Why These 4 Woo-Woo Phrases Are Causing Confusion

This article was inspired by a conversation with a friend of mine who recently commented on a situation by saying “Well Tom, everything is perfect”. I stopped to contemplate this for a moment noticing a misalignment with that comment of his. It was such a simple statement and one we see daily on Instagram posts but I couldn’t let this one pass. No, everything isn’t perfect! Then I started to think about all the other ‘spiritual, woo-woo’ comments that have started seeping into our mainstream language and felt it might be time to clear some things up about them.

A lot of what we say and do gets programmed into us and quite often we find ourselves being molded by a collective movement of thinking, speaking and acting in a particular way. Before long we just naturally use phrases and terms without even thinking about them as they become part of our psychology. Off-the-cuff phrases and terms start to get deeply embedded into our society without us really contemplating the meaning of them at a deeper level. Some of these phrases can cause conflict or confusion in people and for this reason, I thought it important to share with you four phrases that I’ve noticed seeping into our society that need to be cleared up and possibly even removed from our daily language.

1. There is only the now.
I was once approached by a company wanting me to promote a watch they made that just had ‘NOW’ written across it, with no time. Very cute yeh, but I’m not sure how this would work when needing to schedule my meetings and workshops 🙂 Yes in each and every moment there is the present, however, we also have the past and the future which are an integral part of the evolutionary process. When the universe exploded from the ball of energy the size of an acorn, in that instant, time, space and matter were all created. Time is an essential part of that because it allowed a sequence to unfold and the game of life could then be played. The past plays an integral role in the process of evolution. For instance, if I put my hand on the hotplate on the stove and burn it, my ability to remember the pain of that experience guides me and reminds me not to do it again. Thank goodness for the past and our ability to remember! We also have a future, and I have the ability in this moment to create intentions, plans, and a roadmap for me to manifest in that future space. Our future is molded by our present thoughts and actions and therefore is also part of our reality. All three, past, present and future, need to be integrated into life and play a relevant role in our existence.

2. Everything is perfect.
Once upon a time there was only perfection in the form of an acorn size ball of pure energy. However, the perfection sought an experience other than itself and broke the symmetry to create imperfection and the Universe was born. Everything within the Universe became the antithesis of that perfection. Everything had the quality of imperfection. The oceans are imperfect as fish consume huge amounts of plastic, there are children starving in the world right now, there are women being abused, there are child sex slaves being trafficked, there are tribes going to war and yes, my car is imperfect, (there is a rattle in the right-hand door). All of this is imperfect. To say that everything is perfect is a loose statement that ignores the fundamental nature of the universe being manifest in its imperfect state. And although we will never get it to perfection we’re in the process of ironing out those creases. This is the sequence of evolution.

3. You are limitless/You have limitless potential.
Although this is a beautiful and inspiring statement, and at the subtlest level yes, beyond all forms there is the limitlessness of Being, yet this gets confusing for many people because it’s conflicting with what really is true. As a human being, we aren’t limitless and we don’t have limitless potential. I see many conventions and coaches talk about ‘your limitless potential’. This can lead many people to become disheartened as they continuously get let down by the limitations of life. If I ask you to jump 10 feet in the air you won’t be able to do that, if I ask you to manifest $500,000 in front of me you also won’t be able to do that and if your parents get terminally sick, you won’t be able to heal them. What’s important is we get very clear on what this statement means. There is an aspect of limitlessness within the universe which you are a part of and it is beyond form and beyond phenomenon. However, within our mind and body dimensions, we are contained and face many limits. Learning how to function within those limits, and embrace those limits will help us to be more accepting of life.

4. It happened for a reason.
When certain challenging events happen in our lives I often hear people going into deep philosophical questioning as to why that experience happened. And although we can learn something from every experience, there are some events that happened randomly and by sheer accident, and how we deal with that event is up to us. Floating around in the universe are trillions of objects like suns, planets, meteorites, moons, cars, humans, animals, ants etc. Some of these will collide by accident. Every now and then while you’re walking on the footpath or driving your car, there’s a good chance you’ve have hit a moth or trodden on an ant, causing a cataclysmic event in that insect’s life. Most likely the family members of that insect won’t be dissecting the experience going into the deep discussion as to why this happened. It just happened. We’ve started to make life very complex by having to have a deep spiritual understanding as to why every event has occurred when we can simplify things by just simply looking at the event and going yes it happened.

