5 Surprising Benefits of Meditation

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So we all know that meditation is good for us and has huge benefits to our daily lives, but did you know that science has also supported this view and found new studies to prove its benefits? 

Yup. Every day a new study is being released proving more and more of its powerful effects. Here are a few of my favorite discoveries that science has supported for meditation

  1. Reduces teenage angst

Let’s face it. Having a teenager in the house can sometimes be a bit of a challenge. (I actually have 2).

And while we can say it’s their hormones reacting, there are actually studies by the University of Leuven in Belgium that have proven that teaching your child how to meditate will help calm their mood and focus better on their studies. 

  1. Helps you sleep better

Having trouble sleeping? Be still and focus on your breathing because meditation actually helps you sleep better at night. According to a study by the University of Utah, meditation not only helps control our emotions and moods, but it also helps us sleep at night. The report indicated that people with higher levels of mindfulness had lower activation at bedtime, which could have benefits for sleep quality and future abilities to manage stress. 

If you’re having insomnia of any kind, remember to use stillness as a sleep remedy.

  1. Helps your doctors be more aware of their patients needs

They say a good doctor is one who gives that extra care to their patients and if you agree to this you’ll appreciate these findings from the University of Rochester Medical Center. According to their research, doctors who meditate are less judgmental, more self-aware and better listeners when it comes to interacting with their patients. So the next time you head to the hospital, pick a doctor who practices meditation to receive better treatment!

  1. Strengthens your immune system

When winter season rolls in it’s quite easy to catch the common cold for most people but did you know that meditation has proven to improve your immune system decreasing the chances of you catching the flu? Yup. A study at the University of Wisconsin has found that adding meditation on top of moderate daily exercise decreases a person’s chances of catching a cold versus someone who simply does neither.

  1. It makes you appreciate music more

Music lovers rejoice! New studies by the Journal Psychology of Music have found that the more time you spend on being still, the better you become at engaging music. This in turn will decrease your stress levels tremendously and help you notice a positive brain change.

Talking about meditation … I sometimes presume that everyone knows how to meditate … even though I’m a meditation teacher! 

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12 Quotes on Finding Light & Inner Peace

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I’ve spent more than 20 years on this journey of finding inner peace. It began in a very dark space, searching for a glimmer of light and over time the light increased and started to shine brighter and brighter. 

In that search, I listened and was guided by the words of wise souls that had found the light. I took time to read and reflect on meaningful messages that were written by various inspiring gurus and authors who were using stillness to connect with themselves.

As I read through their writings, I noticed a common thread. These thought leaders, gurus and authors seemed to agree on how they found light and peace – that one must seek for it within themselves and not through others

Would you agree?

From the likes of Buddha, Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson and more, these wise words have given me profound thoughts that have strengthened my mind, body and soul in my quest for light and peace. And I hope it does the same for you!

  1. “We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.”

― Dalai Lama XIV

  1. “Silence is the great teacher and to learn its lessons you must pay attention to it. There is no substitute for the creative inspiration, knowledge, and stability that come from knowing how to contact your core of inner silence.”

― Deepak Chopra

  1. “Let’s forgive the past and who we were then. Let’s embrace the present and who we’re capable of becoming. Let’s surrender the future and watch miracles unfold.”

― Marianne Williamson

  1. “Your own Self-Realization is the greatest service you can render the world.”

– Ramana Maharshi

  1. “Having lots of money while not having inner peace is like dying of thirst while bathing in the ocean.”

― Paramahansa Yogananda

  1. “If there is to be peace in the world, there must be peace in the nations. If there is to be peace in the nations, There must be peace in the cities. If there is to be peace in the cities, there must be peace between neighbors. If there is to be peace between neighbors, there must be peace in the home. If there is to be peace in the home, there must be peace in the heart.”

– Lao Tzu

  1. “You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.”

― Eckhart Tolle

  1. “Ultimately there is light and love and intelligence in this universe. And we are it, we carry that within us, it’s not just something out there, it is within us and this is what we are trying to re-connect with, our original light and love and intelligence, which is who we are, so do not get so distracted by all this other stuff, you know, really remember what we are here on this planet for.”

