Why Your Set-Backs Are AWESOME For You!

resilienceHave you felt that life is a bit of a challenge lately?

Have things just not gone your way or turned out how you expected it to?

Some days you feel you have been knocked down and it’s just hard to get back up again.

I know, I’ve been there before. So you get glum, you think “Yeh typical this has happened to me.” You think life sucks and spiral down into a deep malaise. Next thing you are making decisions that support your new predicament and the self-sabotage process starts all over again. You’re not alone.

The other night I asked the 80 people that turned up at my weekly meditation session if anyone was stressed or struggling lately…guess how many put up their hand? About 78 of them!

A big theme popping up for me lately is resilience. It’s really fascinating me that if we have the ability to look at our challenges and setbacks in a different light then it could completely change our life! I’ve played around with this lately and it’s remarkable how it affects your mood.

I’ve even applied this to my clients during their mentoring sessions in the Inner Sanctum and it’s like a huge light was turned on in their head. For instance, one client came to me with all sorts of health issues and addictions. He was beating himself up about that fact that his life had become this way. He had been spiralling into a deeper mess until he decided to come and see me. So I said “AWESOME! I’m so glad that your life finally became uncomfortable enough for you to go and do something about it. And now here you are. Isn’t that great?!” At first he gave me the weirdest look but when I explained it he started to see the value in it.

This idea has presented itself three times to me through three different people lately, which means to me that it is very relevant. First I was given a book by one of the leading brand specialists in Australia, Glen Campbell called Thick Face, Black Heart. This book discusses things like you’ve never seen before…it deals with resilience, how to have thick skin in the face of criticism, and how to keep firm with your vision and get back up when you get knocked down.

Then I was discussing with a very good mate of mine, Avnesh Ratnanesan, who is the Founder of Energesse, a book he was reading called Anti-Fragile that I mentioned the other day here. This book is all about not being so fragile, and realising that the process of 3 steps forward, two steps back then three steps forward is actually the sequence of life and when you realise this and embrace it, you’ll move through the steps back with great resilience and come out the other side with a whole new level of growth.

Then finally, I went to a great 1-day seminar held by Sam Cawthorn. This guy is a dude! He died in a head on car crash 6 years ago. He was revived; he lost his right arm and severely damaged his right leg, spent weeks in a coma, then a year in a wheel chair. Sam is an incredibly resilient guy, and saw this incident as a gift that enabled him to find an inner strength that he may not have known was there without this experience. He became a motivational speaker and was awarded Australian Youth of the Year. Now he travels the world presenting motivational talks on resilience at some of the largest business conferences on the planet.

Think of it being like those blow-up clowns that are filled with sand in the bottom. No matter how hard you hit them they just keep popping back up again!

So here’s the opportunity to test this. Find an area of your life that is, let’s say, a current challenge. Now this might not be the easiest thing to do, but try feeling some gratitude that you are feeling uncomfortable. Say to yourself, “This is such a blessing that I am being guided to tap into my resilience and discover my strength.” There is nothing that you can’t handle. You can get through anything life throws at you, and people like Sam Cawthorn are a testament to that. Unleash your resilience and surge forward. Then if you feel compelled, please share with us below how you’ve overcome an obstacle lately. It will be inspiring for us to hear about it.

And if you’d like some support working through this then please consider our mentoring sessions here. These will support you, inspire you and help you break free of those self sabotaging ways of thinking.

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