A recent report was published by Gallop that revealed that we are becoming angrier, sadder and more anxious and some of this might be caused by our incredibly high expectations that we are putting on ourselves to be spiritually perfect and reach a level of affluence that is way beyond our capacity. Yes we do have potential, yes we do have the capacity to make a comfortable life for ourselves, but let’s also be grounded and grateful for the current experience and accepting of the limitations of life.

You might know of some other woo-woo phrases that have seeped into our daily language that are causing confusion in people. Please feel free to share them below as I’m sure there are heaps more out there!

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The One Thing You Need To Do To Feel Fully Alive!

Norman Doidge, author of the Brain That Changed itself once said: “We must be learning if we are to feel fully alive.”

Our plasticity and changeability is one of our greatest gifts. We have this ability to grow and transform into something new all the time. Yet adding to this, Tim ferris once said: “People will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.” I know this feeling well! For 26 years I stayed in a job where I felt like a square peg in a round hole. The fear of leaving that certainty was greater than the quest to be happy. As the years went by I was becoming more disenchanted with my life and the work that I was doing. It showed up in my work as I became sloppy and made many mistakes. Management weren’t happy, I wasn’t happy and a spiral started to happen.

I felt trapped and didn’t know how to get out of there. We create these perceptions of who we are based upon our life experiences. I’d been a broker for more than half my life, what else could I possibly do?! I felt an inkling of what I wanted to do but certainly didn’t feel qualified or capable of doing it. You know when you get that mental loop going round and round in your head that is sabotaging your life? This was me! I kept hitting a glass ceiling then sabotaging everything by making poor choices that hurt me and other people. Years went by with these patterns until the discomfort became so great, that I knew it was time I had to do something about this. I wasn’t feeling alive, and as Doidge says, if I wanted to feel alive, I needed to learn more!

In today’s world, technology is a blessing and a curse. We are now saturated in data, we have access to an unlimited flow of information available to us in the tiny gadget that fits in our palm. Yet on the flip side, we can learn anything, anywhere and anytime. I have coaching clients now on remote islands north of Finland, Venezuela, Mexico and South Africa! There is no limit to what we can learn- from advanced spiritual practices, entrepreneurial skills, computer programming, macrame and animal husbandry! Vishen Lakhiani said in one of his recent articles that: “the trend is clearly showing that more and more people are leaning towards becoming transformational consumers, and are more likely to invest a lot more of their time improving themselves.”

This is the time to give birth to a new you. Here at The Stillness Project we put transformation at the forefront of what we do. As you can see by our new website! We felt it was time for growth, for change and for the new site to really embody more of what we are. We hope you like it! When we resist growth we will stagnate. Dr John De Martini once said “If you are green you grow, if you are ripe you rot.” Keep growing. Grow in your relationships, grow in your health, grow in your knowledge, and grow in your spiritual development.

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10 Tips On How To Heal From Depression