— Tenzin Palmo

  1. “When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.”

– Peace Pilgrim

  1. “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”

– Buddha

  1. “Looking for peace is like looking for a turtle with a mustache: you won’t be able to find it. But when your heart is ready, peace will come looking for you.”

– Ajahn Chah

  1. “I learned that the interior of life was as rewarding as the exterior of life and that my richest moments occurred when I was absolutely still.”

– Richard Bode

What are your favorite quotes on finding inner peace? Share them with me at the comments section below! I’d love to hear from you.

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10 Steps To Build Your Confidence

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Are you looking for confidence builders that really work? Confidence is a tool that can help you to overcome obstacles and leave a lasting impression. And the best part about confidence is that it rubs off on others. When you’re confident about what you’re saying or doing, you’ll come off as intelligent, successful, capable and even desirable. Confident people have no trouble attracting others.

Of course, even people who are regularly confident experience spells of low self-esteem or insecurity. The important thing to remember is that if you find yourself feeling unusually down, it doesn’t take much to give your confidence level a boost.

The following confidence builders can help you stay steady and self-assured:

  1. Peel yourself away from the mirror. 

Yes, you should devote some time each day to your appearance, but once you’re ready, let that be the end of it. Most of us have difficulty staying away from mirrors when we encounter them in elevators or bathrooms, but the less time you spend agonizing over every detail of your appearance, the happier you’ll be.

  1. Stand behind your decisions. 

Instead of hemming and hawing over miniscule decisions or jumping back and forth trying to decide what to do, try making a decision and going with it. This doesn’t mean you should start behaving rashly, but people who are confident and self-assured tend to know what they want.

  1. Work on your posture. 

Your mom probably told you when you were a kid to stop slouching and she was right. When you stand tall, with your shoulders back and your head held high, the impression you

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others. 

Don’t worry about anyone other than yourself. Who cares if your best friend is getting engaged or your neighbor just got a promotion at work?Dwelling on what others have achieved isn’t going to help you feel good about yourself, nor is it going to help you get ahead.

  1. Do things alone. 

It’s easy to feel sure of yourself when you’re out with a group of people or a boyfriend or girlfriend. But doing things alone can leave you feeling outside of your comfort zone. Try doing things alone every now and then to cultivate your sense of confidence.

  1. Practice meditation. 

By making your mind still, you can filter out defeating thoughts which can contribute to low self-esteem. Twenty minutes twice a day can have a profound effect on your confidence.

  1. Exchange online social networking for face-to-face social networking.

Do you spend hours clicking through photos of your “friends,” analyzing their outfits or who they’ve been clicked with? Instead of wasting your time online, why not get out and socialize yourself? Putting yourself out there and meeting new people can help you to feel more confident about yourself.

  1. Make eye contact.

Confident people aren’t afraid to make eye contact. When you’re talking to someone, practice staring that person straight in the eyes. You’ll give off the impression that you’re sure of yourself, confident, and intelligent.

  1. Dress your best.

If you feel good in whatever you’re wearing, you’re more likely to convey that message to others, too. Instead of going out in your old pair of sweatpants, put some effort into your appearance each time you leave the house. You’ll find that spending just a few minutes on your outfit will help you to step out with confidence.

  1. Feel wealthy.

Take the time to remind yourself of all you have. You may not be the richest, the most successful, the prettiest or the smartest but isn’t it better to just be yourself? When you appreciate the blessings you do have and stop being in a state of wanting, you don’t need to feel down about what you don’t have.

Start with these 10 steps and let me know how you feel

10 Tips For Better Relationships

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I worked for my previous employer for 26 years. Yup! One company for 26 years! Insane or smart it’s open to discussion.

Now that might seem ridiculous but most of my colleagues there were also employees for 20-25 years. We are talking about a money broker (like stock broker) company that employed young staff straight out of uni and even some straight out of school. So how did a company in finance manage to keep its staff for so long? What kept us from leaving to go somewhere else?

I believe they had a philosophy that should not only be embraced by companies all over the world, but also anyone with personal relationships.

Here’s why I think they had the keys to creating better relationships.

