collaborations and sharing. There will be a sense of Unity, that we are all in this together.

Portals like Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Kik and Voxer are they manifestations of this energetic force of cohesiveness?

It’s impossible to deny that humanity is more technologically connected and than ever before. I have friends in remote regions of Bali, Burma, India, Albania and Kenya among many other countries. They are able to send me photos and thoughts daily through social media.

We can resist as much as we like but the shift is here and it’s going to continue to evolve. Cultures, religions, and traditions- all barriers of separation are slowly breaking down.

It just so happens that social media is one of the vehicles that is driving this process. Another one that is a big part of the WE period is meditation. In meditation we dissolve the boundaries of separation, whether they are ideological or physical. In meditation we transcend our separation and individuality and merge into the field of Oneness. We are also seeing the formation of large groups of people meditating together more often. These large group sittings of stillness such as Med Mobs and Stillness In The City are spreading across the globe as nearly as fast as social media!

If you have yet to start a meditation practice and would like to learn it’s really simple. Try our 21 Steps to Faster Deeper Bliss Program with a 60 day trial period.

You’ll receive daily guidance from me PLUS receive 37 support videos, ebooks,  and a yoga video! By the end of this course you will be totally trained in the art of meditation and living a more peaceful happier life. We receive testimonials like this below every day from all over the world.

“Your 21 days of Faster, Deeper Bliss program is such great value and a stepping stone for anyone to a fantastic life. Your program has really struck a cord and really transformed my life in such a short space of time.  I am grateful I came across your program and I am hopeful more and more people find stillness and peace to connect better with themselves and their community.” Terri

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How To Find Some Silence In Your Day

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When was the last time you had a bit of peace and quiet? Do you crave a little silence and solitude every now and then?

We talk a lot.

We probably don’t even realise how much talking we do. From the time that we wake up with our partner, kids, flatmates then onto workmates in the office, friends at lunch, after work drinks, then home to more family chatting. It’s a lot of talking and noise.

I recently was in Bali speaking at a conference called Awesomeness Fest when I came across a top guy named Rodolfo. We had some great chats and he was telling me about how he only recently returned to speaking after taking a year off in silence. Yes, 12 months in total silence! Amazing isn’t it? He exuded a very calm and serene aura, as you’d expect. He said the silence was very empowering and revitalising, as he had conserved all that energy that is usually spent on talking.

It reminded me of Nyepi, a Balinese day of silence held once a year. On this day all of the Balinese retreat into their houses from 6am till 6am the next day. Even the airport closes for the day, which is remarkable. This day is strictly followed and the only people walking the streets are specific officers who make sure the prohibitions are adhered to.

Embracing some silence in our life is a powerful thing. It gives us time to internalise, to check in with ourselves and ask us some questions. It’s easy to get distracted and continually look externally by engaging with the world around us. But with silence, there is no escape. It’s just you and that big spacious void! You can’t hide there.

How do you think you’d go a year of silence, or even a day of silence?

Here’s the good news. To embrace some silence you don’t need to close that mouth of yours for a whole year or even a whole day. Setting aside a little bit of time each day for silence is a simple and powerful thing to do.  I set aside moments of silence each morning and evening. Just 20 minutes each session.  This time of silence and solitude becomes the foundation for my day. It’s the silence that the noise is built on. Through a very long-term regular daily practice of silence, we are able to experience a duality of silence as well as the noise of your thoughts, words and actions. This duality is called Cosmic Consciousness, whereby the background silence of Being is simultaneously experienced with the foreground noise of thoughts and words.

Cosmic Consciousness is like the surface fluctuations of the ocean blended in with the deep stillness of the ocean being experienced as One. Activity and inactivity together. Impermanent and permanent together. It’s a very liberating state of mind as you are able to rise in the stillness and silence even while you are engaged in the world. Sounds too good to be true I know but it does exist.

If you’d like to find out more about how to embrace gaps of silence in your day then you might like to explore Faster Deeper Bliss. This daily silent meditation is simple and powerful. You’ll receive daily guidance from me PLUS receive 37 support videos, ebooks,  and a yoga video! By the end of this course you will be totally trained in the art of meditation and living a more peaceful happier life. We receive testimonials like this below every day from all over the world.

“Your 21 days of Faster, Deeper Bliss program is such great value and a stepping stone for anyone to a fantastic life. Your program has really struck a cord and really transformed my life in such a short space of time.  I am grateful I came across your program and I am hopeful more and more people find stillness and peace to connect better with themselves and their community.” Terri

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How To Awaken The Awe In Your Life

 

Are you living with AWE in your life each day? Do you marvel at the wonder of life? Are you feeling rapture?

I know myself how it’s all so easy to get caught in the routine of life, up out of bed, off to work, get through your emails, complete your daily tasks, then trudge back home again. The constant routine can numb your sensory perception and you lose the fascination and awe of the world all around you. As Mr Silva in this clip so eloquently puts it: “Overstimulation to the same kind of thing, the same stimuli, again and again and again, renders the said stimuli invisible.”

Check this clip out and enjoy the rapture!

If you’re able to still your mind and awaken your senses with a burst of the NOW, then you’ll discover that right here, right now is something so truly remarkable that you’ll laugh at how simple it is. If you’re like most people and have trouble stilling your mind, then you might be interested in learning how to quieten your mind here. This meditation will help you live in the now and experience rapture and amazement.

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