I was at a function last week and the discussion turned to the emotional well being of today’s teenagers. Someone in the group mentioned that they knew of 5 teenagers that had taken their lives in the last year. Adding to that I mentioned how I was also invited to assist with a high school in northern NSW that had 10 students take their lives in the last 2 years.
The sad news is this isn’t confined to teenagers. Its seeping across the whole of society. We have more affluence than we have ever had access to in the history of humankind and yet we have such unbelievable levels of depression and suicide rates. I know that statement means carries little weight though. I know what its like to be deeply depressed and contemplating if life was worth living, and having access to affluence didn’t mean a thing to me. I recall being curled up in a ball on my bed, in a dark misery and self loathing, thinking of the option of not living through this. At one point I was trying to think of all the reasons why I should be happy to help get me out of this state. I had a multiple 6 figure salary, a secure job, a beautiful home, a stable family upbringing, good relationships and on paper an ideal lifestyle. Yet I was miserable. I was deeply depressed. I contemplated not living.
Depression can hit anyone. Young, old, rich, poor. You name it. And yeh, it’s brutal when it comes knocking. There are many factors that contribute to depression as presented here from the Lifeline web site:
* Relationship problems or conflict – e.g. separation/divorce, difficult/abusive relationship
* Job loss, especially long-term unemployment
* Loneliness or feeling isolated
* Excessive drug or alcohol use
* Having another family member who has depression
* Having a serious physical illness
* Changes in how the brain functions
* Personality factors – e.g. anxiety, low self-esteem
Ultimately the end result is that there are low levels of oxytocin and serotonin in the body which leads to a feeling of sadness, depression, emptiness and disconnectedness. The good news there is a way out of that dark abyss. Admittedly there is no magic pill (some doctors may think otherwise) but with a holistic approach there is every possibility that one could come out depression and live a lighter, happier existence. Here are some steps that I took that helped me find my way out of depression:
  1. Daily meditation. This plays a huge part in me feeling happier again. When you are stressed and anxious your body doesn’t produce the happy biochemicals of serotonin and oxytocin. It will produce cortisol, and adrenaline which cuts off your happy chemicals. So the first step is to start finding ways to remove the stress response in the body and meditation will help enormously with that. You can use an app, online programs or ideally, find a qualified meditation teacher who will take you through the steps of learning to meditate.
  2. Regular exercise. This has been scientifically proven to change your biochemicals and increase your happy chemicals in your body. (Black Dog trial ) Not only is exercise good for the increase in happy biochemicals it also is a great release of stress which leads to calmer healthier body and better sleep.
  3. Yoga and stretching. Sitting in a chair most of the day and being stressed will tighten up the body and block the flow of energy through the body. Yoga and stretching will open up the body, calm the mind and realign the body back into a healthier space
  4. Avoid negative media and dark depressing movies and books. Where you attention goes it grows. So if we put our mind on negative depressing content, our mind and body will start to align with the energy of that.
  5. Get off technology and get into nature. Shutting down our phones, iPads, laptops and nature bathing is a powerful way to elevate your energy. When we are in forests, oceans, meadows…anywhere in fresh air and in the simplicity of nature, we start to sync into that local environment which will leave you elevated and enlivened.
  6. Get some natural supplements into you. The American Agriculture Association admitted that there is 60% less minerals and nutrients in our fruit and vegetables than in the 1960’s due to the amount of over farming in the last few decades. Not only that, society in general is eating less fruit and vegetables and more processed food. Boosting your food with supplements with vitamins, minerals and herbs can make a big difference to your moods. For professional advice on this seek out a naturopath in your local village or even try online.
  7. Speaking of foods, stick with more locally grown fruit and vegetables from your growers market, and eat plenty of clean organic live food possible. Avoid greasy fatty foods, processed foods, gluten, caffeine, alcohol and refined sugars where possible.
  8. Sleep! Sounds sensible however we are now sleeping on average less than we ever have. Sleep plays such an important role in healing your mind and body from the stress response and increasing your feeling of wellbeing. I’m all for the afternoon nap just for 20 mins also if you can fit one in.
  9. Open Up To Family and Friends. You may feel like withdrawing from the world, but it’s those precious relationships that make all the difference. When you share your vulnerability and connect, it deepens the bond with them and builds love. There are people in your life that care unconditionally for you. Reach out and let them in. (By the way, it’s been proven that hugs increasing serotonin and oxytocin)
  10. Be active. Sitting in a dark room or curling under your doona all day is what you might feel like doing but it’s not going to help you. Get up and get active. Start doing things. Buy some plants and plant them around your suburb. Volunteer at a local charity. Walk someone’s dog. Go to the zoo. Join your local library and read a book. Find a meetup group and join it. Mow someone’s lawn. There are plenty of things we can do each day that will help you lift out of that dark night and move forward.
Depression can not only take control of your life, but it can also affect many people around you. We can heal from depression, but it will require some action. Doing the same thing over and over again won’t bring about a different result. Keep trying new things, see what works for you. If you are suffering depression, it is recommended that you seek professional help. Have someone to talk with. There are many support facilities around the world that are there to help you through this. You don’t need to do this on your own so please reach out to someone for help.