Recently I had a coaching client come to me in a state of disarray. He ran a real estate business and he had just had 6 staff members leave his company to go to another company. He couldn’t believe it, he was shattered. Partly because his revenues took a hammering and partly because his ego took a hammering. 

I asked him, “Were you offering them the BEST option available in the industry?” He looked at me dumbfounded.

“What do you mean?” He asked.

“Well, if your place of employment offered the best option for anyone wanting to be in real estate, then they would have no option but to stay with you. There would be nowhere else to go. They obviously left for one reason only, there was a better option.”

I have to give it to ICAP, my previous employer. They knew:

  1. That their bottom line was a result of good staff.
  2. You need to keep good staff.

It’s a simple formula. It’s really not complicated. So they did everything they could to keep their staff. Here are some of the added incentives this company laid out for us:

– A full time chef who made us breakfast and lunch

– Shower facilities with fresh white fluffy towels every day

– Personal trainers twice a week

– Team building weekends away

– Partner dinners for our extended family

– A family Christmas day for client and staff families

– A percentage share in profits paid to us quarterly in bonuses

Yes, other companies approached us all the time. And when you sit down with that ‘other’ company and discuss what they are offering, you weigh up not only the benefits that your existing company is offering you, but also the loyalty you feel to your company for their investment and goodwill in you. It became a no-brainer, and why myself, along with most other employees, stayed there for so long. 

The company I was with was the best option…. full stop.

How can this translate to personal relationships? 

Ask yourself, “Am I the best option for this person?” Or, “Can they get a better ‘deal’ elsewhere?” 

Sounds very technical and business-like doesn’t it, but again it can be quite simple. 

If someone doesn’t want to be with you, ask yourself “Why don’t they want to be with me?” 

It might be a misalignment in values or differences in lifestyles as people change and not always at the same rate. 

But it might be that you’re not offering them a very good deal. If that’s the case, what can you do to sweeten the deal? 

So rather than throwing in quarterly bonuses and some new fluffy white towels in the linen cupboard, here are some other ideas to help you be the best option for them:

  1. Be kind and caring about their well-being
  2. Be supportive in their life and encourage them with their goals
  3. Contribute financially where possible
  4. Be openly communicative, so they don’t have to always second guess what you’re thinking
  5. Bring lots of fun and laughter to their life
  6. Inspire them with new knowledge that you are discovering in your own journey
  7. Give them independence and personal freedom so they don’t feel caged
  8. Contribute to the workload around the home
  9. Be affectionate, passionate and tender
  10. Be accepting of their flaws weakness and vulnerabilities

These are just some suggestions that could help you be the best available option for them. There will be plenty more and I’d love to hear any other suggestions that you might have so please connect with me on Facebook or Instagram. I would love to hear from you. 

If they still want to go to another company or person when you feel you have offered the best option, then there are obviously other factors at play. But start by looking within and asking yourself if you are doing everything you can to be the best option for them.

Have you considered treating yourself and a partner to a retreat?

Our retreats are a powerful way to not only restore balance to your mind and body, but also a way to get clear about your future. 

You will eat incredibly healthy food, meditate, do yoga, receive massages and get lots of much needed rest in peaceful locations. In amongst this you will do workshops and talks that will help you map out your future and learn techniques that will help you make this become a  reality. 

These mind mapping exercises will help you overcome deep limiting beliefs that hold you back from reaching your potential. Attendees in the past have said:

 

“I can honestly say that my time at the retreat was the most rewarding and insightful experience ever. It fed my heart, soul and spirit and has allowed me to move forward in my life with great positivity. I feel blessed and totally inspired. Meditation is now a priority in my daily life.”

– Caroline

 

“The words life changing, inspired, excited, blissful, are only a few of the words that come to mind. I feel lighter and more at peace than I can ever remember feeling. I am free. So amazingly, liberatingly free! Free of expectations and limitations. Free of my past. Free of negative emotions such as hurt, pain, anger, guilt. Free of fear which held me back, and free of that little voice inside my head which kept telling me I wasn’t good enough. Look out world, I’m finally free to be me, the truest, purest version of myself and that version is pretty Goddam amazing!”

– Sandra

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7 Tips To Make 2020 A Great Year!

As we enter into not just a new year but a new decade, it’s a great time to pause on all the distractions and create a window of time to get very clear about your year and decade ahead. One of my favourite Sanskrit phrases is ‘yad bhavam tat bhavati’ which means what we think we become. It all starts here, with the thought, the intention and the vision. Then the manifestation of that thought into reality is what follows.

Making 2020 a great year is going to require some planning AND action. I like to put aside a morning or afternoon to dedicate some time solely to laying out my vision for the year ahead and getting clear on how I would like that year to unfold. It’s a process that requires a few stages so I have outlined 7 tips on how to create a magnificent 2020.

1. OBSERVE. Observe 2019 and ask what would you have changed about it? Einstein once said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. So if there are things that you didn’t like in 2019, and you don’t assess them and use that information to create change, then it could well be that similar experiences will re-occur in 2020. So scan back through the year and pinpoint the experiences or results that you would like to address or change so that they don’t reappear in the following year. Now I need to make a point here that this is not to look back with regret, pain, shame or suffering, rather look back from a place of learning, growth and possibility.

2. GOALS. Write down what your BIG HAIRY AUDACIOUS GOAL is for 2020. This is the one big thing that you would like to see happen by the end of 2020. It will be the one thing that in December 2020 you will be able to say, “YES! I did it!!” and possibly even do a fist pump at the same time having known you really stepped up and achieved something that was a great accomplishment! Think BIG!

3. FEEL IT. Feel like it’s already happened. To attract what you want, you need to be energetically aligned to the thing that you are attracting. So if you want to attract abundance, you will need to stop feeling poor. If you want to be in a loving relationship, then start by being loving. Your feelings are like a wifi signal that emit out into the ether and it draws into you similar energies or vibrations. This is one of the more challenging aspects of this process because generally our feelings are a result of our past experiences and if we haven’t had the experience then how do we know what it feels like? This is where your imagination will have to come in. I had a client who wanted to buy a house in a beachside town. They loved the idea but never imagined it would ever come true. I had them everyday imagine they walked from their home to the beach each morning and felt the sand between their toes and the sun on their skin and the sea breeze in their face. And within a year they had bought their home by the sea and were living that reality. We were given an imagination for a reason!

4. PLAN. Time can fly by and before you know it very little has been done to manifest your new reality. Each week you will have to carve out some time to make sure that your vision actually goes from a thought to a reality. I like to print off a weekly calendar and highlight the times that I will be dedicating to enhance certain areas of my life and also to assess my goals and check they are still on track. This can look like blocking out 3 mornings a week for a gym workout or yoga class. Sunday nights might be a 1-hour vision assessment session. Monday evening could be dedicated to going through your banking, bills and finances. Once you segment and allocate the time for these things it takes the stress out of having to get around to doing them and also brings more order to your process of achieving your goals.

5. READ. There are thousands of great self-help books to help you continue to expand your thinking and keep it positive and productive. Where your attention goes it grows. So if your mind is engaged in a positive self-help book it will be upgrading your thoughts a whole lot more than a trashy Netflix series. You could pick 12 books that you want to read that year and aim for one a month. Some suggestions to get you started are: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra and The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles.

6. MEDITATE. One of the most important things I feel you could do if you aren’t already doing it is meditate everyday. Meditation contributes to every area of your life from physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. But when it comes to expanding your perspective of who you are and what’s possible for in 2020, then meditation will play a big part. When you meditate your mind liberates itself from deep conditioning of old patterns of thinking that can hold you back with self-doubt and unworthiness. In meditation you may experience impulses of creativity and bursts of ideas that flow through you. Things like writing a book, a business idea or an impulse for an investment. Meditation isn’t about renouncing the world and having nothing, it’s a tool to help you tap into your creative potential and live a full life.

7. ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER. Find yourself an accountability partner who will check in with you regularly to make sure you are on track. It’s very easy to start on January 1st, 2020 with all the best intentions. Ideas are easy. Action, that’s another thing altogether. Action takes time and effort. To create a great successful life we will have to do things that you simply won’t feel compelled to do which means that often you will naturally take the easiest option which won’t always be the best option. An accountability partner is someone that you could meet once a month and assess each other’s progress. This might sound laborious however it does have huge benefits to it. Another option is to find a good coach that will do this job for you.