 

Tom is a meditation teacher, author, corporate speaker and personal coach. He provides one on one coaching as well as group coaching in his Zen Academy for Transformational Leadership. To contact Tom about receiving his guidance or booking him to speak at your company click here.

How To Be An Inspiring Leader In A Turbulent World

Ken Blanchard, the successful author of over 60 books once said…

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.”

We are in changing times…

I’ve been invited to present a number of talks lately in the corporate sector, on leadership.

It seems this is a big theme of late as we are entering a very interesting time as the status quo in all areas of life is being disrupted on a daily basis and company leaders are having to keep up with the pace.

We are seeing the shared business model such as Uber and AirBnB challenge long standing business of taxis and hotels.

We have Ai and robotics which are going to potentially disrupt the employment sector, and then…

We have social media where everything is reported and very little passes public scrutiny.

Companies and their leaders are more accountable than ever before. A tweet, a Tripadvisor post, a Facebook rant can bring an entire company down very quickly.

So what does it take to be a leader in today’s world?

When I was asked to do a talk on leadership I researched some of the top leaders in the world today to see what they were doing and how they were doing it. Surprisingly the number 1 leader in a list of 50 inspiring leaders was a man that I had never heard of before! Theo Epstein.

Who is Theo Epstein?

  • He was the youngest coach of a Major League baseball team at the age of 28 when he was signed to the Boston Red Sox.
  • Within 2 years of his signing he took them to win the World Series for the first time in 86 years.
  • Not long after that, he was poached by the Chicago Cubs where he went on to win the World Series for them for the first time in 108 years!

How did this young man have so much influence over a team of players that inspired them to do something no other coach had done in 86 and 108 years?

Maybe this quote from him had something to do with it?

“When people do things they weren’t even sure they were capable of, I think it comes back to connection. Connection with teammates. Connection with organisation. Feeling like they belong in the environment.”

Theo Epstein brought together his teams and inspired them to reach new levels of capability that were always there, only it took Epstein to bring them out.

Famed musician Quincy Jones said…

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

This is a new era of Leadership! We can no longer rule with brute force or authority. It’s a time where our leaders lead with inspiration and influence.

What makes this challenging is fallibility!

No matter how high up someone might be as a leader, they still have fallibility. Which means they will…

…screw up

…make mistakes

…do something wrong

AND it will potentially be highlighted.

Our expectation of leaders is getting higher and higher which is a good thing, as it means we ideally should be getting better leaders, but it also puts immense pressure on our leaders to meet this high standard. And it comes at a price.

There are many days where I have beaten myself up for not reaching the level of standard that I and others set for myself.

I’ve made many mistakes along the way, and after pulling myself out of the dark night I look to improve and grow from the situation.

But often it’s a slow process.

So how can leaders progress during this time of intense scrutiny and pressure?

Being vulnerable and coachable is key.

Leaders need to be open to learning and growing. To do this they need to embrace criticism and adapt accordingly.

After each of our retreats we send out a survey to our attendees asking them how we can improve what we do? I also have a fortnightly coach that is there to help me see what I can’t see and inspire me to be a better version of myself.

I believe a leader also is able to be led…A teacher is always a student.

So what are some qualities that you would seek in a leader?

Here are 12 traits that I feel as a leader we should aspire to:

  1. Vulnerable
  2. Kind
  3. Calm
  4. Consistent
  5. Focused
  6. Polite
  7. Compassionate
  8. Strong
  9. Flexible
  10. Integrity
  11. Coachable
  12. Friendly

In some way shape or form, we are all leaders. We all have a sphere of influence, whether it’s with friends, colleagues, family or clients.

It’s not about putting people on pedestals but acknowledging the leader within each and every one of us. As Tim Ferris once said:

“The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.”

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How To Avoid Angry Confrontations

It’s very disturbing when someone gets angry with you isn’t it? Almost immediately you feel that charge in your body, your blood pressure increases, you feel the flush in your cheeks, your heart starts pumping and adrenalin is coursing through your veins. Your first reaction is aggression. You rise up to meet your challenger and you defend your ground and force back on them with equal if not greater intensity of anger.