So here we are, we have farewelled 2019 and embracing a new year. A year that will have twists and turns, unmet expectations, highs and lows. It won’t be perfect and it will present challenges. There will also be magical moments of such beauty, simplicity and joy. I wish you a wonderful year ahead. Thanks for being with us on this journey through 2019. Here’s to making the planet a better place to live for all species in 2020.

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How To Give And Not Make A Mess

Are you one of those people that feels really uncomfortable when a friend pays for your meal?

Do you feel a sense of embarrassment when you are given a generous gift?

Do you squirm and feel uneasy when you’ve been given a glowing compliment?

Maybe you would much rather be the one that is giving, then you could avoid any of these unpleasant sensations?

It’s that special time of year when we do a lot of giving. For some people, they just LOVE giving. There are people like my parents, who most of their lives have given SO much to their family, the local church, the school and the community as a whole. It’s almost endless how much they give. This is a wonderful quality, however it can come with a downside also. Firstly, we can give too much, which sounds crazy, but giving too much can make others feel uncomfortable. Then there is giving and not being able to receive, which leads to an imbalance and state of depletion.

We are being saturated on social media by the likes of Gary Vee as to why it’s so important that we give, give and give more. ‘Be of service’ is the latest mantra being flogged to us time and time again. Which is all great, and yes it’s something that the world needs more of after we’d had a very ‘ME’ oriented society for so long.  However when it is done without balance and awareness, it leaves us flat stoney broke, depressed, low in energy and a lot of recipients of our giving overwhelmed.

Giving and receiving is an art form that requires a degree of mindfulness…one that I’m still learning. There needs to be a balance of knowing how much to give, and when to receive. We can give in many ways, like giving praise, the emojis at the end of our text messages, being of service with our time, sharing our money, imparting our knowledge, showering people with our affection and offering gifts. You’d think yes, just give, give, give. But it’s not that simple.

There are times when I have given too much affection, too much of my time, too many compliments or even too much knowledge, and it’s like overfilling a container, it gets messy and uncomfortable. If someone was to hold out a glass and asked you to fill it up, and you just kept pouring over the brim because you have so much to give, things would not only get messy, you’d most likely upset the person who held out their glass! Giving makes us feel good, which is why we do it…but there are a few other factors that need to be taken into account when we do this.

It is not what we are willing to give to people that’s important, it’s what they are capable of receiving. Understanding the recipients need is critical in knowing how much to give. This applies to emojis, affection, knowledge or anything else that we are giving. When we give too much, it leaves the other person feeling awkward, uncomfortable or overwhelmed, which in the end defeats the purpose of giving, right? Who would have thought the simple act of giving would be so complex?

Then there is the art of receiving. If we like to give, and yet we aren’t very good at receiving, then we are doing two things, firstly depleting ourselves of energy, time and money and secondly, we are depriving those people that also like to give the ability to experience that joy also. Receiving isn’t a natural trait for many of us. We can be programmed with a sense of unworthiness or poverty mindset, and receiving compliments, money, love, or affection can be incongruent with our ingrained belief systems which in the end causes us to feel uncomfortable. Learning to receive may require a process of over-ride deep conditioning through meditation and affirmations. What we can do is explore deeply within us and ask ourselves what program are we operating with? Then set about daily to not only shift these old thought patterns bit old feelings also. If you are always feeling poor or stressed about money, then this vibration will continue to manifest through your life and your decisions will be influenced by this inner feeling. So we have to take time out each day and get into this feeling and thinking body and work at shifting it to one of abundance and security, knowing that we will be supported and provided for. The Universe is infinitely abundant. So when someone showers us with any abundance we open our arms with gratitude and say ‘YES’ and THANK YOU’.