Now we have a collision of angry energy that usually escalates as each party unconsciously is vying for supremacy in this angry battle. Before long the entire episode, that can take literally a few minutes, can not only change your day or week, but can severely damage the relationship for good.

The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way. There is a way to be a part of that exchange that doesn’t involve you dropping down into a negative angry space. And there are two really good reasons why it’s important that we do our best to hold our own space and not get influenced by other people’s energetic states.

Firstly, holding our own calm and compassionate space is much healthier for our body. When we change our emotional state into anger our whole body changes. We are moving into sympathetic nervous system state as your body is preparing for a battle. Your blood pressure increases, your breath rate changes, your heart starts beating faster, your blood sugar levels changes, your brain starts functioning from basic reptilian rear lobe, and your biochemistry changes as cortisol and adrenalin replace serotonin and oxytocin. Now our entire state of well-being and happiness has been removed and it could take the entire day to reclaim it back.

Secondly, when we merge our angry state with the person who is projecting their angry state onto us, we have removed any possibility of inspiring them to another alternative. There is no backing out now and what was one angry person is now two angry people. This can then have a multiplying effect as we share our new angry state with friends and family who can then also join in the angry movement. “Oh that just makes me so angry!” they may reply to your sharing of the situation. Now two becomes three and so on it goes like a nasty virus of mediocrity and negativity spreading across society. By not having autonomy and sustaining our calm non-reactive state we have removed any possibility of offering the angry person any other option. We missed the possibility of inspiring harmony and unity at a much healthier level. This is disempowering for you and not great for them.

So how do we avoid getting pulled into those situations? Well this is the challenging part that requires constant vigilance and awareness. The ego of course thrives in angry confrontation; this really enlivens the ego and gives it a sense of purpose. The ego is like woo hoo! I love this stuff! And then the ego hijacks your state. The key to preventing the ego from disempowering you is constant vigilance and awareness of what’s ego and what’s not. We need to differentiate between what is ego and what is our essential nature because if we try doing this by suppressing emotions, (a characteristic of ego) then that suppressed energy will seek a release in some shape or form at a later date.

Behind the noise of the ego is a silent witness, a quiet awareness that simply is. In Vedic teachings they call it AMness or Being. Connecting with that is done though the deep transcending meditation techniques that take the mind out of duality and into the silence, where there is no thought, form or phenomenon. Regular meditation will over time enable you to sustain the presence of this quiet awareness through even the most testing of times. Then when a situation arises, you will have your default state prevail and no ego hijacking you out of it into a reactive emotional state. From here compassion, kindness, rationale and calm will be able to prevail within you. This may help diffuse the situation quickly and offer some inspiration for your angry attacker as another alternative. If not, then the next best outcome is that instead of two angry people we only now have one.

A little disclaimer…this process takes time and practice. It’s not an overnight shift that takes place. Be easy on yourself if you find yourself getting swept away by emotional reactivity. And if in doubt, seek out some support and guidance through these situations that doesn’t involve dumping more anger onto your Mum, brother, colleague or best friend.

Oh and one more thing, sometimes we may need to respond in a firm forceful way. Certain situations might call for this. Doing this mindfully and resetting quickly back to calm after the incident will dramatically affect how you feel and it will wash you of the negative charge quickly.

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How To Create A Life Of Purpose

Crawling out of bed each day to face another day at work feeling bored, lacking vitality and meaning in your life is not the greatest way to start your day. If this is you, then it’s time to discover your purpose in life. Anthony Robbins says that humans have 6 major needs.
1. Certainty
2. Uncertainty
3. Love/Connection
4. Growth
5. Significance
And lastly, one that often left out, is Contribution. When we feel we are contributing in some way to the world being a better place, we feel more energised, motivated and inspired in our lives. I know this all too well having spent many years in finance with the sole goal of making a shit load of money. It wasn’t until I felt completely unmotivated, depressed and stressed in the process of trying to do this that I discovered this wasn’t the way to live my life.

For many people it can be daunting trying to take those first steps to finding a purpose in life. They have such big goals that can take many years to realise and so often will give up. In this short clip I share some simple ways to add more purpose in your life and make this a fun and simpler process.