Giving and receiving is a delicate process that isn’t black and white, it’s a variable for each person and each situation, like walking a tightrope. Finding that balance is something we have to feel out. Some people hold out a big container and say, yes, fill it up, I’m open to receiving! Whereas others might hold out a tiny thimble and ask for a small morsel, and others might not be holding up anything at all.

How do we get this right every time? We won’t, but being a little more mindful through the process will go along way. It’s a work in progress and a balancing act that evolves over time.

Happy Festive season and may you give and receive joyfully!

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A Guide To Protect Yourself From The Stresses Of Those Around You

If you’re an empathetic person you’re probably having a tough time of late. A recent Gallup poll that surveyed 155,000 people in 140 different countries revealed that we are becoming sadder and angrier than ever before. This isn’t great for society and it isn’t great for empathetic people either. Being sensitive to the feelings of others and really feeling their pain, sounds like an honourable thing, but geez, it’s can be uncomfortable, and at times debilitating. Which begs us to ask the question, is empathy a good thing? If we experience the feeling of pain when others are in pain then aren’t we self-perpetuating more pain?

This is where compassion comes in. Compassion is where we understand that someone is in pain, and we feel love for that person or people, and our energy level doesn’t deteriorate. Compassion isn’t an emotion, it’s a state. Emotions are when we react to other people and circumstances. Compassion is a state that holds itself regardless of how someone else is feeling. Empathy is when you feel someone’s pain; compassion is when you feel love for someone in pain. It’s easy for us to sit and suffer alongside those that are suffering, in fact, it’s almost expected of us through our conditioning. Quite often the person in pain will want their partner or friend to also feel their pain so that there is a better connection. However, does that really help the healing, and support progress out of that state for all involved? Could Mother Theresa or Fred Hollows have done their work if they were emotionally affected each day by the people they cared for?

Compassion and empathy are very close to each other; they are both a sense of awareness about others and their state of well-being. But for empaths, one thing we have to be careful about is how much we allow that to deteriorate our own state. This requires mindfulness and practice to simply hold space for that person or group of people, to acknowledge where they are, and with grace, love and warmth, simply be there for them. This then becomes a guiding light and foundation of support for them, to release what needs to release, to feel what they need to feel, and be ok knowing its not causing suffering for you also. On the flip side, when its our turn to go through a challenging time, (and they will surely come), knowing we can lean on solid, unwavering support, someone who is going to be able to hold space for us and not fill us with guilt that we have turned their life into emotional turmoil, will be a welcome relief.

So how do we switch empathy to compassion? This is a process that requires some initial practise until you become more skilled in it if it’s not something you are familiar with. Check in with what your feeling body (read emotional state) is doing and mindfully elevate it to love. Love is the quality and essence of compassion. So pause and ask yourself, am I being pulled into their energetic frequency? Am I synching into their emotional state? Then from that unemotional place of pure love, simply Be there. Just Be. Give yourself the right to just Be. It will, in the end, be better for you and your health, and more importantly, be better for them also.

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Why These 4 Woo-Woo Phrases Are Causing Confusion

This article was inspired by a conversation with a friend of mine who recently commented on a situation by saying “Well Tom, everything is perfect”. I stopped to contemplate this for a moment noticing a misalignment with that comment of his. It was such a simple statement and one we see daily on Instagram posts but I couldn’t let this one pass. No, everything isn’t perfect! Then I started to think about all the other ‘spiritual, woo-woo’ comments that have started seeping into our mainstream language and felt it might be time to clear some things up about them.

A lot of what we say and do gets programmed into us and quite often we find ourselves being molded by a collective movement of thinking, speaking and acting in a particular way. Before long we just naturally use phrases and terms without even thinking about them as they become part of our psychology. Off-the-cuff phrases and terms start to get deeply embedded into our society without us really contemplating the meaning of them at a deeper level. Some of these phrases can cause conflict or confusion in people and for this reason, I thought it important to share with you four phrases that I’ve noticed seeping into our society that need to be cleared up and possibly even removed from our daily language.