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Why I Teach My Teenage Children To Be Rebels

Taj and LaurenI have a dilemma. You see I have two 15 yr old children (yes twins!). Wait, no, having teenagers isn’t the dilemma, although for some people they may feel having teenagers is! ?

No my dilemma is that I inspire them to push the boundaries, break the rules, question authority and be rebels, yet at the same time to adhere to the structures of living in our home and fitting into the rules and regulations of school.

This is not an easy task as a parent.

Why do I inspire them to be rebels? Because deep down I believe boundaries are meant to be leapt over, and some rules are meant to be broken. If I don’t encourage them to leap over boundaries how are they going to thrive and excel in life when their conditioned mindset is to be part of the pack, stay safe and don’t challenge anything? How are they going to find their own identity and belief systems when the are moulded by a hierarchal corporate driven society?

Sure, there are rules in society that are there for a very good reason. But there are many rules that restrict the growth of society as a whole. When these rules get challenged there is tension and friction, as the ones who set the rules push back on the ones that want to break them.

The challenge is determining which rules will enhance society and which ones will diminish society. I teach my children that there is this law called ‘karma’ which tends to be a pretty good force in this process. Many times in my life I broke rules, was a rebel and stepped across boundary lines only to have karma slap me in some way loud and hard. It was painful and I learnt a big lesson that that rule WASN’T meant to be broken. Trying to navigate through this mine field is not an easy process and most of our learning is through trial and error or developing intuition.

My son is a very talented artist and he developed a great affinity for graffiti. So I said that we would explore abandoned buildings together and that he was allowed to do graffiti art only on buildings that were going to be torn down and it wouldn’t have a negative impact on peoples lives. He agreed to these terms. Yes we were bending the rules but there were some rules within that. This was all working out well and good until one day he stepped over that boundary line and did some graffiti where he wasn’t allowed to. The boys in blue didn’t take too kindly to this and …..KARMA!

But I didn’t let this deter him. Sure he suffered some consequences. Me, the police and karma itself let him know that there was a boundary line you simply DON’T cross there. But deep down there was a part of me that was like, yes, push that boundary, test it and find out what’s on the other side. It’s ok. You’re going to screw up sometimes, and yes, it won’t always work out. But don’t let one fail make you spend the rest of your life living in the safe zone and never take the leap.

Get to the edge and peer over it. If you feel “Hmmm, nup, this is not right.” then trust that feeling and pull back. But if you get to the edge, peer over and go “Yup, I’ve got this and I know it’s a safe landing” then take a huge leap! If no one ever did this then Aborigines would still not be allowed to vote, African-Americans would still be sitting in the back of the bus and gay people still would still not be allowed to get married. (Technically in Australia they still can’t get married but I am putting on my prophetic hat and intending this to change very soon!)

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Earthing- What It Is And Why It’s Good For You

earthHey I don’t know about you, but lately I’ve been feeling FRAZZLED! When I say frazzled, I mean that state where you know your nervous system and body really needs to just chill out!
It could be all the wifi modems emitting data into the ether, it could be the traffic, it could be the bluetooth in my car, it could be the amount of computer time I’ve been doing, the amount of phone time or all of the above! When I feel my body responding this way I know its time to get grounded and Earth myself. This can be anything from walking barefoot on the grass or sand, lying on the ground or hugging a tree (yeh sounding very hippy here I know!)

This is called Earthing and it has huge benefits from:

  • Improved Sleep
  • Reduced inflammation
  • Reduced or eliminates chronic pain
  •  Increased energy and vitality
  • Relieves muscle tension
  • Lowers stress and promotes calmness in the body
  • Improved blood flow
  • Reduced jet lag

This connection to the Earth and nature has decreased over time as we live modern lives in cities, surrounded by technology, buildings removed further and further from nature. For many the closest they might come to being around nature is watering the cactus plant on the coffee table!

When I feel the need to connect more to the Earth I will make sure I have found a patch of grass that has no wifi reception (check this on your phone wifi connection) and no over head or nearby powerlines. Then I will simply lie down, turn my phone on airplane mode or off if I have it with me and sink into the ground. When I’m lying there I can feel the energetic pull of the Earth gripping me or hugging me into her. There’s enough magnetic pull by the Earth’s gravity on my body to create a pressure of my body against the Earth’s surface. Ah bliss! Then just lie there. That’s it.