1. There is only the now.
I was once approached by a company wanting me to promote a watch they made that just had ‘NOW’ written across it, with no time. Very cute yeh, but I’m not sure how this would work when needing to schedule my meetings and workshops 🙂 Yes in each and every moment there is the present, however, we also have the past and the future which are an integral part of the evolutionary process. When the universe exploded from the ball of energy the size of an acorn, in that instant, time, space and matter were all created. Time is an essential part of that because it allowed a sequence to unfold and the game of life could then be played. The past plays an integral role in the process of evolution. For instance, if I put my hand on the hotplate on the stove and burn it, my ability to remember the pain of that experience guides me and reminds me not to do it again. Thank goodness for the past and our ability to remember! We also have a future, and I have the ability in this moment to create intentions, plans, and a roadmap for me to manifest in that future space. Our future is molded by our present thoughts and actions and therefore is also part of our reality. All three, past, present and future, need to be integrated into life and play a relevant role in our existence.

2. Everything is perfect.
Once upon a time there was only perfection in the form of an acorn size ball of pure energy. However, the perfection sought an experience other than itself and broke the symmetry to create imperfection and the Universe was born. Everything within the Universe became the antithesis of that perfection. Everything had the quality of imperfection. The oceans are imperfect as fish consume huge amounts of plastic, there are children starving in the world right now, there are women being abused, there are child sex slaves being trafficked, there are tribes going to war and yes, my car is imperfect, (there is a rattle in the right-hand door). All of this is imperfect. To say that everything is perfect is a loose statement that ignores the fundamental nature of the universe being manifest in its imperfect state. And although we will never get it to perfection we’re in the process of ironing out those creases. This is the sequence of evolution.

3. You are limitless/You have limitless potential.
Although this is a beautiful and inspiring statement, and at the subtlest level yes, beyond all forms there is the limitlessness of Being, yet this gets confusing for many people because it’s conflicting with what really is true. As a human being, we aren’t limitless and we don’t have limitless potential. I see many conventions and coaches talk about ‘your limitless potential’. This can lead many people to become disheartened as they continuously get let down by the limitations of life. If I ask you to jump 10 feet in the air you won’t be able to do that, if I ask you to manifest $500,000 in front of me you also won’t be able to do that and if your parents get terminally sick, you won’t be able to heal them. What’s important is we get very clear on what this statement means. There is an aspect of limitlessness within the universe which you are a part of and it is beyond form and beyond phenomenon. However, within our mind and body dimensions, we are contained and face many limits. Learning how to function within those limits, and embrace those limits will help us to be more accepting of life.

4. It happened for a reason.
When certain challenging events happen in our lives I often hear people going into deep philosophical questioning as to why that experience happened. And although we can learn something from every experience, there are some events that happened randomly and by sheer accident, and how we deal with that event is up to us. Floating around in the universe are trillions of objects like suns, planets, meteorites, moons, cars, humans, animals, ants etc. Some of these will collide by accident. Every now and then while you’re walking on the footpath or driving your car, there’s a good chance you’ve have hit a moth or trodden on an ant, causing a cataclysmic event in that insect’s life. Most likely the family members of that insect won’t be dissecting the experience going into the deep discussion as to why this happened. It just happened. We’ve started to make life very complex by having to have a deep spiritual understanding as to why every event has occurred when we can simplify things by just simply looking at the event and going yes it happened.

A recent report was published by Gallop that revealed that we are becoming angrier, sadder and more anxious and some of this might be caused by our incredibly high expectations that we are putting on ourselves to be spiritually perfect and reach a level of affluence that is way beyond our capacity. Yes we do have potential, yes we do have the capacity to make a comfortable life for ourselves, but let’s also be grounded and grateful for the current experience and accepting of the limitations of life.

You might know of some other woo-woo phrases that have seeped into our daily language that are causing confusion in people. Please feel free to share them below as I’m sure there are heaps more out there!

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Tom is the producer and co-writer of the film and book THE PORTAL, which is an experiential documentary created as part of a bold, global vision to shift humanity out of a state of crisis. To watch the trailer and find out more about this project click here.

 

 

How to Cure Insomnia and Dive Deep In Meditation

If you are struggling to go deep in meditation or fall asleep at night it usually means the same thing…an addiction to thinking. I used to have the most chronic insomnia, taking me hours to fall asleep each night, and that changed dramatically to the point where I would fall asleep in minutes! In this short video I share some tips on how to fall asleep quickly and also go deep in meditation.