After about 30-60 minutes of this I feel amazingly calm, grounded and energised. It’s super simple, costs nothing and has huge benefits!

Here’s a small clip for you that I made after one Earthing session I had yesterday. And if you have any other suggestions of how to Earth yourself please let us know below, we’d love to hear from you!

Enjoy!
Peace and light,
Tom
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7 Pillars For Optimal Health

healthyIt’s not long now until I turn 50. Seems strange to think of that number when I feel so young. Not only do I feel young, but I also feel the healthiest I’ve ever been. How is that so? Health is a process. It’s not a goal. Goals are something you reach, and then it’s done. Health is never done. It’s a daily process that I’m dedicated to and conscious of, where as lack of health more often than not is due to no dedication and unconscious decisions.

I want to clarify that fitness and health are two very different things. My friend is fit! He runs marathons all the time. But if he’s not running and training he’s battling flus and sleeping. Professional athletes are fit. I read an article on the weekend about Lauren Jackson the basketballer. She was fit! She was a professional athlete and paid lots of money to shoot hoops. But she was addicted to pain killers and sleeping tablets! Healthy? Or fit? You decide.

Of course, the body is fallible. It has limitations. And over time it will show signs of wear and tear. I have a tear in my meniscus in my left knee, some rotator cuff issues in my right shoulder, minor pain in my left wrist when I do downward dog and push ups and I now need glasses to read! Yep, the creaky old thing is showing the effects of age. But beyond that there is health. Health is vitality, zest, strength, aliveness, stamina, immunity, potency, lightness and energy.

To be healthy I have a 7-pillar program. It’s simple and I believe if you follow this 7-pillar program you will reach optimal health in no time.

1. Sweat. 2-3 times a week I will have big sweat. Either through training or in a sauna. I believe sweating is a great way to cleanse the body. I will sauna 1 hour at a time to really cleanse deep in the body with intermittent swims at 20-minute intervals. Be sure to drink lots of water. (See Step 4)

2. Strengthen. 3 times a week I like to lift heavy weights. There is something grounding, strengthening and empowering about lifting heavy metal to the point of exhaustion. Deepak Chopra says that lifting weights increases bone density and obviously develops muscle tissue and if great for longevity.

3. Stretching. Be it yoga or just stretching before bed at night or first thing in the morning is something I like to do every day. It could be as little as 5 minutes or up to 2 hours for a yoga class. Stretching opens up the tension points in the body allows the energy to flow more freely increasing immunity and vitality.

4. Hydration. 2 litres of clean filtered water to hydrate the body a day. Many people are suffering from dehydration, which will affect your adrenals, your immune system and kidneys and liver. I have a 2-litre BPA free bottle that I fill up in the morning and make sure I finish by the end of day. Take into account caffeine and alcohol do not hydrate the body, they dehydrate it.

5. Nutrition. Hippocrates nailed it when he said, “Let thy food be thy medicine.” There is more than enough information in the world today to know that clean organic fresh foods are good for you. Processed foods, sugary foods and trans fats aren’t. I will have 1-2 cold pressed organic vegetable juices a day and eat as much natural food as possible. Whether you are paleo, vegan, Ayurvedic, pescetarian or whatever, that’s up to you and I think everyone has to find what’s right for them. But under all that the same simple principles apply. Eat for health.

6. Sleep. There are not many people I meet in my coaching and training sessions that aren’t tired. I think the biggest imbalance we have on the planet today is fatigue. We simply don’t rest enough. (Guilty here!) Ideally I’d like to be in bed asleep by 9-9.30pm, but that rarely happens. I wake regardless around 5-5.30am, which is my body clock that wakes with the sun. I’m fortunate enough to be in a position where I can take breaks and nap in the afternoon. (Those Spanish were on to something!) Making sure we are rested and our battery cells are charged is key to being healthy.

7. Mental clarity and calm. Ok let’s cut straight to the chase, I’m talking about meditation here. Meditation has been a priority in my day for 20 years now and I won’t let a day go by without sitting in meditation. It’s like eating food, going to the toilet and sleeping. I don’t question it. It’s a non-negotiable. The body is a print out of the mind and if the mind is busy and filed with negative thoughts then this will transfer through into the body.

It’s not complicated. Following these steps has had a huge impact on my life. Of course there are times when I deviate from this and it shows when I do. Life isn’t rigid and you cant always fit everything into a day or week. But if health becomes a priority then you will probably find ways to fit most of these pillars into your week in some way shape or form. Have you got any other pillars that I might have missed out? Please let me know below, I’d love to hear them!

Happy health!

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7 Tips To Realize Your Goals

Girl-SilhouetteWant to get clear on your life and know where you are going? In today’s article I’ll share 7 tips on how to map and create your destiny. It was inspired by this recent conversation with a friend.

It starts like this…

Typical Instagram post by me of one of my stunning sunsets in Sydney. A friend replies saying:
“You’re so lucky. I envy your life.”
I reply:
“ What life would you like if not the one you have right now?”
To which they said:
“That’s the problem, I don’t know.”

Admittedly I do have a life I am grateful for…yes it has many challenges but it also has many beachside days, healthy living, a purposeful career and lots of love in it. But this wasn’t just an accident that it unfolded this way. My life didn’t just accidentally ‘happen’ and NO it was not always this way. It is a constant process of assessment and strategy to create (insert the word ‘manifest’ if you wish) something like this. Yes it sounds very calculated and technical but if you look at most successful, healthy and happy people they generally have a system or series of steps they took to get there.

In Tim Ferris’ book Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers he says: “The most important trick to be happy is to realize that happiness is a choice that you make and a skill that you develop. You choose to be happy, and then you work at it. It’s just like building muscles.”

So I’ve had to work to get to where I am and I have to work to get to where I am going to be in the future. There’s no end point, simply a process. Like I said before, beyond the Instagram posts of cleanly sliced avocados, turmeric chai lattes and gorgeous sunrises over a beach somewhere, everyone, me included, will still face challenges and difficulty. Don’t let that glossy facade fool you. So today I felt compelled to share with you some of my systems and strategies that I use to continually enhance my life and also move through those challenging moments to get to the other side of the difficulty.

  1. Vision Board. I’m a visual person so I need to see the images of the life I’m intending to create. This doesn’t mean that you’re not present and grateful for the life you have, but simply acknowledge that life is a sequence, there is a future and that you want to be creative and have some input as to how that will look and feel.
  2. Gratitude Journal. Each night before I go to sleep I write in my journal, that I keep beside my bed, 10 things that I am grateful for that day. It could be someone I met that day, the sun, fresh water, my family, and the food that I ate. So many things! When we are grateful and acknowledge the abundance in our life, the Universe reciprocates and sends us more abundance.
  3. Assessing my goals daily. Each day I write down my goals, financial targets for my business and steps I need to take to achieve them. You can get very specific and the more specific the better.
  4. Physical Regime. Looking after my body is essential. Daily activity of some sort from yoga, swimming, surfing, weights or a gym session are all part of my success strategy.
  5. Meditation. Yes this is key. Expanding the mind and accessing that field of infinite creative intelligence helps me find solutions to problems and impulses of creative ideas for my business.
  6. Self-Assessment. Hey, I can be my worst critic at times. Its often we tend to beat ourselves up and this keeps us in those recurring patterns of limitation and self-sabotage. So checking in with yourself regularly and remind yourself you are here to do great things, you are worthy of a great life, you have so much to give humanity and it’s time to let go of that fragile little kid inside and step up!
  7. Accountability and support. Having someone to guide you and support you on that journey makes a huge difference! This person will be able to see things you might not yet be able to see. They will encourage you in times of doubt, and push you out of your comfort zone when you are getting a little too…well…comfy!

For some, success and a dynamic life requires commitment and structure. Sounds very formal for some, and if it works for you to just wing it and see how it flows, then do that. But if that hasn’t worked for you then perhaps some of these steps above might help. You might have some other suggestions which I’d love to hear about! Please share if you do.

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