Going Deep In Mediation and Curing Insomnia

Are you struggling to go deep in meditation OR suffering from insomnia? Well in this video we cover both of these and how you can sleep better and go deeper in meditation.

Posted by The Stillness Project on Saturday, 6 July 2019

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Tom is a meditation teacher, author, corporate speaker and personal coach. He provides one on one coaching as well as group coaching in his Zen Academy for Transformational Leadership. For his 21-day, meditation program Faster Deeper Bliss click here. To contact Tom about receiving his guidance or booking him to speak at your company click here.

How To Find Your Life Purpose

During a recent coaching call, one of our Zen Academy members had a perplexed look on her face.
“Why are you looking so confused? What’s troubling you?” I asked.
“I literally I have no idea what my life purpose is? I just don’t know what I am supposed to be doing,” she responded in an exasperated manner.

You may also feel that lost sense of not knowing where or ‘what’ you are meant to be doing right now. It’s a dilemma many of us face, one I have been through myself. So many people are on the treadmill, feeling lost, turning up to an uninspiring job each day then coming home to watch Netflix. It’s very rare to find someone that is truly passionate about what that are doing and are really clear about their life purpose.

There is a way through this stage though, and I find it’s about stripping back to simplicity, and not over thinking it. In fact, the solution I feel is completely opposite to thinking, it’s BEING. But we will get to that in a minute.

Finding your life purpose doesn’t mean you have to go and quit your job, join a charity or go live in an ashram. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, finding life purpose and Self-Realisation comes way after the base needs of financial security and shelter. So being broke and not having a home to live in isn’t a good base for finding your life purpose. So regardless if your job is fulfilling or not, foregoing financial stability to find a life purpose isn’t a path that I would recommend. Stay in your job for now because this isn’t about what work you are doing it’s about how awake and aware you are.

Our primary life purpose is to discover our inner being. Over everything else, this is our number one purpose. We go through life very distracted by and attracted to the outer world, the world of ‘getting things’ and ‘having experiences’. This outcome oriented source of fulfilment is so compelling and luring that we tend to ignore the inner world of Being, which is very subtle. Being is the inner silence, it’s the source of wisdom, it’s the source of love and it’s Light. It’s eternal, it’s unshaken and it’s divinely blissful. It is also ever-present, only it is easily overshadowed by a thinking mind and feeling body. So for most of us the state of our inner being is ignored and undiscovered.

There are many ways to connect to this state of Being and I find meditation to be the most accessible for me. In meditation, we transcend the limits of physical and mental form and connect to the quiet of Being. With regular daily practice this awareness of Being and Presence will stabilise more and more. Once this becomes more established in our experience of daily life, then you will start to get impulses or cognitions that will compel you to express that wisdom, love and light in some way shape or form. It won’t come as a desire, rather more of a creative impulse that you will spontaneously act on.

So if there is no clear direction for you to express yourself through a life purpose, then keep connecting to the inner being in your daily meditation, go about your day with your job or what other activities that you are doing, and in time the impulse will come. It might be to write a book, become a nurse, do yoga teacher training, make a film (think long and hard about this one, it was much harder than I thought!!!) or it might even be that you join an ashram and meditate all day. There’s no right or wrong and after a while of that you may get another impulse to express Being in some other way. It will be a natural flow.

This is the greatest gift that we can give to the world- for you to simply transform from a stressed anxious angry person to someone stabilised in Being and feeling light and loving. This is your number one purpose to start with. Upon sharing that with our Zen Academy member on the fortnightly call, I could see a huge weight lift off her and she smiled and felt much lighter. All the complexity had melted away and simplicity remained.

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The Zen Academy For Transformational Leadership is a fortnightly coaching program for people who are ready to go out into the world and be a conscious leader. These sessions aren’t for everyone, they are for people who are open to diving deep into spiritual discussion regularly, are ready to take action when the impulse arises and are willing to make a financial commitment to be a part of this. To find out how you can join in on these fortnightly coaching calls click this link here and book in for a one on one call with Tom.